Asking GF to watch porn went wrong!

[Fapster69]

I'm definitely going to pump the breaks now that everything is out in the open! I still can't believe I actually told her!

I'll leave it a while and see if she ever brings it up I guess?

[Long Lurker 34]

I'm definitely going to pump the breaks now that everything is out in the open! I still can't believe I actually told her!

I'll leave it a while and see if she ever brings it up I guess?

F69 - It will be interesting to see which one of you "breaks" first when out in public. In that which one of you will point out to the other a black guy you think might "be her type."

[Fapster69]

I'm definitely going to pump the breaks now that everything is out in the open! I still can't believe I actually told her!

I'll leave it a while and see if she ever brings it up I guess?

F69 - It will be interesting to see which one of you "breaks" first when out in public. In that which one of you will point out to the other a black guy you think might "be her type."

I doubt she will ever bring it up again unless she has had a few drinks! I need to find another way to broach the subject when we are sober!

[Long Lurker 34]

I'm definitely going to pump the breaks now that everything is out in the open! I still can't believe I actually told her!

I'll leave it a while and see if she ever brings it up I guess?

F69 - It will be interesting to see which one of you "breaks" first when out in public. In that which one of you will point out to the other a black guy you think might "be her type."

I doubt she will ever bring it up again unless she has had a few drinks! I need to find another way to broach the subject when we are sober!

F69 - All YOU need to do is a slight tap with an elbow and perhaps a slight clearing of the throat.

[Fapster69]

F69 - All YOU need to do is a slight tap with an elbow and perhaps a slight clearing of the throat.

I made a joke about putting one of the videos on that I showed her the other night and she said, "absolutely not! "

The fact she can laugh about it is a good thing right?

[Long Lurker 34]

F69 - All YOU need to do is a slight tap with an elbow and perhaps a slight clearing of the throat.

I made a joke about putting one of the videos on that I showed her the other night and she said, "absolutely not! "

The fact she can laugh about it is a good thing right?

F69 - Or, as you stated, let sometime pass and nothing. Then when you know she is around and coming to bed?, put some head phones on and play a video you think might be of the correct content and wait for her to come in the room and "surprise" you. You'll either get a possible replay or totally shot down.

[Fapster69]

Today we watched porn again during sex and she was totally cool with it!

I put on a video where the hotwife looks like my girlfriend and my gf said, “my ass is better than hers! ” She then criticised the bedding in the video and said surely I could find a better video than this!

She’s went from hating porn to saying my porn isn’t good enough!! Now that she’s open to watching porn I need to sit down with her and find out what she’s into!

She also said to me, “I love how you say you want to watch me have sex, but if I turned around and said I’ve found someone you would panic! ”

I said, “do you have someone in mind? ” and she said no, she was just making a point. I then said if for “talking sake” it was really to happen, then it should be with someone from out of town (so no-one finds out).

She said she will never do it in real life but is fully open to indulging my fantasies during sex!

I don’t know where to go from here! I want to play around with the fantasy a bit more before I tell her I am actually serious about it!

She asked how I got into this fetish and I said I watched a video one day and was hooked! I told her I love watching her in action! She has sent me nudes before and I said that’s why I love your nudes too, you are a goddess to me and I love to look!

[TheHammer]

The door is now open, but enter carefully. Propose something benign like going to a bar but entering and sitting separately and you can watch guy’s approach her. You don’t even have to call it flirting. It’s just guys talking to her.

[Fapster69]

The door is now open, but enter carefully. Propose something benign like going to a bar but entering and sitting separately and you can watch guy’s approach her. You don’t even have to call it flirting. It’s just guys talking to her.

That’s a good idea!

I’m going to propose sharing a few of her nudes online and showing her mens reactions to them! She was against this in the past but now that she’s indulging my fantasy she might be more open to it! Seeing their comments might awaken something in her!

[Long Lurker 34]

Today we watched porn again during sex and she was totally cool with it!

I put on a video where the hotwife looks like my girlfriend and my gf said, “my ass is better than hers! ” She then criticised the bedding in the video and said surely I could find a better video than this!

She’s went from hating porn to saying my porn isn’t good enough!! Now that she’s open to watching porn I need to sit down with her and find out what she’s into!

She also said to me, “I love how you say you want to watch me have sex, but if I turned around and said I’ve found someone you would panic! ”

I said, “do you have someone in mind? ” and she said no, she was just making a point. I then said if for “talking sake” it was really to happen, then it should be with someone from out of town (so no-one finds out).

She said she will never do it in real life but is fully open to indulging my fantasies during sex!

I don’t know where to go from here! I want to play around with the fantasy a bit more before I tell her I am actually serious about it!

She asked how I got into this fetish and I said I watched a video one day and was hooked! I told her I love watching her in action! She has sent me nudes before and I said that’s why I love your nudes too, you are a goddess to me and I love to look!

