Hello from NY

[mininglifeNY]

I’ve been on ohw for a little while now & thought I should finally say hi. I’m a cuck wannabe I guess you can say. We’re from ny, each in our mid twenties & have been together for almost 9 years. About 4 years ago I learned about the lifestyle & built the courage to tell her which didn’t go well initially. In the years since we’ve talked here and there about possibilities but nothings progressed. We went to a wedding over the weekend, where she had a blast, was drinking and feeling confident in herself. later that night (while drunk still) she told me that if I wasn’t there she would’ve tried to sleep with one of the guys that was there that she was attracted to. I asked her if she wanted to have a talk about any possibilities for future situations, but she said she would never do anything. I’d like to talk with her and get on the same page incase something unexpectedly happened, but I suppose her unexpectedly cheating would make me a cuck in itself so I’m just sitting back and see if things ever progress. Anyone else become a cuck from their spouse cheating ?

[RI_Couple]

Good Morning Mining,
This is a relatively simple one I think. You let go out on her own to the next party by herself.
Beforehand, have talk with her again. Communication is key with this lifestyle, can't stress this enough. It is a lot of fun and quite exciting.
Hope this helps,

[trecital]

Anyone else become a cuck from their spouse cheating ?

Yes, I did.

I was a bit older than you. I was in my early thirties.
I had previously expressed desires to try things like threesomes, either mmf or mff. The thought of her fucking another man (or should that be "another man fucking her"?) definitely turned me on, but frightened me a bit too. In our very early years together, at university, we both took opportunities for sex with others, mostly 'officially' unacknowledged by either of us, but actually known about. So that fuelled some ideas in my mind.
When I discovered, years later, that she'd been having an affair with a work colleague for at least 18 months (and maybe for as long as 3 years), I was keen for us to develop it into a threesome thing.
But he proved to be better at sex with her than I was. So I drifted in to a cuckold role, something I knew next to nothing about, at that time.
I've never regretted what happened.

You say that your 'confession' didn't go down very well initially. But that was probably no real surprise to you, I'd imagine. She needs time to process the idea. She could well think that, though you say you would enjoy her having a lover, you would maybe find the reality more difficult to handle. She's understandably being cautious. Give her time, and just keep slowly reinforcing your message. Try to show her that your desire is not for you to have sex with other women, by suggesting that she has sex with other men. Get across the idea that you would be faithful to her, regardless.
Remember, you've probably been processing this idea for quite some time. But it's still new to her. She's got some catching up to do.

Good luck, and welcome to the forum.