Our Hotwives

I will try to be brief but no promises. We used to play with others. We actually used craigslist personals. It has been a few years and we would like to start again.

My problem is my wife dosnt want to do stranger's anymore. I agree. We did some less than safe stuff and probably shouldn't test our luck.

She has zero attraction for any of my actual friends with the exception of one who is not interested in fucking a friends wife.

So I need to make new friends. I have no problem making friends I am outgoing, talkative and nice but I would prefer to make friends with someone I know my wife would like and hopefully would like her.

How do I find like minded men to befriend? Like where should I go? Personals? How do I even begin the search.

Go to swingers parties and polyamorous events and be up front about what you're looking for. Try Meetup or even Fetlife. Word of mouth at a swingers club (some big cities have them) could get you invites to private parties.

You could also try the swinger personals swinglifestyle and again just be forthright in your profile.

Clubs are a no go. Our area is the best for that. I don't think she would want to go to meet people. But I will ask. It never hurts to ask.

I could make a profile and see where it lands on one of the sites. Definitely won't hurt.

I mean, if you go out and make friends in the lifestyle (as swingers call it), and then later you introduce your wife, she would in fact be meeting your friends.

Well that was quick. I found out I have a friend she likes. So I don't have to go searching. I do have to convince him it's OK.

Wish me luck

Any progress with your friend? How did you or planning to approach your friend about your situation?

As a woman, usually when a wife is available the men pick up on it really quickly. So I would think having a friend that she likes is to be expected. So often husbands have a tendency to overlook what their woman is wanting or thinking. Women have learned how to get men to recognize their wants in more subtle ways. Since you were surprised It seems you didn't;t bother to ask her. But it is good you did now. Most women have very little trouble finding guys to have sex with ... it is finding guys you have connection with that is the hard part.

the friendship part is established when the Bulls are removing Hannah's clothes and groping her

SensualDeviant wrote: ↑

Mon Aug 04, 2025 2:19 pm

Go to swingers parties and polyamorous events and be up front about what you're looking for. Try Meetup or even Fetlife. Word of mouth at a swingers club (some big cities have them) could get you invites to private parties.

You could also try the swinger personals swinglifestyle and again just be forthright in your profile.

I tell people cast a net far and wide. It's a numbers game with increasingly small returns based on your search criteria.

Don't be a big game hunter going on to try and score that once in a blue moon elephant, instead be a vegetable farmer who plants for the upcoming season.

I use many different apps. I'm clear about what I am about, (Ethically non-monogamous, Stag, Poly and a swinger). Swingers can be judgy about "catching feelings", Poly can be super judgy about swinging, Stag you're always fending off the cucks, etc. So after about 20 years of doing this, I've found a core group of friends that the Venn diagram of my interests works really well. I also fill my needs and wants by committee, not any single person. Now I'm not actively searching all the time, but I have my system set up so that if something interesting comes along, I can pursue it.

Be my friend!

Bodenn78 wrote: ↑

Mon Aug 11, 2025 2:39 pm

Well that was quick. I found out I have a friend she likes. So I don't have to go searching. I do have to convince him it's OK.

Wish me luck

Good luck! The only thing to keep in mind is that the word may get out since your friend knows other friends etc. My wife is seeing her close friend and I think a few other people may know about it but I'm not 100% sure.

A "friend" who judges your sexual life and choices as a couple is not someone you would want as a friend.

I can be a friend who respects boundaries!

best to have a first time sharing experience with a complete stranger? or does the 'trust' that comes with knowing the person important?