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Climbinglover123
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Unread post by Climbinglover123 » Wed Oct 16, 2024 8:42 am

Hi All,

39 year old widower here to read and make some friends. Live in Oregon in the PNW. Since she passed I have been extremely lucky to have stepped into the roll of being a bull in relationship for a few couples. Love the experience of helping these couples find the intimacy and passion that the lifestyle can give them!

Cheers!

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Unread post by trecital » Wed Oct 16, 2024 11:22 pm

Hi and welcome to the forum.

Sorry to hear that you became a widower.

However, it seems that things have taken a different path for you, as you have explored a new role, as a bull.
Congratulations.

Perhaps you could expand a little on your story.

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Unread post by Climbinglover123 » Thu Oct 17, 2024 11:10 am

Absolutely happy to share more. One thing I am a scientist by training so my writing is terse and too the point. Not the eloquent and beautiful prose of many of the members on here!

Little about me, I am just normal looking guy and have an average sized cock. I just know who I am, how to carry my body and am confident of my interactions and also totally comfortable admitting I am wrong. I have found my comfort in my skin is what attracts women. I do have lots of stamina in bed though. I rarely cum before 30-40 minutes unless I am in a woman's ass and even then that takes 15-20 min.

So I have always had a very high sex drive. In college I realized I was into some more kinky things than most folks and was fortunate enough to meet a more experienced dom who helped me learn about my interests. I really enjoyed his style of being a "chameleon" if you will and really focusing how you interacted with a partner on guiding their interests. He was a dom for some cuckold relationships (I did not participate) but he shared how great it was to be able to help these couples find their passion.

Same time I also met my late wife. Instant love for both of us. Unfortunately she did not share the same sex drive as me but she also grew up in a very open family that didn't have strong puritanical beliefs so she had no issues with me being with other women. So I continued to learn about my interests in BDSM.

Few years later I started my PhD and she started her career. At this point we agreed I could keep playing but that I would only do it when I was traveling and away from the towns we lived in. I travel a fair amount so this continued to work. This was our life and it was great for a number of years until she passed in a freak accident at work.

That point I just focused on work and gave up on the sexual side of my life. Then the pandemic hit and I was home and started getting horny. I of course watched porn etc. I enjoyed the amateur porn more than other stuff and started finding some hotwife type sites. Started thinking back to undergrad and the experiences my friend was talking about and thought I would try to reach out to some couples and see where it went. Took time but I fell into finding a couple and then they introduced me to some others and it continued.

I am a professor so this was kinda perfect for me. Keeps me from interacting with students most likely since few are married. I can also travel to couple and we can have fun together. So that has been the life for the last couple of years. I have 4 couples I get together with a few times a year and its been awesome!

Happy to answer any questions folks may have!

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Unread post by trecital » Thu Oct 17, 2024 8:23 pm

Interesting story, and a good example of the unexpected paths that open up in front of us, and of how events can change our life.
I know what you mean about "keeps me from interacting with students". That must be a big temptation!

I was curious about your comment concerning meeting a dom. How did you discover he was a dom? Was he a work colleague and you got talking, or something? Or did you seek out a Dom for some reason?

Would certainly be interested in finding out more.

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Unread post by Climbinglover123 » Fri Oct 18, 2024 5:22 am

I met him at a munch. I had gone to an adult store and bought some “how to” books on bdsm. When I was checking out the lady who was helping me told me about the munch.

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