Recommend App for Breaking the Ice

[RoanokeGuy77]

My girlfriend and I have skirted around the idea of a threesome a few times, mainly pillow talk and a little role-playing with toys. It's definitely her fantasy and mine to include another guy. I've been very reluctant to flat out say some of my fantasies.

Somone on reddit suggested the app Spicer. I highly recommend it!

You and your partner basically get asked the same questions and it shows you each other's answers. You can chat back and forth on individual questions. I didn't pay a penny and and I'm guessing there's about over 100 questions and you also get new daily questions.

The free questions include things about threesomes and watching your partner with someone else, etc.. For example, my girlfriend said YES to "Would you like to perform oral sex on somone else while my partner watches". It's fun to chat back and for about our responses. If anything, it has been a great icebreaker for me to be able to talk more openly about pursuing this lifestyle.

Just wanted to mention this for those like me that are looking for a way to kickstart being able to talk about this lifestyle with their partner.

[FerranB]

Thank you for your suggestion! We have installed the app and started using it. I don't know what will end up, but the app is a great help!"

[Pufferfish]

There's several of these types of questionnaires where it shows each other the answers or only shows the answers if you both select you're interested in the same thing...

The problem is, MOST women still aren't honest when answering them most of the time and still only (mostly) tell the truth when it's something not involving sleeping with someone else. So she'll open up about wanting to try being blindfolded or tied up or something, but will still likely not say that she fantasizes about another guy with a big dick fucking her. I tried this with my wife back when I was also afraid to bring it up. And like most women, she answered "no" to any question involving another person. And yes, she was lying. She answered yes to a few questions about kinkier stuff to get the conversation started, but I still had to broach the topic without her saying she was interested.

But regardless, it's a great way to at least get the conversation started. And once you both open up a little, then you can tell her about hotwifing and exactly why it turns you on so much. The only sure fire way to get her to open up to the idea is to lay all your cards on the table and tell her that you fantasize about her having sex with other men. The worst part is the fear about telling her your fantasy and skirting the issue. Once you actually start talking about it, it'll get exciting.

[hubudig2]

Suggesting a quiz is a good icebreaker.
From my experiences (talking with other couples) I've found that if doing a quiz feels like an icebreaker then chances are that one of you isn't overly kinky or comfortable with being open about it and you'll end up with matches for things like massages, kissing and lingerie which may feel like an underwhelming result.

I have spoken to couples that were both kinky but had underwhelming results because they wanted different things e.g. he wants a threesome with another girl, she wants a threesome with another guy.
In this situation, I would usually aim to work on them being more open and honest about their desires and past experiences with each other.
Sometimes it's preferable to pretend that your other half doesn't have desires/experiences that you don't like the sound of but when you find out they do, it can be an unexpected turn-on or open you up to new ideas. For example, I've known couples that have got into cuckolding because she's confessed to cheating and he found it to be an intoxicating concept.

I had a go at creating a quiz myself, with more emphasis on desires/experiences.
It's definitely not in the same league or as beginner friendly as spicer but it's a different angle and serves a different purpose.
You can find it on my website, there's a link on the contact button to the right -->
I'd love to hear any feedback on it (not on this thread though please, I'm not trying to hijack it).

[Justaregularguy]

We use spicer; we’ve found it a massive turn on for us both