New...but not new

[Deeperlove1369]

Hello friends, happily married for 30 years!

How it began: I spent the first 21 years suggesting (and joking) about wife-swapping with our friends and while it was fun discussions and playful, there was never a time when it was remotely close to coming to fruition. I came to a realization that while she wasn't fond of me with another woman, I've always had the fantasy we all share here, but never brought it up to her until that 21st year when I had the courage to tell her. She was away for work for 6 months overseas and I just laid it all out there. After several months of long-distance discussion, her going through all the emotions and questions nearly all prospective hotwives have as well as massive support and encouragement from me, she decided to flirt back with a guy that had been hitting on her consistently...and boy did that escalate in a hurry. She first told me that they escaped to a hidden area of the beach they had a work party at, and they made out for quite some time, lightly touching each other as to not get caught in a compromising situation with people they both knew close by. She called me when the shin-dig was over to tell me about it, hoping she didn't make a mistake moving from fantasy to reality. For me, reality is what I was craving, so she sensed my enthusiastic approval and moved forward with the natural escalation electrifying the next several months; and as you know, everything in life just magically got better just as everybody reading this knows - even my dogs got cuter! I'll share some of her adventures in the Stag & Vixen forum if anybody is interested in those, but for the purpose of this intro, I just wanted to tell some of our story of how it began an where we are today.

Where we are today: That was 2016-2018, then life got in the way and we lost our way to the daily grind and monotony of everyday living. Don't get me wrong, we always had each other and our family, both retired from active duty and started new careers, moved back to our home state of Florida, and life was still good, but the fire and spice faded during our unintentional 6/7-year hiatus from the lifestyle. We hit our 30-year anniversary and did much introspection as I brought it up once again and within days, our bedroom heated back up and our dogs got even cuter once again. We did not have many resources in 2016, hell, we didn't even know the term "Hotwife" or any of the associated terms, but this time we have found OHW, Reddit, Etsy, Audible, Kindle, Tumblr, and the list goes on - so many people just like us. We reactivated SLS and Kasidie, and created new accounts on SDC and Alt.com and have had fun with the overwhelming messages we get which is in essence, the problem we currently have re-starting what we never should have let fade away. While we met some fun couples during those 2 years on SLS/Kasidie, her SM playmates were always guys she already knew through work, so her FWBs were easy pickings. Finding a guy that is a good match for her online is not so easy as we have to weed through the fakes, freaks, and creeps that troll lifestyle sites and it never ceases to amaze me that so many SMs think that all Hotwives will fuck anybody with a warm dick. My queen needs a connection and has to actually like the guy, so that's been a challenge now that we both work from home and don't have that work connection any longer. Anyway my friends, she's been on several non-sex dates since re-starting the LS, but hasn't yet connected in the way she needs to have sex with another man, but we are out of the barn sitting at the starting gate and ready for the race to begin again...a marathon, not a sprint.

As a footnote, everybody finds their way, lots of trial and error, communication & adjustments, love, trust & respect. In 2016, we had a laundry list of rules and boundaries but by 2018, we had just 2: Be safe and have fun! Whatever gets her motor running, I'm 100% all-in.

[pixmangurn]

Nice re-intro!

[Deeperlove1369]

Nice re-intro!

Thank you pixmangurn, we love it!

[Bogdan]

Welcome Deeperlove1369, I really enjoyed reading your post. It's true, finding a trustworthy lover aint easy so investing some time in that will pay off in the end. We had the same problem and ended up asking her lover she knew from before our marriage to introduce new lovers and that works like a charm. Don't think about the 'lost' years but look at the future you have together and all the fun she will have once things start to roll again...

[Deeperlove1369]

Welcome Deeperlove1369, I really enjoyed reading your post. It's true, finding a trustworthy lover aint easy so investing some time in that will pay off in the end. We had the same problem and ended up asking her lover she knew from before our marriage to introduce new lovers and that works like a charm. Don't think about the 'lost' years but look at the future you have together and all the fun she will have once things start to roll again...

Thanks Bogdan! We've had many suitors from Kasidie, SLS, SDC, but some are fakes, some weren't who they said they were, some too aggressive and/or not respectful. We have about a dozen we are still vetting...but...she has taken a liking to a client and after some encouragement from me, they are now flirting pretty hard and the chemistry is there, so her body count is bout to go up and things are getting ready to roll again!! Not coincidentally, her previous FWBs were also guys she new through work relationships, so in-person has proven much more fruitful than on-line apps. That being said, he lives about 3 hours away, so I'm encouraging her to either take a "work trip" or even invite him here. He's very inquisitive as to our "situation", so he knows that she is allowed to play, but doesn't know the whole LS quite yet and is very willing to have fun and "see how this works". He texted her this morning that he wants to have his way with her when they meet again, so it looks like she'll be dipping her toes in the forbidden pond once again after 7 years out of the lifestyle. It's incredible how her libido gets kicked into high gear when she's being showered with desire...win-win-win for everybody!