Hopeful, but doesn't look good

[Nicklymore]

I've been a member here for a few years and never really posted...well here it goes.

I've been wanting my wife to sleep with another guy for at least 8 or 9 years now. She is just so sexy and beautiful to me that I would love for her to be really pounded by another guy, I feel like she deserves it. Sometimes I feel like I want her to go out and get a creampie and come home and let me jerk off while I lick her feet (big foot guy). I literally want to worship her. I've slowly expressed my desires throughout the past 3 or 4 years. First starting with asking her to go out with her co workers and be a naughty girl. She never really responded to it but would say "ok" sarcastically. The
Sometimes I would kiss her and tell her "this pussy deserves whatever it wants whenever". Sometimes she would say things like "your weird" and completely turn down the whole situation. I encourage her to go out with her co workers (some male) and drink and have fun and encourage her to wear thongs and sexy underwear and tell her things like you have a hall pass or go pick up some guys.

I've really been wanting this to happen lately and have been more vocal with her about it. Recently, she works with a guy who always makes her laugh and is young and fit. I know deep down that she wants him but she swears they are just friends, like a brother to her. He's always complimenting her but she says he does that to all the girls.

She recently went out to a bar with her co workers (him included) and I asked her to wear a thong ( she did). I told her the usual that I want her to be naughty and find a guy and tell me all about it. This time I told her "you don't know how serious I am" and assured her I would never even want to cheat on her or be with another woman besides her. She responded by pacifying me and said "okay, i will". She went out with all her co workers and got home shortly after. I asked if she was a bad girI and she said no and shut it down. I checked her phone thay night and she texted her male co worker saying how much fun she had and she needed that.

I never mentioned it to her as I was pretty excited and dint want to say anything yet. I just had an argument with her about our sex being boring and not a priority to her. She responded by calling me weird and called me out on how I mentioned her male co worker to her while we were kissing recently.

I don't think this will ever happen and she pretty much told me she would never do it. I've explained to her that I don't know why I have these feelings so strongly, but I do and there nothing I can do about it.

Not really sure what to do and I don't think it will ever happen. My desires for this to happen are getting stronger and stronger and at this point i feel desperate. I go on her phone and look up hotwife stuff on her instagram so hopefully it will populate into her feel and she will start to see more of it and be open to it. I pretty much only watch hotwife porn now..i dont know what else to do.But that's my story. Hello everybody

[Bryce 69]

Some women are not interested

[leggysman]

I think it might help her to understand you better. To learn about your kink, and realize that you're not that weird (it's a pretty common thing, at least as a fantasy). And that there are normal women in happy marriages who enjoy this sort of lifestyle.

In my case, the breakthrough was finding this site, telling my wife about it, posting and showing her ... she started reading. She'd known about my kink from the beginning (9 years), but within a few weeks of finding this site she was a hotwife.

[zorro]

I feel for you, but I also think you would do well for you to understand you. Your having your fantasy in itself is not problematic; so many of us here do so too. But when you find yourself feeling desperate, the question becomes why desperate? Of course, you'd like your wife to get into this, but wanting it is different than needing it.

Correct me if I am wrong, but "desperate" sounds like suffering. And suffering is not a good way to live. No need to explain why you want this, but why do you need this? What is really your motivation? Pushing to make your wife live out your fantasy is likely to be counterproductive.

It may be better for you to know that you have planted the seed and to wait to see if it takes hold. Your wife may or not get into it. But pushing will just shut her down.