Our Hotwives

pixmangurn wrote: ↑

Thu Jul 25, 2024 1:38 pm

Very interested in how this progresses, good luck in your healing journey!

SessionsGoLong wrote: ↑

Fri Aug 09, 2024 3:04 pm

I texted the wife yesterday to see if she was home, as I was prepared to deliver the furniture to them instead of them picking it up next week. I also asked her and her child to go along with me to these fun venues afterward, venues that I normally go to alone. She called me and replied yes to both after talking it over with her hubby. So after dropping off the furniture, I went on a hangout (date?) with the wife and the child and we had a blast. Husband seems to be fine with it. He was at work until late and we kept him in the loop as the day went along. She and I were touching each others arms or shoulders to get one anothers attention as the events we went to were loud at times. Some good eye contact throughout. We ate and neither of us drink but I drove as they are still looking for a replacement vehicle. We arrived last at a live outdoor band and ice cream when hubby called and said he was home. So I drove his family back to their place said hi to him, shook hands, we talked about what to do at work today and I hugged the wife and child then went home to crash.

Today I saw her at work as she walked up to me and we hugged. We all work at the same place and her hubby was running errands this morning when I arrived. Their child said she was still tired out from yesterday. I was as well. Wife got busy and quickly asked me if I will be around later in the morning, but work had me going in a separate direction and I told her I was running errands too. Then I called her husband telling him what I got done and was back home for the day by noon. I may see them Sunday, but she asked me to come to their place for dinner next week and since she is a great cook and hot, I said yes.

What is happening to me? I feel on track to a hotwife scenario one day, and then a day later I am convinced that it was all just a really good masturbation fantacy. A byproduct of long term celibacy I am guessing. Lack of experience. I do feel that I am wired for this stuff however. To become a part time long term hotwife boyfriend. Since childhood I had watched mom and dad do this for two decades. I watched them and listened to them communicate openly about who was going to sleep where and with whom and for how many hours or days. So if this particular wife is into this, I will put a boundary in place that husband must tell me it is okay to go to the next level with his wife. We hug now and I can also tell that I am stopping myself from holding her hand when we are together. It feels pretty natural to want to hold her hand. Even wondering about walking arm around her shoulder or waist. Like I need permission to do these natural things but because of her marriage and those vow thingys, I do not want cause a fight or hard feelings or a breakup. I am pretty sure we like each other and both she and I want more; but slowly more as we get comfy around one another. I am truly a novice at all types of dating. Having very very few dates and no girlfriends yet. So these questions of mine probably appear as simple stuff that everyone else knows already in their 50's. Inexperience lows and novelty highs all at once.

In hindsight I have had hotwifing opportunities in my distant past, I understand it so much better now what those multi-partnered women were doing. I was simply not interested. I wanted monogamy and those hotwives and hot unmarried women with boyfriends, just flat said no way to my request. Or I would turn down the willing ones on my own terms via my fears and old stifling and unworkable 'morals' I guess I will call them. I have always been a bachelor with no kids so when my parents marriage ended in divorce, mom had already had three boyfriends and one girlfriend and my dad seemed to only fuck the one neighbor lady, but I suspect he kept his lovers away from us as he travelled a lot. Mom fucked right at our house or at the neighbors, and babysat us kids. Need to learn the art of seduction. I had no examples of this as I would stumble upon people fucking or be forced to listen to it out of the blue. Perhaps because I have gained what I think is total recall of my childhood, I am more prepared to be a lover to a hot mom with permission and to not push it away again.

central wrote: ↑

Sat Aug 10, 2024 8:16 am

Sage advice Central, you have kind of read my thoughts on complimenting either her first or husband first, about her attractiveness or, how I can see why he fell for her. She really is one of the good ones here. He left me alone at the empty pool with her and their child one day after dinner. I was giving swim lessons to the child and purposely got caught checking out my hot mom friend.

SessionsGoLong wrote: ↑

Fri Aug 09, 2024 3:04 pm

I texted the wife yesterday to see if she was home, as I was prepared to deliver the furniture to them instead of them picking it up next week. I also asked her and her child to go along with me to these fun venues afterward, venues that I normally go to alone. She called me and replied yes to both after talking it over with her hubby. So after dropping off the furniture, I went on a hangout (date?) with the wife and the child and we had a blast. Husband seems to be fine with it. He was at work until late and we kept him in the loop as the day went along. She and I were touching each others arms or shoulders to get one anothers attention as the events we went to were loud at times. Some good eye contact throughout. We ate and neither of us drink but I drove as they are still looking for a replacement vehicle. We arrived last at a live outdoor band and ice cream when hubby called and said he was home. So I drove his family back to their place said hi to him, shook hands, we talked about what to do at work today and I hugged the wife and child then went home to crash.

Today I saw her at work as she walked up to me and we hugged. We all work at the same place and her hubby was running errands this morning when I arrived. Their child said she was still tired out from yesterday. I was as well. Wife got busy and quickly asked me if I will be around later in the morning, but work had me going in a separate direction and I told her I was running errands too. Then I called her husband telling him what I got done and was back home for the day by noon. I may see them Sunday, but she asked me to come to their place for dinner next week and since she is a great cook and hot, I said yes.