F69 - I would say a good start would be having a casual talk about what her "type" is. Then when you are out together (timing and mood are everything of course) you could give her a nudge, nod "Does he fit the bill?" , or some other appropriate comment.

[irishmusicman]

I've seen several posts here where the wife/gf says no way and then (years later) changes her mind for one reason or another. Doesn't sound like she'll change her mind soon, but with enough baby steps you might see that wall come down. I'm lucky in that even though she's still processing it my wife seems very receptive to the idea as long as she's convinced I won't get hurt. We're going to have a talk on the 30th when she gets back from a short vacation and has had time to process her thoughts and concerns.

[PlayboyFan]

The door is now open, but enter carefully. Propose something benign like going to a bar but entering and sitting separately and you can watch guy’s approach her. You don’t even have to call it flirting. It’s just guys talking to her.

That’s a good idea!

going to propose sharing a few of her nudes online and showing her mens reactions to them! She was against this in the past but now that she’s indulging my fantasy she might be more open to it! Seeing their comments might awaken something in her!

Fascinating progress here Fapster. LOL. It’s almost like you are accidentally falling into progress that many never achieve with well thought out plans!

Seriously, you are very lucky. I was there once. It took me much longer to achieve even remotely the cooperation you are getting from your lovely wife…(GF?) I cant remember.

I’m impressed with your gutsiness. I recall the sheer terror.

If I can make one small suggestion…..consider taking her out to a nice quiet dinner and having a non-horny discussion where you can discuss your desires with her with a more…..rational…..approach. Trying to convey to her, and decipher WITH her where the origins of the fantasies came from, etc.

Its important that you convey that this is a fantasy you very much desire to experience WITH her….together…..as part of your maturing and developing sexual life together. Done tactfully, I think you have progressed to the point where you two can have non-horny, rational discussions.

The reason is, if its always discussed in the heat of the moment, then it will be harder for her to grasp the potential realities and get to her fears that inevitably hold her back. And make no mistake…..it is decades of social conditioning she is going to have to fight and overcome before hotwifing for real is a possibility. That is unlikely to happen if its always broached in the middle of passion.

Finally, when it comes to taking the step between fantasy and reality…..that simply will not happen until an actual, real other man has become a possibility. You can wind her up and get her to fantasize until the cows come home, but it will remain a fantasy until a real man is in her realm of possibility. That is often easier said than done.

My suggestion is, since she is open to playing games with you…..ask her to join you and you both create an anonymous profile of a dating/hookup app with a few non-identifiable photos of her. She will start getting messages and there will be plenty of nutty messages, dick pics, total losers, etc. You both will be able to have good many laughs at many of the respondents.

However……there will be one….or two……that she wont laugh at. Somebody she finds attractive and charming will ask to message her, and then call her…..and then ask to meet her for coffee.

That….will be the point where this takes its most significant leap. Trust me.

PBF

[Fapster69]

Fascinating progress here Fapster. LOL. It’s almost like you are accidentally falling into progress that many never achieve with well thought out plans!

Seriously, you are very lucky. I was there once. It took me much longer to achieve even remotely the cooperation you are getting from your lovely wife…(GF?) I cant remember.

I’m impressed with your gutsiness. I recall the sheer terror.

We've been together 10+ years now so we're at the point where we can tell each other anything!

It was still extremely difficult to come out with but I'm glad it finally worked and she was eventually receptive to it!

I think the main thing for her is that she doesn't want me using this as an opportunity to sleep with other women! She has been extremely loyal to me through our whole relationship, so I think me telling her this fantasy was out of left field because I had never once hinted at it in the time we've been together!

I think the next step will definitely be getting her speaking to people online. I'd rather we started slowly like that instead of jumping straight into real life meetups!

[PlayboyFan]

Fascinating progress here Fapster. LOL. It’s almost like you are accidentally falling into progress that many never achieve with well thought out plans!

Seriously, you are very lucky. I was there once. It took me much longer to achieve even remotely the cooperation you are getting from your lovely wife…(GF?) I cant remember.

I’m impressed with your gutsiness. I recall the sheer terror.

We've been together 10+ years now so we're at the point where we can tell each other anything!

It was still extremely difficult to come out with but I'm glad it finally worked and she was eventually receptive to it!

I think the main thing for her is that she doesn't want me using this as an opportunity to sleep with other women! She has been extremely loyal to me through our whole relationship, so I think me telling her this fantasy was out of left field because I had never once hinted at it in the time we've been together!

I think the next step will definitely be getting her speaking to people online. I'd rather we started slowly like that instead of jumping straight into real life meetups!

Yes. Highly recommended. Its easily anonymous, which allows it to be another step forward but harmless fun if approached correctly.

The effect of the fun and the flattery she will receive cannot be overstated. She will get compliments and invitations etc. That is when you will see a difference. Trust me.

Good luck on this next step.

PBF