Intrigued but unsure
Posted: Tue Sep 23, 2025 12:55 am
Hi all, sorta new to the site, we r from SE Asia but been moving around countries due to studies and work, I'm 50 wife is 49, we are both of Chinese descent but spent many years living in Australia and Canada,
I would probably say I'm a closet HW enthusiast, not yet there but probably tip toeing around it, been following the idea for a few years due to a couple of events during our marriage, as well as finding out friends/acquaintances around me getting into it to some degree,
My idea of HW at the moment is to see wife enjoying other guys attention, showing confidence in response to the approach, perhaps even some physical if touch if she willing? Not sure about going further than this
Got fascinated to the HW idea after I found out wife had an affair a while back, to her credit she confessed rather than me finding out, we worked it out n so far things have gone well, but somehow, I began to develop this obsession on the thought of wife becoming adventurous, exploring her darker side so to speak? I dont know how to explain it but I guess u guys should get the idea
Naturally I loathed myself of having such deviant thoughts in the beginning, but now I see others have these thoughts as well,
As for my wife, there was this subtle change, she is now less modest verbally and in appearance tho nothing vulgar or trashy, which makes it even more appealing for me, and she is more approachable and less reserved when dealing with other mens attention, and there were a few incidents related to this which made me think that maybe she is actually starting to exploring this not sure whether she realized this changes or not herself?
Sex life is good, actually better after her affair which again I find it interesting,
Could the affair hav changed her? Made her more adventurous? Although that may not be intentional? Can anyone help me understand this?
I mentioned the idea as a passing conversation, however she found it silly but maybe just to deflect my curiousity on her changing attitude?
At the moment I decide to let things unfold as they are, no intervention
Anyhow, will be around and see how things go, cheers
I would probably say I'm a closet HW enthusiast, not yet there but probably tip toeing around it, been following the idea for a few years due to a couple of events during our marriage, as well as finding out friends/acquaintances around me getting into it to some degree,
My idea of HW at the moment is to see wife enjoying other guys attention, showing confidence in response to the approach, perhaps even some physical if touch if she willing? Not sure about going further than this
Got fascinated to the HW idea after I found out wife had an affair a while back, to her credit she confessed rather than me finding out, we worked it out n so far things have gone well, but somehow, I began to develop this obsession on the thought of wife becoming adventurous, exploring her darker side so to speak? I dont know how to explain it but I guess u guys should get the idea
Naturally I loathed myself of having such deviant thoughts in the beginning, but now I see others have these thoughts as well,
As for my wife, there was this subtle change, she is now less modest verbally and in appearance tho nothing vulgar or trashy, which makes it even more appealing for me, and she is more approachable and less reserved when dealing with other mens attention, and there were a few incidents related to this which made me think that maybe she is actually starting to exploring this not sure whether she realized this changes or not herself?
Sex life is good, actually better after her affair which again I find it interesting,
Could the affair hav changed her? Made her more adventurous? Although that may not be intentional? Can anyone help me understand this?
I mentioned the idea as a passing conversation, however she found it silly but maybe just to deflect my curiousity on her changing attitude?
At the moment I decide to let things unfold as they are, no intervention
Anyhow, will be around and see how things go, cheers