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[delhiguy]

Hey everyone, some interesting events are happening in my life between me and my girlfriend now fiance. I want to use this space to collect my thoughts and maybe get the opinion and suggestions of this community. My thoughts might be here and there so bear with me.
TLDR - A third person is flirting with my fiance and she seems to be ok with it and I am not stopping it. Hoping in the back of my mind that it might evolve into making my fantasies come alive.

Long version -
I have some cuckold fantasies due to exposure to porn and visiting erotica story sites. Just the thought of someone you love enjoying with someone else makes my mind go wild. I have visited this forum and read multiple stories so I have the general idea of do's and don'ts but it actually happening to you is different so I might need some inputs and help. I will not post regularly because I have a job, but might come back to give small updates.

So my gf and I have been together since 2 years and she had a few boyfriends before me. She is still a virgin but we have tried all other things apart from penetration and I am not the first person she tried everything with. This thought alone makes me wild.

We live in India, but due to family matters she has been living around a 1000 kms away from me in a different state just months after we started dating. We got engaged this year and are going to marry early next year. She will be coming to her home near me in August and will ne living here only with her parents until we are married, but currently she lives and has a job in a different state.
Long distance has its issues and we see each other after a few months when she visits me or I go to her. But mostly it is good. We talk on call and video call, spend time with each other and when we meet we spend time together and its awesome.

Talking about her she is slim, a little shorter than me, looks amazing and has a great body. She works out in a gym and has been looking amazing. She doesn't have huge tits, but they are amazing and she's got a great ass after she started working out. She is a very sexual person and although we have not had penetration sex, she enjoys and loves to try everything else when we are together. The reason for her being a virgin is that she's spiritual and religious and doesn't want to do it before we are married. Although we are engaged, she's still avoiding it, but we have had discussions to do it the next time she's here and we meet. (The upbringing and values here in India is different so feel free to ask anything else related to this. i might go into detail in my later posts if needed.)
Even though we dont meet, we do roleplays together on chat and she's ok in sharing her pictures while we do it. We have almost done all the roleplays with interesting storylines and fantasies that makes her satisfied while I jerk off looking at the pictures and videos she sends. That is the one thing with her I look forward to. And on special occasions we drink over video calls which sometimes leads to masterbating together over video.
She's conservative but still has a wild side. And while initially she was reserved about doing these, we have evolved together and reached this point by building trust in each other. But, I have never revealed any of my cuckold fantasies as im not sure how she'll react and think about me. I dont want to ruin what we have. And during our roleplays when i tried to play with her in fron of someone else, she had stopped me so i did not go any further and had stopped with that fantasy with her altogether. I had thoughts about it but never thought it will happen so had dropped any plans of doing anything.

During these drunk conversations maybe like half a month back, we were playing games over video call and discussing fantasies. And somehow we started talking about threesomes. We had never had this discussion in details but due to the drinks we continued. She revealed that she finds it hot and have seen it in porn. When I asked which threesome she said MMF. While she asked me I said i liked both but MMF is interesting as i like seeing her pleasured as well. We talked more and I asked her what she liked about mmf, she said she liked that she can suck someone else off while getting pleasured by someone else from the back. That was a very fun day for me and I got to know a lot about her and just to check if it can happen someday, I actually asked her if she will be willing to do it. She said she might but inly the mmf. I said I am okay with that as it will be exciting. I said how and when, she said she's not sure and we can talk later, but she scared about someone recording her and sharing it. Anyway she changed the topic soon when i said we can be discreet. I did not pressure further as i was just trying ro be aloof and just to get an idea about what her thoughts were and to avoid scaring her.
Anyway after all these discussions my mind went into a different mode and I cant stop thinking about all the possibilities about it actually happening.
During the discussion about our next roleplay i asked her to setup the storyline and hinted that she should go with a threesome one. I did not discuss further with her. But during the night of the roleplay she had actually setup a MFF story instead to pleasure me. I told her that i was assuming she was planning mmf, but she said that she wanted me to be happy and went with that. She's a great girlfriend. Although i was a bit disappointed at first but she sent me pics and videos of her in two different attire for two different girls and me enjoying with both pf them which was amazing. We had a great time and i complimented her a lot about her looks and body and how great she is for planning all this and when i hinted that the next story i will be doing and it will be to pleasure her and will be a mmf, she laughed and said ok. This is yet to happen and when i asked what should be the storyline about the mmf she left it to me. I tried getting more details but she was not wiling so i dropped it. I have yet to come up with it to try to take this further and want to do it such that we discuss more to make this a reality. I have some ideas but will think later. Maybe someone from you might suggest on how can i go with this.

