Happy being a wannabe

[RHotwife1981]

I think we might be happy staying wannabes. My wife has religious issues with being a hotwife. She’s not much better being a wannabe. I don’t like to see her get stressed out over this stuff- being pulled in both directions

[leggysman]

I think we might be happy staying wannabes. My wife has religious issues with being a hotwife. She’s not much better being a wannabe. I don’t like to see her get stressed out over this stuff- being pulled in both directions

This 'lifestyle' is not necessarily the right fit for every wife/couple/marriage. Good for you knowing the difference. Fantasy can be a fun, hot enhancement to a couple's sex life - even if it never graduates to desire or action.

[typerope77]

My wife used to be this way. We spent a lot of time deconstructing our faith after COVID and concluded church was not for us anymore and we started talk therapy (both individually and as a couple). It's been amazing to see our growth as human beings, as a couple, and her transformation into an almost-hotwife over the past few years.

She still denies it will ever happen "for real" BUT in all other aspects she is a dream woman. She actively participates and initiates "sharing" fantasies in the bedroom, wants to watch porn together and we cum to our favorite scenes, begs me to treat her like a slut and slap her around, loves when I pretend to be a man her husband has "invited over" to fuck her, our kids even call the celebrities she thinks are hot "mommy's pretend boyfriends", she gets off when I brag to my friends how I use her (anal, deepthroat, swallow, creampies, etc). She wants them to know she will do things their gfs won't but is strictly against attention-seeking (true submissive) so she wants me telling whem for her lol. I'm not complaining!

These are things I thought absolutely impossible 4 years ago when I was a deacon in our church and she was in children's ministry. Funny how things change so rapidly when we got away from the mind control institutions and start loving yourself.

And all that to say, I'm quite happy being a Wannabe. Things continue to evolve. Enjoy the ride!

[Badapple39]

While you say your wife is happy being a wannabe. I would like to tell you I enjoy being a wannnabe. My wife would prefer to be a hotwife. In the right scenario but we havent found a real life scenario we both enjoy.
My wife doesn’t like to pretend she likes the scenario. Hmm
I prefer to pretend. So many reasons. So many issues. We probably would need therapy to get to this level but since there is no willingness for recreation it may take us years upon years.
Enjoy what you have it sounds awesome.
I’m stuck on, she would rather be friends with her bull and me friends with them (I’m a picky friend picker as is), vs one night stands or nights out alone.
We are strong but on different levels.

[trecital]

I think we might be happy staying wannabes. My wife has religious issues with being a hotwife. She’s not much better being a wannabe. I don’t like to see her get stressed out over this stuff- being pulled in both directions

This 'lifestyle' is not necessarily the right fit for every wife/couple/marriage. Good for you knowing the difference. Fantasy can be a fun, hot enhancement to a couple's sex life - even if it never graduates to desire or action.

Agreed.

Fantasy is often underrated. I think people assume that the reality will always be better than the fantasy.
It often isn't.
Reality requires all the participants to be 'on the same page', if it's going to be like the fantasy. And that's rarely the case. The other participants in the reality often have their own agenda, and things can quickly get out of control.

FOMO.....'fear of missing out'. It's a powerful emotion.

It's great that you are happy with your choices.

[Pufferfish]

There's nothing wrong with being a wannabe. It's one of those things where once you go through with it for real there's only 1 of 2 possible outcomes, either there's no going back because it's so great, or the fantasy is ruined and there's no going back. Either way there's no going back. So it's kind of like being a virgin. Some people are eager to be rid of it as soon as possible, and some people treasure it for as long as they are able. There is no wrong answer for it, it's whatever way you want to treat it.

[Justaregularguy]

I think we might be happy staying wannabes. My wife has religious issues with being a hotwife. She’s not much better being a wannabe. I don’t like to see her get stressed out over this stuff- being pulled in both directions

Totally agree with this… more than happy if it never happens. The fantasy is great and I like where we are… would have to be very special circumstances for us to take a step and do it.

[SilverStag]

Congratulations on finding YOUR way. If it makes both of you happy, then it is right for you. If, in the future, you want to explore more, you have the template for doing only as much as you both feel comfortable with.

As is often said, this is the candy sprinkles on the sundae of your relationship. It isn't the entire meal

[Bluetoed]

Our marriage is incredibly better now that my wife learned of my fantasy and has adopted it as her own too.

Many reasons we will never make it a reality, and that doesn't bother us at all. The fantasy is absolutely amazing and we want to keep it.