Love watching her humiliated

[SammySigns]

I've noticed I have no interest in the traditional cuckold side of things. But I do really get off on the idea of my wife being humiliated. Not like actually humiliated, but doing things that most people would find humiliating. Like sucking a guy off and swallowing his cum in front of other people. Obviously, that kind of thing is also humiliating for me, but not directly?

Anyone else get off on that kind of activity or similar?

[SensualDeviant]

I concur. Watching my wife naked except shoes and/or socks at a party with fully clothed men (CMNF) and allowing us to touch her nonchalantly whenever they want or a performance pleasuring herself, perhaps a video playing in the background of the last time we filmed her gangbang, etc.

[Tank Turner]

I never realized how common humiliation was until we found this site.

My wife and I believe that sex should be mutually enjoyable. Neither of us have humiliated anyone. Neither of us have participated in degrading or dehumanizing sex.

My wife and her sister love to be naked. My wife did a nude beach with two guys, once with a male friend and the following year a lot with her then boyfriend.

My wife told me right after I met her that nudity was normal and natural. She told me that sex was a normal and natural human function.

My wife loves to be watched while she's porn starring. She knew roommates of college boyfriends watched her while she fucked her boyfriends. They didn't know that she knew that they were watching. It turned her on to be watched. So she put on porn performances for the roommates. She's also a voyeur when appropriate, but she's more into being watched.

As long as everyone agrees, sex for orgasmic euphoria and as a porn performance is not humiliating.

[SensualDeviant]

Humiliation might be a bit strong of a word. Certainly not degradation.

I think it has more to do with embarrassment from objectification, the vulnerability that arises within a power dynamic with other people involved. I like creating that feeling for a sub, while also making her feel safe and comfortable being exposed like that.

BDSM can be rather complex and psychologically deep if applied with intelligent foresight.

[Tank Turner]

Hi SensualDeviant,

Thanks for clarifying that for me. I have no experience with BDSM dynamics. We have done bondage. My wife likes it more than I do. She's sexually submissive by nature. I am not into bondage because it limits sexual activities. I like her fully mobile so I can position her as I choose, which is usually bent over our bed or a variation of rear entry. Rear entry is her favorite position because it gives her deep penetration, and she can rub out orgasms while I'm banging her.

I completely agree with you about assuring women are always safe and comfortable during sex. Women seem to be most vulnerable during sex.

By a huge margin, my wife is the most sexually confident woman I have experienced. However, she's a woman. Like most women, she interprets words and actions through an emotional filter before they arrive at her reason and logic faculties. She's good with ass slapping, hair pulling, neck grabbing, etc. She's loves dirty talk during sex or as foreplay. She has a porn star fantasy with limits. She does not like hurtful pain. She would not be good with negative comments about her body or her sexual skills.

[SensualDeviant]

If you've done bondage, then you've done BDSM.

BDSM =
Bondage and Discipline
Dominance and Submission
Sadism and Masochism

One of the most important aspects of BDSM is consent. It requires a lot of communication and negotiation prior to play to ensure everyone understands soft and hard limits. Checking in during play and using safewords as necessary continues the communication process.

Using a BDSM interests checklist and then discussing it is helpful. BDSM is very adaptable to the needs and interests of the players; there is no one right way except what works for the players.

Btw, it is possible to restrain her in any number of positions, to include rear entry.

[SammySigns]

Yeah I don't actually want her to feel bad. Her being turned on is the biggest turn on for me. But I'm also turned on by her being submissive, slutty, and used up.

[bradisalpha]

I've noticed I have no interest in the traditional cuckold side of things. But I do really get off on the idea of my wife being humiliated. Not like actually humiliated, but doing things that most people would find humiliating. Like sucking a guy off and swallowing his cum in front of other people. Obviously, that kind of thing is also humiliating for me, but not directly?

Anyone else get off on that kind of activity or similar?

I believe Humiliation is in the eyes of of the beholder. It really depends on the situation.

I wouldn’t think a woman sucking a guy off and swallowing his cum in front of people would be humiliating.. I think that would be very hot !! Although, if she was made to do it against her will, it would be humiliating.

As a BF, when I am fucking someone’s wife while her cuckold husband is restrained and watching, he would feel humiliated.. (which, by the way, I enjoy).

