J, or you can use my nick. I am married for the last 20 years, I am 51 years old and my wife is 43 years old. We live in the north of Spain.Our story is a bit long and I don't want to get into too much details. Our relationship was about to wreck 7 years ago by multiple reasons but we decided to stick together because our son. She is very attractive and she has a shop in our small village, in the city centre.
I started sharing my fantasies about hot wifing her, and it took about 2 years of deep talks. I knew she was unfaithful 7 years ago but I though it has been only once. I was wrong. After we talked, for weeks, seems we got a new understanding of our relationship.
Our problem is that she can admit things she has done but she doesn't enjoy admitting as much as I do enjoy knowing about them. But if something happens, she will eventuially tell me. It is hard to explain those things, also because English is not my mother tongue.
For her, if I am involved in her adventures, it is a turning off. But on the other hand, this last years I have been useful for her to put her in touch with people in our holidays, or doing it in vacations, since she doesn't have much to choose in our small village, and "fishing" far away from home has become something safer for us.
We have gone twice to a swingers club but, even I was excited about the ambientance and talking to other couples and maybe imagining her going to share a room with another guy, she was not in the mood at all in the swinger's club.
After reading many of the stories in the chat, I am happy I am not the only one with the same fantasies here. And every individual person is different.
She doesn't talk good English (it is worse than mine, if that can exist) but she prefers dating foreign people in holidays in Spain, makes her feel safer from rumours, and I do think it is more exciting for her. If you plan to spend holidays in the north-east of Spain, we can exchange more information
That's how she rationalised it but I think she was just not in the mood to share any intimacy with other couples.
It was at the beginning and our intention there was to meet other couples and talk to them about their experiences. In our preliminary talking we were talking about threesomes MMF or Hotwife fantasy (without naming it that way, just naming it opening the relationship to her, but not to me, i was more than happy with her exploring other possibilities).