Longtime Interest, Seeking Thoughts, Advice & Experiences ….
Posted: Tue Dec 19, 2023 12:03 pm
Greetings, and thanks for adding me ….. this will likely be a long intro. apologies in advance …..how & where to begin …. ? …..
I’m a single (not married) 60’s WM in a terrific long-term, long-distance relationship. To be honest, I’ve always been intrigued and turned on by sexually assertive women, even before I realized there were relationships in which the female is permitted, even encouraged to have multiple sexual partners. My “awakening” to this phenomenon was my reading of a piece in a Hustler magazine in my early 20’s (more on that in another post to come) and, to summarize, the “wife” in that story has a spontaneous tryst with a well hung neighbor & ultimately “confesses” to her husband, who …. instead of flying off the handle, pressers her for details and ravages her as she tells him how huge the neighbor’s dick was and how much she loved it ….. !
From that time forward, fantasies of my gf (& later wife, more on THAT later, too) enjoying consensual sex with other (usually well hung) men has been front and center among my various favorite “go to’s”. But I was never comfortable with the humiliation angle so often associated with what I learned was the “hot wife” ( later, “cuckold”) lifestyle. The allure to me was not my humiliation but her openly acknowledging and acting on her urges and desires. It was not until very recently that I discovered the difference between cuckolding and the “Stag/Vixen” lifestyle ….. BAM! That was it!!!
As I said, currently in an amazing LDR with a beautiful, bright, successful woman and we have a fantastic sex life. She admits that she’s not as adventurous as I am but she’s always happy to go to our local nude beach in the summer, loves the Lovense toy I recently got her and will occasionally ask me to put on some porn, to spice things up! When we met she was coming out of a sexless marriage and discovered that her husband had been cheating on her. That’s when she decided to make up for lost time and became very adventurous; I’d say promiscuous. I happened to be one of her conquests whom she perused pretty aggressively!
Truth be told, I knew and didn’t care that she was sleeping around. I was also recently single and was enjoying the new & regular sex. And I have to admit, I felt a certain sense of what I came to learn was “reclaiming sex”. In short, I had the “slutty” partner I’d always desired. The good news is, that we decided we really liked each other and have been together now over 10 years. At some point we became monogamous (by agreement) which, I think, in a longterm, LDR is pretty important.
My gf travels for her job and has AMPLE opportunities to stray. As I mentioned, she is very attractive; tall and fit and stands out in a crowd. She attends several large industry conferences each year but insists that she doesn’t get hit on and has remained faithful. However, I think she has always understood my kinky side and she enjoys telling me that oral sex isn’t “cheating”. Interestingly, over these past few years she has become much more interested in, and better at sucking my cock ….. and I always make sure to praise and compliment skills. I’ve even commented on how much better she has gotten …..
Like most couples (I think ….) over the years we have engaged in various role-playing “what if” sex talk and the topic of her fucking other men, past and future, often comes up. The other night we were in the midst of a long fucking session and I was having trouble getting to a climax, she took note and began telling me how big my dick was and how she could feel my big head …. ! I asked her if she liked big dicks to which she replied “yes, I like YOUR big dick!” ….. I said to her; “when we first met, you were fucking a lot of guys …”. “Not a lot, just a few”, she admitted ….. I said “I liked that …” . Her reply was, “I could start again …?” I came almost instantly!
I think we may be at the point where a real conversation, when we’re NOT having sex, may take place. As we all know, there are many variations on sex and what interests and desires we all have. As I’ve said, I have no interest in her humiliating me, or dressing her for a date and waiting at home, or having her getting pregnant from a gang-bang with a group of BBC’s in a seedy hotel room. My ideal situation, I think, would be some sort of holiday hook-up somewhere warm and tropical with lots of other naked people to observe and enjoy. I’ve heard of the Hedonism resorts and even lifestyle cruises but I’m not sure we’d be ready to just go all-in. (she might be!)
I’d love to hear from some genuinely experienced people, ESPECIALLY any women, on their thoughts, ideas, suggestions or experiences.