Just sayin…

Brad

[SammySigns]

I've noticed I have no interest in the traditional cuckold side of things. But I do really get off on the idea of my wife being humiliated. Not like actually humiliated, but doing things that most people would find humiliating. Like sucking a guy off and swallowing his cum in front of other people. Obviously, that kind of thing is also humiliating for me, but not directly?

Anyone else get off on that kind of activity or similar?

I believe Humiliation is in the eyes of of the beholder. It really depends on the situation.

I wouldn’t think a woman sucking a guy off and swallowing his cum in front of people would be humiliating.. I think that would be very hot !! Although, if she was made to do it against her will, it would be humiliating.


Brad

It is super hot! One time, she was on a girl's trip out of town and hanging out at a bar. They were hanging out with some people and my wife ended up going home with a couple for a threeway. That definitely prompted some questions from her friends.

A couple years later our family was at a bar and our waiter ended up being one of the people she was hanging out with. He probably wondered why this mom and wife was having a threeway with some randoms from a bar.

[SensualDeviant]

Yeah I don't actually want her to feel bad. Her being turned on is the biggest turn on for me. But I'm also turned on by her being submissive, slutty, and used up.

Reminds me of Freud's Madonna-whore complex. We're attracted to the contrast between her being our sweet, loving wife but also a slut who enjoys being used like a sex toy.

[bltn1966]

My little wife is candid, witty and outspoken. Sexually speaking, she’s multi-orgasmic and very vocal. I felt something was wrong with me because I love seeing her get put into place. I remember her ribbing a young FB about being a country boy. She joked about him good in bed because he “practiced” with farm animals. After one too many jokes the guy chased after my wife. (It was all in a playful manner of course.) He ripped her from my arms when she ran to me for protection. Threw her onto the bed, bent her over and grudge fuck the living daylights out of her. The guy made my wife apologize for all the things she said. When she apologized he roughly pushed her head, face first, into the mattress and grudge fucked her again. My wife looked relieved but somewhat disappointed when the guy abruptly stopped. My wife playfully cursed me out for not rescuing her from the guy. But, that’s when I realize how much I love seeing her humiliated. She has a strong outgoing personality. It’s only right that I would love seeing humiliated.

[SensualDeviant]

I'm not into grudge fucks or angry make up sex at all. If you disrespect me or the people I love, or if you're antagonistic or a brat, I want nothing at all to do with you.

I'm also not into strong women who need to be taken and put in her place. Offer me your gift of submission because that is your disposition and desire, but don't make me chase you or play tug of war.

[SammySigns]

My little wife is candid, witty and outspoken. Sexually speaking, she’s multi-orgasmic and very vocal. I felt something was wrong with me because I love seeing her get put into place. I remember her ribbing a young FB about being a country boy. She joked about him good in bed because he “practiced” with farm animals. After one too many jokes the guy chased after my wife. (It was all in a playful manner of course.) He ripped her from my arms when she ran to me for protection. Threw her onto the bed, bent her over and grudge fuck the living daylights out of her. The guy made my wife apologize for all the things she said. When she apologized he roughly pushed her head, face first, into the mattress and grudge fucked her again. My wife looked relieved but somewhat disappointed when the guy abruptly stopped. My wife playfully cursed me out for not rescuing her from the guy. But, that’s when I realize how much I love seeing her humiliated. She has a strong outgoing personality. It’s only right that I would love seeing humiliated.

Hot! The first time for us she kinda sorta owed a guy a blowjob for losing a game of pool. Eventually, he was balls deep and she was orgasming and apologizing for losing the pool game at the same time

[bltn1966]

I'm not into grudge fucks or angry make up sex at all. If you disrespect me or the people I love, or if you're antagonistic or a brat, I want nothing at all to do with you.

I'm also not into strong women who need to be taken and put in her place. Offer me your gift of submission because that is your disposition and desire, but don't make me chase you or play tug of war.

Again…it was a playful manner. The young man tried to rib my wife back but he couldn’t keep up with my wife’s sharp tongue. Not sure what I expected him to do when he was chasing her. But, I knew he wasn’t going to physically hurt her. However I definitely didn’t expected him to grudge fuck her in front of me. NOR DID MY WIFE. When he slipped his dick in and started slamming her my wife looked at me as if she didn’t want me to look at her. Then right before she had a body shaking orgasm, she looked at me as if she was saying sorry for what was about to happen.

