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New from Belgium

Posted: Tue Oct 22, 2024 10:51 pm
by BertIs
Hello everybody,

I am the man (45) of a married couple. My wife (40) introduced the idea of an open marriage.
She has desires that I cannot fulfil. Those desires are more on the emotional, intelectual side since she is sapioseksual.
She allows me to date. I don't have the desire to date other woman but am ok with her dating other men.
It is kind of an one-sided open marriage.


I am looking for advice on how to deal with the emotions that come with this dynamic.

Sincerly,

B.

Re: New from Belgium

Posted: Wed Oct 23, 2024 5:01 am
by athlete915
Welcome to OHW. I hope you find the website to be beneficial and valuable.

I think my first question for you is, what kind of emotions are you dealing with? While I can guess, it would be more beneficial to hear your answer directly. That will help me and others tailor our advice to the specifics of your situation.

I would also be curious to learn if you two have actually gone through with opening up the marriage yet or if you're still working toward it. If you have already, how long has that been going on for?

Finally, while it is often easy to focus on the sexual aspects of the lifestyle, her wanting more than just a physical relationship is entirely normal and understandable. In my experience, those emotional factors complement and enhance the sexual side of the relationship with the wife.

In the meantime, welcome once again, and I look forward to talking more.

Re: New from Belgium

Posted: Fri Oct 25, 2024 9:43 pm
by snoogaloo82
BertIs wrote:
Tue Oct 22, 2024 10:51 pm
Hello everybody,

I am the man (45) of a married couple. My wife (40) introduced the idea of an open marriage.
She has desires that I cannot fulfil. Those desires are more on the emotional, intelectual side since she is sapioseksual.
She allows me to date. I don't have the desire to date other woman but am ok with her dating other men.
It is kind of an one-sided open marriage.


I am looking for advice on how to deal with the emotions that come with this dynamic.

Sincerly,

B.
Like the other person said it would be wonderful to have a history of where you two are into the lifestyle. What kinds of emotions are you dealing with, And how long have you two been practicing the lifestyle?

Rik