Thank you for your patience with this long introduction and back story. Happy to be here!
I’m a single (not married) 60’s WM in a terrific long-term, long-distance relationship. To be honest, I’ve always been intrigued and turned on by sexually assertive women, even before I realized there were relationships in which the female is permitted, even encouraged to have multiple sexual partners. My “awakening” to this phenomenon was my reading of a piece in a Hustler magazine in my early 20’s (more on that in another post to come) and, to summarize, the “wife” in that story has a spontaneous tryst with a well hung neighbor & ultimately “confesses” to her husband, who …. instead of flying off the handle, pressers her for details and ravages her as she tells him how huge the neighbor’s dick was and how much she loved it ….. !
From that time forward, fantasies of my gf (& later wife, more on THAT later, too) enjoying consensual sex with other (usually well hung) men has been front and center among my various favorite “go to’s”. But I was never comfortable with the humiliation angle so often associated with what I learned was the “hot wife” ( later, “cuckold”) lifestyle. The allure to me was not my humiliation but her openly acknowledging and acting on her urges and desires. It was not until very recently that I discovered the difference between cuckolding and the “Stag/Vixen” lifestyle ….. BAM! That was it!!!
As I said, currently in an amazing LDR with a beautiful, bright, successful woman and we have a fantastic sex life. She admits that she’s not as adventurous as I am but she’s always happy to go to our local nude beach in the summer, loves the Lovense toy I recently got her and will occasionally ask me to put on some porn, to spice things up! When we met she was coming out of a sexless marriage and discovered that her husband had been cheating on her. That’s when she decided to make up for lost time and became very adventurous; I’d say promiscuous. I happened to be one of her conquests whom she perused pretty aggressively!
Truth be told, I knew and didn’t care that she was sleeping around. I was also recently single and was enjoying the new & regular sex. And I have to admit, I felt a certain sense of what I came to learn was “reclaiming sex”. In short, I had the “slutty” partner I’d always desired. The good news is, that we decided we really liked each other and have been together now over 10 years. At some point we became monogamous (by agreement) which, I think, in a longterm, LDR is pretty important.
My gf travels for her job and has AMPLE opportunities to stray. As I mentioned, she is very attractive; tall and fit and stands out in a crowd. She attends several large industry conferences each year but insists that she doesn’t get hit on and has remained faithful. However, I think she has always understood my kinky side and she enjoys telling me that oral sex isn’t “cheating”. Interestingly, over these past few years she has become much more interested in, and better at sucking my cock ….. and I always make sure to praise and compliment skills. I’ve even commented on how much better she has gotten …..
Like most couples (I think ….) over the years we have engaged in various role-playing “what if” sex talk and the topic of her fucking other men, past and future, often comes up. The other night we were in the midst of a long fucking session and I was having trouble getting to a climax, she took note and began telling me how big my dick was and how she could feel my big head …. ! I asked her if she liked big dicks to which she replied “yes, I like YOUR big dick!” ….. I said to her; “when we first met, you were fucking a lot of guys …”. “Not a lot, just a few”, she admitted ….. I said “I liked that …” . Her reply was, “I could start again …?” I came almost instantly!
I think we may be at the point where a real conversation, when we’re NOT having sex, may take place. As we all know, there are many variations on sex and what interests and desires we all have. As I’ve said, I have no interest in her humiliating me, or dressing her for a date and waiting at home, or having her getting pregnant from a gang-bang with a group of BBC’s in a seedy hotel room. My ideal situation, I think, would be some sort of holiday hook-up somewhere warm and tropical with lots of other naked people to observe and enjoy. I’ve heard of the Hedonism resorts and even lifestyle cruises but I’m not sure we’d be ready to just go all-in. (she might be!)
I’d love to hear from some genuinely experienced people, ESPECIALLY any women, on their thoughts, ideas, suggestions or experiences.
Thank you for your patience with this long introduction and back story. Happy to be here!