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Hello to all!
My wife is super attractive and until very recently she loved to play. We have been in the lifestyle for over 10 years, and we have had incredible experiences, including several MFM and MFMF, DP a few times, and even a gangbang for her once, and she used to enjoy all these experiences, even though she doesn’t really like to plan anything herself. She is the type who prefers things to happen semi-spontaneously, so I was always the one who had to make things happen. She was also open on the idea of seeing one of her guys (whom we both can trust) on her own, though she never actually got to try this.
But after we had a child a year ago, she has changed. Not sure though if the change is real, or if she is just turned shy all of a sudden, and won’t admit she still likes it. We still had a nice recent MFM experience with DP a few months ago when one of her guys happened to be in town, and she had a great time, but he doesn’t come to town regularly, and she seems resistant to do things we enjoyed before, getting to meet new people, going to clubs, nude beach etc. Even after we make babysitting arrangements to have the day on our own for that purpose, she suddenly reverses course and says that she no longer likes guys bothering her etc., like she became a completely different person!
It is hard for me to explain and when I talk to her she just says that now things are different. Not sure if she changed for real though or the right situation has not happened, as we still fantasize together about those situations. Was tempted to “conspire” to coincidentally meet with some of the couples we know in a setting that looks coincidental to see her reaction, and find out if the change is for real or not, but I feel guilty not to be 100% sincere with her as I have always been.
What do you think? Anyone seen this situation before?

Yes. Been there about 35 years ago.

Motherhood is a life changer for all women. Each is going to have her own unique response and her own unique timetable to adapt to it. It is a new normal.

It's only been a year, my man. You should recognize that she is not ready to return to her hotwife hobbies right now.

And, to her great credit, she experienced a threesome just a couple months ago with one of her fuckbuddies. She's already been back in the saddle.

If she is resistant, don't push her. Give her love, support and sex from you when she wants it. Let her go the easy way.

Given her past adventures, perhaps her adventurous libido will return. Make it all about her in the meantime. Be invitational but let her desires inspire her return, not your pressure.

Thank you for the advice! Here is the dilemma: From her reactions, also including the recent MFM, I don’t get the impression at all that she no longer wants to play, or gets no enjoyment, otherwise the answer would be clear, and I wouldn’t even post on this forum. Quite the contrary! It is more like she doesn’t want to take the risk of taking the time for a new experience, or exploring, unless she is certain she will enjoy it. Being more risk averse, if you prefer to see it this way…I think if stars aligned and there was a situation to her taste she would be back to where she was…Also, it is worth mentioning that even in her wildest days before, she was rather picky who she played with and often if someone’s attitude rubbed her the wrong way, she would get cold for a while…But with the guys she clicks with, she always had a great time. Obviously I care most about her pleasure and well-being over anything else, but I am not sure what she really wants. Perhaps she is not sure either…

She may not know ahead of time but knows whether she enjoyed it or not after. At least if she is willing to try.