She was humiliated because up until then she didn’t think she would ever have sex in front of me. Now this guy is long stroking the shit out of her in front of me and there is nothing she can do about it. AND SHE WAS ENJOYING IT.

[SensualDeviant]

I'm not into grudge fucks or angry make up sex at all. If you disrespect me or the people I love, or if you're antagonistic or a brat, I want nothing at all to do with you.

I'm also not into strong women who need to be taken and put in her place. Offer me your gift of submission because that is your disposition and desire, but don't make me chase you or play tug of war.

Again…it was a playful manner. The young man tried to rib my wife back...

Playful or not, I find "ribbing" to be a turn off. My reaction would have been to just leave. That's not my kind of fun.

[bltn1966]

So if a lady laughs at the way your leg twitched when she sucked your cock it’s a turn-off? Or mimics the sounds you make when you cum? Lighten up my man. One time My wife jokingly told an older gentleman “slow down before your old ass have a heart attack”. That guy put her legs on his shoulder and commenced to pounding her hard as possible for the next few minutes. He definitely made her eat her words and she enjoyed every minute of it.


Another guy had sex with her in some crazy positions. So now whenever my wife see him in public she playfully start stretching and doing calisthenics. She told him she’s getting ready for the next time they get together. That’s some good ribbing. I love it.

[SensualDeviant]

No. I do not want to be intimate with any woman who disrespects me.

If you disrespect me, you're cut out of my life. Simple as that. My dignity is that valuable to me.

[steve_x]

This is an interesting example of humiliation. I would never consider watching my SO perform oral humiliating, and an audience is half the fun of the club.

She's become much more confident in her skin from all this and loves being seen.

[bradisalpha]

No. I do not want to be intimate with any woman who disrespects me.

If you disrespect me, you're cut out of my life. Simple as that. My dignity is that valuable to me.

We’ve got it.. you want a floor mat !! You're a hard ass !! You’ve convinced us !! And we will respect your choices as soon as you respect ours !!

Brad

[SammySigns]

This is an interesting example of humiliation. I would never consider watching my SO perform oral humiliating, and an audience is half the fun of the club.

She's become much more confident in her skin from all this and loves being seen.

What if it's not at the club?

[steve_x]

What if it's not at the club?

I'm sure we could work up the specifics of a humiliating situation. It just felt like OP considers it humiliating in the general sense and maybe we need to put some criteria around what the draw is.

[JeffCA]

I've noticed I have no interest in the traditional cuckold side of things. But I do really get off on the idea of my wife being humiliated. Not like actually humiliated, but doing things that most people would find humiliating. Like sucking a guy off and swallowing his cum in front of other people. Obviously, that kind of thing is also humiliating for me, but not directly?

Anyone else get off on that kind of activity or similar?

sammysigns, you raise an interesting question. Plenty of couples enjoy the lifestyle so another man can use the wife really hard or dominantly. Sure, a married couple may have a husband and wife that have D/S sex, but some don't and they enjoy bringing other people in to experience it. Glad you brought up the this topic.

[EightBits]

Great topic! I think that, at least in some fashion, is pretty common in the hotwife realm.

As JeffCA points out, for some people hotwifing, or even sometimes swinging, can be about getting a style that the wife doesn't get from the husband. That does not have to mean that the husband is lacking of course, it may just not be his thing. Or, it may be impossible, such as a gang-bang. Tough for any guy, no matter how studly, to do that all on his own!

Sometimes the humiliation can be just doing something that the wife (and maybe the husband) considers to be proper only with her husband.
"Get down there and suck my cock" can feel quite different when it's a stranger and not her husband "ordering" the wife around.
(Ordering in a role-playing way, not violating consent etc.)

Even just being called a "sexy slut" can play differently. Husband might say those words with affectionate familiarity, but a stranger that picked her up in a bar is probably neither affectionate or familiar, so some level of humiliation is implied.

[EightBits]

Lol, just realized I didn't really answer the original question. Yes, some of us definitely do find that humiliation hot in the right context.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum EightBits.