Wanting to get her into the lifestyle

[TX1500Cock]

My wife and I have been together for about 12 years. She is 43, about 5'5. Thick and curvey, around 190lbs. Huge beautiful DDs and a great ass. (I might add pictures of her to the forum) Our sex life has had its highs and low, typical for a marriage with kids and jobs. We are no strangers to using toys. Vibrating cockrings, vibrators, and dildos. Seeing her have sex with someone else became a fantasy of mine several years ago. I would like to bring it up to her, but not sure how she would respond. I would say I want more of a threeway situation vs cuckold. I want to be involved, but would happily sit back and watch her be fucked by someone else. I get off on seeing her get off. How do I tell my wife I want to watch her fuck someone else?

[Gulfcpl]

Admittedly, you haven’t spoken to her about this so pictures on this forum are out of the question. I would start by asking her if she ever thinks about having sex with anyone besides you. I realize that honesty isn’t popular these days but it’s amazing how well it works. The worst she can say is no.

[snoogaloo82]

My wife and I have been together for about 12 years. She is 43, about 5'5. Thick and curvey, around 190lbs. Huge beautiful DDs and a great ass. (I might add pictures of her to the forum) Our sex life has had its highs and low, typical for a marriage with kids and jobs. We are no strangers to using toys. Vibrating cockrings, vibrators, and dildos. Seeing her have sex with someone else became a fantasy of mine several years ago. I would like to bring it up to her, but not sure how she would respond. I would say I want more of a threeway situation vs cuckold. I want to be involved, but would happily sit back and watch her be fucked by someone else. I get off on seeing her get off. How do I tell my wife I want to watch her fuck someone else?

The best idea I can give is to tell her straight up. Tell her that you love the idea of her making love with another guy. That it turns you on. And assure her that it's not that you want to have sex with other women. Let her know that she's the only woman for you and that you just get off of her doing it with other men. If she has doubts or questions you can let her know about this site and let her know that there are women on the site that will answer any questions she might have about it. Let me know how things go.

[philxxo]

Hello Tex! Welcome. I would follow the advice above. Start by asking her what her sexual fantasies are. Ask her if there is a celebrity that she thinks is hot and sexy that she would hypothetically fuck. Also find out what kind of guys she finds attractive and good looking. Do this before you tell her you want her to fuck other guys. If you tell her that first, she may just shut down like my wife did. Now she refuses to tell me any fantasies or celebrity because she doesn't want to encourage me. You could have a bit of fun with that for a while. Try to fulfill her sexual fantasies for her. She will of course ask you your fantasies. Then eventually move on and ask her what she thinks about an MMF 3 some. She will likely have had that fantasy in her life at least once if she is honest. A lot of women like the thought of extra attention on them. It sounds like you are going for the Stag/Vixen lifestyle. Same for me. You can eventually be totally honest and let her know that you find it very erotic and a huge turn on to think about her having sex with other guys. Let her know this is not an excuse for you to have sex with other women. That's the first thing she will ask. You are perfectly content with her. Read about compersion. Let her know how much you love her and want the best for her. If a really good looking guy were nailing her, you would be happy for her.

[tiedyeHotwife]

The thing my husband said to me (that I didn't believe but eventually realized it was true) -
"You are my fantasy. I don't have sexual fantasies about other women and when I see a sexy women wearing something hot - I picture you in it. When I watch porn, I imagine that YOU are the women getting fucked - and its really hot".

I came to realize that this was the start.
I was his porn star - and I liked it.

Tell your wife your version of this. Simply ask if we can spice things up from time to time - ie "wear something sexy for me", "tease me a bit".

Hotwifing is basically rediscovering and reliving those first moments when you first met.
When you wanted her, and subconciously knew someone else was currently fucking her.

Make it about how you feel about HER, not some fantasy you have. But the fact that SHE is your fantasy.

just a suggestion for you .

[TX1500Cock]

The thing my husband said to me (that I didn't believe but eventually realized it was true) -
"You are my fantasy. I don't have sexual fantasies about other women and when I see a sexy women wearing something hot - I picture you in it. When I watch porn, I imagine that YOU are the women getting fucked - and its really hot".

I came to realize that this was the start.
I was his porn star - and I liked it.

Tell your wife your version of this. Simply ask if we can spice things up from time to time - ie "wear something sexy for me", "tease me a bit".

Hotwifing is basically rediscovering and reliving those first moments when you first met.
When you wanted her, and subconciously knew someone else was currently fucking her.

Make it about how you feel about HER, not some fantasy you have. But the fact that SHE is your fantasy.

just a suggestion for you .

That's exactly what it is! I have this fantasy, but she is still the center of attention.

[Gulfcpl]

Then tell her!!!

[SilverStag]

Remember, timing is everything...don't expect a positive response if her mind and attention are on other things. Sometimes you just have to wait until the right moment. When she is already in a sexy mood and life's daily issues are resolved (for a short time). Don't just blurt it out, make it in the context of a relaxed (and sober) conversation about the two of you.

...and a brief correction to your opening post: You aren't trying to get her into the Lifestyle, you are attempting to get the two of you into the lifestyle. While that may seem a minor language issue, it may be expressing an attitude that you need to temper for her. Saying that, you sound like you already consider yourself "in the lifestyle". You should stress to her that this is an adventure that you are undertaking together.

[philxxo]

Yes, what silverstag said is correct. Tell her you want to do this together for both of you. If you tell her she should do this for you, it's not as well received. Or if you act like this is just something that she gets to do, she will feel like you are left out. Tell her you want to do this together and you both get enjoyment.

[snoogaloo82]

That's exactly what it is! I have this fantasy, but she is still the center of attention.

I totally agree with silver! Tell her you'll do it together.