Getting started….

[Victor Skyhawk]

Good day everyone and happy new year
First time posting so hope I cover my bases. I’m hoping to get some feedback and or advice from those who have experience in the matter. Also wanting to know if I’m crazy for wanting this lol. I understand the potential ramifications if things go wrong. I expect the gut punch, the jealousy etc But I would think the visual erotic nature would overcome those. I not sure. That’s why we’re here:) We/I have never done anything like this.
I would like to introduce myself and my sexy wife. I will try to make these long stories short for the interest of the reader. We have been happily married for 10 years. My wife(mid-30s)(pawg hottie) and I (mid-40s) have grown closer over the years through love and communication. I truly love this woman. Some years ago I admitted to her my darkest fantasy. That was to watch her being fucked by preferably bbc and even seeing her in a bbc threesome. We prefer the contrast . At the time she wasn’t dismissive but not completely on board at the time. About a year or so ago, my wife shared some of her fantasies of her own. First, she shared that she always wanted to be A famed in the mfm threesome. Which I found very hot. And she even expressed that she wants to eat pussy and suck on tits with another woman and vise versa. Luck me right, lol. While talking, I brought my fantasies again and tying them into hers. Since then, she has been pretty receptive to finding herself in a vetted Hotwife situation. Her biggest fear is, she doesn’t want to hurt me by feeling left out. After me reassuring her that this is “my” fantasy . She seem to let those feeling go. Yay, more progress.
Foremost, I am not into any of the humiliation part of the lifestyle. My idea of it. Is to be sitting back with a cigar and glass of whisky while stroking my cock. All the while watching my wife letting herself go in the moment.
So that’s where we are at. We talk a lot of hypothetical situations and it turns her on. We live in rural Missouri so the club scene is not a normal occurrence. Really not trying to go the route of “friends” but not a total random.

Wife- In summary, we are looking for opinions on how to proceed. We have discussed visiting a bar and he watching me approach and “pick someone up”.. but the probability seems low with them also being open to the act on a whim. How do we go about this in a way that we are able to vett, are attracted to that person and vice versa, and all things logistic?

[Wantsomefunto]

Finding opportunities is very challenging. Especially in rural settings. Is there anyone that comes to her mind she could flirt with to see how you feel after and see how far it goes. There is always online profile sites to try with varied success

[Victor Skyhawk]

Finding opportunities is very challenging. Especially in rural settings. Is there anyone that comes to her mind she could flirt with to see how you feel after and see how far it goes. There is always online profile sites to try with varied success

It is a challenge. A night out in a small town is not that exciting. Due to the fact that you run into these people on the daily. So I ideally. We have discussed heading to the city/casino or anything. Entering an establishment together with the understanding that someone could possibly catch her eye. She is a sexy beautiful woman. She has no problem catching eyes.. All this has to happen organically, nothing forced. If someone caught her eye. I would hang back and watch her potentially flirt with someone as she vets their character amongst other things…. Introduce the situation and if respectfully received. Proceed on to the next steps….
I know. Chances of all this happening is “not great” . But the fact that we are here talking is exciting.

[Saras_Stag]

Welcome! She definitely sounds interested and willing which is huge, especially as things can start moving incredibly fast all of a sudden (raises hand!)

I think the city/casino idea is a good one, maybe you could prep an online profile as you may be able to arrange something ahead of time in that location?

[Victor Skyhawk]

Welcome! She definitely sounds interested and willing which is huge, especially as things can start moving incredibly fast all of a sudden (raises hand!)

I think the city/casino idea is a good one, maybe you could prep an online profile as you may be able to arrange something ahead of time in that location?

We were just discussing, while taking it slow. Possibly arranging our normal date nights to venture out to possible hotspots. She is willing, but will not settle as she says. Not going to put expectations on any particular night… just knowing it could happen. It will be roll of the dice. This will happen at her pace. This will be both our first time doing something this. I have read what to expect. That part has me a bit nervous. I have read some horror stories. While our fantasies have intertwined. I’m still expecting some anxiety and adrenaline. I’m also expecting it to be AF.

[Swanilla]

What area of the country are you in? I ask as there are many good websites to meet like-minded people... and the parties can be a blast, even if just flirty social.

[mastiff]

Lifestyle clubs, groups, parties, all offer the opportunity to become comfortable in a sexual environment involving other people and potentially meet people you want to be sexual with.