What is happening to me? I feel on track to a hotwife scenario one day, and then a day later I am convinced that it was all just a really good masturbation fantacy. A byproduct of long term celibacy I am guessing. Lack of experience. I do feel that I am wired for this stuff however. To become a part time long term hotwife boyfriend. Since childhood I had watched mom and dad do this for two decades. I watched them and listened to them communicate openly about who was going to sleep where and with whom and for how many hours or days. So if this particular wife is into this, I will put a boundary in place that husband must tell me it is okay to go to the next level with his wife. We hug now and I can also tell that I am stopping myself from holding her hand when we are together. It feels pretty natural to want to hold her hand. Even wondering about walking arm around her shoulder or waist. Like I need permission to do these natural things but because of her marriage and those vow thingys, I do not want cause a fight or hard feelings or a breakup. I am pretty sure we like each other and both she and I want more; but slowly more as we get comfy around one another. I am truly a novice at all types of dating. Having very very few dates and no girlfriends yet. So these questions of mine probably appear as simple stuff that everyone else knows already in their 50's. Inexperience lows and novelty highs all at once.

In hindsight I have had hotwifing opportunities in my distant past, I understand it so much better now what those multi-partnered women were doing. I was simply not interested. I wanted monogamy and those hotwives and hot unmarried women with boyfriends, just flat said no way to my request. Or I would turn down the willing ones on my own terms via my fears and old stifling and unworkable 'morals' I guess I will call them. I have always been a bachelor with no kids so when my parents marriage ended in divorce, mom had already had three boyfriends and one girlfriend and my dad seemed to only fuck the one neighbor lady, but I suspect he kept his lovers away from us as he travelled a lot. Mom fucked right at our house or at the neighbors, and babysat us kids. Need to learn the art of seduction. I had no examples of this as I would stumble upon people fucking or be forced to listen to it out of the blue. Perhaps because I have gained what I think is total recall of my childhood, I am more prepared to be a lover to a hot mom with permission and to not push it away again.

Easy to see why there is difficulty in reading their motives - if any.

On one hand, you are just the right person that they met at a time when they need a person like you. You are showing kindness, you willingly make time to be around them and helping them out.
The other hand, the husband is happy and comfortable with the situation of you spending quality time with his hot pretty wife and child.

Could be mixed signals, could be something else. You can find out without doing any damage to the relationship you 3 have.

Are you ever alone with the husband? Even for a few minutes at a time? If so, you should think about telling her husband that she is a great catch.
Tell him how attractive she is, tell him when you are with her at public events, you notice all these other guys checking her out. Maybe tell him these things over a couple different days, maybe not too much at one time. Thank him for letting you hang out with her and tell him he is a very lucky guy. Maybe mention it makes you feel elated (your own words here) to hang out with her.
Pay attention to his response as that can be very telling.

She holds hands with you in public, that seems like a big signal. She calls you, another signal. Many women are attracted to older and established men, seems she might be. It is best to have some sort of conversation with husband first since you are friends with both. Then in the near future you can ask his permission for more, depending on his reactions to the above.

Good luck, hope it works out well for all. Keep us posted often.

Magellanic29 wrote: ↑

Sat Aug 10, 2024 9:39 am

such a great and lovely story. I can't wait to hear more.

SessionsGoLong wrote: ↑

Sat Aug 10, 2024 11:23 am

I have seen myself mix signals before or misread a situation. I will be taking this one very slow. Will keep you posted.

leggysman wrote: ↑

Sat Aug 10, 2024 5:20 pm

SessionsGoLong wrote: ↑

Sat Aug 10, 2024 11:23 am

I have seen myself mix signals before or misread a situation. I will be taking this one very slow. Will keep you posted.

Welllll .... maybe not too slow, eh? Seduction is an art not a science, but sometimes if you take it too slow, the excitement or allure can get dulled for her, and you end up in that dreaded "friend zone".

So, even if you take it slow, try to keep the sparks sparking and the pushing of things subtly forward, a little bit more risque whenever you feel like the moments are right. If you get a negative signal of some kind (even if subtle, like a facial expression), that's when to pause and pull back. Otherwise, forward!

But ultimately, some kind of talk probably needs to happen with him or her -- leap of faith, cards on the table. He or she might initiate it, with any luck. Effusively complimenting her attractiveness to him sounds like a good idea. If he seems uncomfortable about that at all, then maybe you read the situation wrong. If he's a hotwife's husband, it's likely he will respond positively.

OTOH if they're simply open, it's possible they may have something more on along the spectrum of a "don't ask don't tell" arrangement, and she'd be the one you need to read.

pixmangurn wrote: ↑

Thu Jul 25, 2024 1:38 pm

Very interested in how this progresses, good luck in your healing journey!

Magellanic29 wrote: ↑

Sat Aug 10, 2024 9:39 am

such a great and lovely story. I can't wait to hear more.