Hello - I’m excited to be here

[Lucky_Stag]

Hey everyone,

I’m here to share a story that’s been a fantasy of mine for as long as I can remember, one that’s now becoming a real part of my life in ways I never imagined. I’ve always fantasised about being in a cuckold dynamic—being on the outside, watching someone I care about connect with another. This fascination took a surprising turn during lockdown when I found myself navigating a new chapter of life after separating from my wife. It was then, exploring adult friend-finder sites, that I ended up meeting a couple looking for a “bull.”

I’m a professional filmmaker, so the experience was incredibly intense and creatively exhilarating for me. Not only did I get to live out that role, but I also had the unique experience of capturing the moments that brought us all closer. Being on the “bull” side gave me insight into how these dynamics play out on both sides, and it made me realise how much I craved an honest, open partnership where all of this could be part of our reality. Though that connection eventually fizzled out, it left me knowing exactly what I wanted.

Now, I’m in a relationship with someone who’s as close to perfect as I could imagine. She’s intelligent, beautiful, and adventurous, and I’ve been able to open up to her about these fantasies. She listens, understands, and has been willing to explore with me. After some honest, exciting conversations, she’s about to meet an old flame, someone she has a history with, and they’re planning an encounter that promises to be everything we’ve discussed.

This journey has led me to confront and integrate what I think of as my “shadow”—those desires I might once have kept hidden. Therapy and self-reflection helped me bring them into the light and acknowledge how they could enhance my life rather than control it. Through it all, I’ve realised the importance of having a partner who accepts every side of me and who I can empower to explore her own desires fully.

This isn’t something I can easily share with friends or family, but I’d love to talk with others who understand or have been in similar situations. Whether it’s advice on managing anticipation, thoughts on navigating the emotions that come with this, or simply celebrating this upcoming encounter, I’d love to connect with people who get it.

Thanks for reading—I’m excited to be in a place where I can finally have these conversations openly.

[trecital]

Welcome Lucky_Stag.

I think you'll find plenty of people here who will be interested to hear more of your story.

You say "an encounter that promises to be everything we've discussed". Could you elaborate on that?

[Lucky_Stag]

Thanks for the welcome!!

To give a bit more background, this weekend, she’ll be staying overnight in the city with an old flame. They’ve planned a full day and evening together, and they’re booked at a hotel, so this will be the first time we’re both experiencing her being fully off the radar. I’m genuinely thrilled for her and want to make sure she enjoys this without any guilt or hesitation.

I’d love to hear thoughts from both men and women here. As a man, I’m particularly interested in advice from others who’ve been through something similar—things you’ve found that help make this experience as positive and empowering as it can be. At the same time, I’d love insights from women on what helped them feel supported and connected through similar dynamics.

And then, there’s the reconnecting side of things. I’m keen to hear any advice on ways to keep that time special when she returns, things that have worked well, and things to steer clear of. I’d appreciate any tips on how to hold the excitement and anticipation while she’s away, and how to create a meaningful space for us both to come back together.

[MartasBoy]

Hey everyone,

I’m here to share a story that’s been a fantasy of mine for as long as I can remember, one that’s now becoming a real part of my life in ways I never imagined. ....

.....Thanks for reading—I’m excited to be in a place where I can finally have these conversations openly.

It can be a Thrill Ride of emotions. And it can be really exciting. I think it's so exciting when women Embrace it, and you see them going out opening up, and having fun with it.

[leggysman]

Enjoy the anticipation. You'll probably both be very horny in the lead up to her first date. It's a sexy, naughty thing she's about to do. Foster the feeling that you're partners in crime.

As far as helping her feel supported and connected, most of that should come naturally. Don't try to play it cool, like you're "ok with" what's happening; it will seem to her like you don't care about her all that much. She should be able to see your excitement and approval, don't hide it! And encourage her to likewise not hide - or tiptoe around - any of her excitement, enjoyment, worries, etc. She should be sure that she can tell you anything, without judgement, and that you're sure you want this.

That said, when she's on her date, try not to be a pest. It would be reasonable to ask her to check in with you when she arrives and leaves, just to let you know she's ok. Otherwise, wait for her to communicate first. Give her space to fully enjoy the experience. Same goes for any pics/video - if you're hoping for those - let her know you'd appreciate it, but try not to be demanding. You don't want her to have to keep you front-of-mind throughout her date, or be messing about with gadgets, and spoiling the moment.

You'll probably feel some of the 'angst' we talk about. Anxiousness, twinges of jealousy, etc., all mixed with excitement and arousal. Just relax and roll with it. On those evenings I try not to think too much about what my wife is doing, and just keep it in the back of my mind. Don't jerk off! I try to keep my physical arousal on a pretty low level until she returns. Oh, and don't be surprised if - like many of us - your dick doesn't fully co-operate after her first date. In my case, my nerves were raw, my emotions were big, and despite being horny as hell, I wasn't up to my usual standard

And give her a big, loving welcome home. My wife loves our 'reclaiming', particularly when I lick her pussy straight away (she often uses that time to tell me about some of the hot things she's just finished doing). But, if it's been a long session with the other guy, accept that she might be tired and/or tender, so if necessary be prepared to keep it short and sweet, and focus on re-connecting as a couple. It's a bonus if you can help her to at least one final orgasm to end the night.

[Lucky_Stag]

Wow!!! So that is exactly the kind of insight I was hoping for! Thank you so much!

[leggysman]

You're very welcome. I'd love to read all about how it went this weekend - please keep us updated! Visiting OHW is a good way to occupy yourself while she's on her date .

[Lucky_Stag]

She’s on her way over to meet him now. I just spoke to her for the last time until she returns home tomorrow…

I’ll definitely share an update once I’ve had chance to process everything 🥵

[trecital]

I’ll definitely share an update once I’ve had chance to process everything 🥵

Could be worth starting a thread in the Hotwife, Cuckold or Stag/Vixen forum, depending on how you see things shaping up.
You'll get more visibility in one of those. Also you'll get more feedback, plus there are lots of members who just like to read a 'jourmey' type story.

[leggysman]

If you PM one of the admins memberlist.php?mode=group&g=5 or moderators memberlist.php?mode=group&g=8 they can move this to whatever forum you think fits you best, and/or rename it for you. afagehi7 and armyguyot1 are the mods who seem to be online most often.

[Lucky_Stag]

Thanks for your advice. I will do this, but for now I’m going to go on the record and say this is the longest night of my life. Good news is that the limited comms I’ve received indicate that she’s enjoying herself.

[leggysman]

Hang in there! This might be the start of something really great. This first one's a nail-biter though, no question!

And since she's not coming home tonight, there's no harm in a tiny bit of furious jerking off. You two went pretty hardcore with an all-nighter on your first go. I'm not positive I would have handled that easily.

[Subjames8]

Hello….Im sure I’m not the only one desperately hoping it all went as well as you and she were expecting…..living up to expectations is very difficult though, especially when you have high hopes.
Please do let us know, I can imagine the excitement I would have been dealing with if I had ever managed to convince my wife Anita to do this…