But, now coming to the main thing which happened. She has to go to her office which takes around 20 25.minutes. but she doesn't drive and usually takes a cab. But due to some apps offering economical rides with other people who drive to office, she started using that to pool to her office with other office goers using that app which connects people going on the same route. Initially she was going with random people, but one of them started going with her regularly. I did not think much of it initially. But she started telling me more about him, like he doesn't take money from her and flirts with her a little. It made me curious. And after the threesome discussion incident, i started looking at this differently. So anyway last night we had a long discussion on this over video call and beer. She said that guy T lives near her apartment and initially she used to go with him through the app but when they started to connect together frequently, they exchanged numbers and mostly go together. She has to go to office thrice a week and whenever she asks him, hes ready and he plans his trips according to her. She noticed he was being very nice to her and revealed to him that she's engaged and doesn't want to give any hints and nothing can happen with them. She said he was understanding and told her she can stop everything if she starts getting uncomfortable. He said that they can just be friends but he is attracted to her and wants to continue taking to her. She was ok with it but she drew a line telling him that she loves me and is engaged and getting married and for him to stop amd thoughts. He was ok with that. She asked me how i felt about all this. I didnt want to ruin anything so i explained to her that itz normal for two people like this and as long as she's just hanging out and is open with me about everything I am ok with her decisions. She continued and revealed that he lives with his roommate and is mot seeing anyone. He has also said that he will sketch a picture of her as a farewell present as she comes to live near me in August. He's been flirting with her complimenting her on her looks and dress and have asked her to go out over coffee or lunch. I assured her that its alright as friends do this and as long as she tells me and shared im ok. I told her i trust her. Even she revealed she wont do anything which will ruin our love and marriage. She said that he got sad when she paid him back for the rides and has asked her for coffee today. As i write this she has gone for a coffee with him during her work hours near her office. We talked before that and i have been teasing her that its a date. She said its not and dates are the one she has with me and i said even friends can go on dates. I don't want to pressure her in doing anything but will not stop her and want to see how much further this can go. She might stop it entirely if he does something as she's committed to me. Even I'm not sure about myself. I might chicken out if things go out of hand. But all the threesome talk and this guy, i am not stopping anything as of now and have kind of been encouraging her on it. I even wished her goodluck on her coffee date. And she jokingly said that what kind of a guy sends her gf on a date and i laughed and said i was teasing her.
I have made it clear to her that i trust her and am ok with her decisions and she can talk to and spend time with whoever she wants and enjoy life as we dont live close together. even told her that she has toll August after which she's only mine and can only spend time with me. She said she loves that.
When i asked her if she will have lunch with him, she said she doesn't want to go that far and give wrong hints. I told her its only lunch in her office, she said she'll see. I even asked her what if he asks her for dinner or to a cafe or pub in the evening. I was a little shocked when instead of saying no, she said that her family will ask questions about where she's going and all. I told her she can say she's out with friends like she's gone before, but she said its tough. Idk why she didnt say no to it.
Anyway i complimented her a lot last night on her looks and was supportive of her. Even she said, she's been getting a lot of looks in her office. One thing led to another while we were talking and how hot she was looking and she we ended up masterbating togther. We did not discuss any topic, but just mutually undressed and started doing it looking at each other.

Anyway im here thinking about what might she be doing with him, its been 50 minutes and she has not responded to my text even.

I will end it all here and might add an update later, if i missed something and to update what happened next.

Also, i will need you guys help to plan this out and how to continue on this. I dont want to ruin anything but also would.like to see how this goes. I have thought of her in many different possibilities and have jerked off to then together. But when it comes to real life idk if it will happen.
Also, i would love your thoughts on the story on the mmf threesome and how to take that forward. I think i missed that during that threesome discussion, i said that we can go out of country on a trip and then try the threesome with someone from there to avoid any mishap. She seemed interested but she said we'll see later.
Any suggestions are welcome

[hubudig2]

She will no doubt be enjoying the attention she's getting from this other guy.
From his perspective, he probably feels like his time is running out and will want to get as close to her as she will allow in that time.
As the deadline gets nearer, don't be surprised if he tries to push her out of her comfort zone.
She will be trying to strike a balance between enjoying the attention he gives her and feeling guilt for leading him on more than she should.
That might mean that she turns a blind eye to some of his advances in order to enjoy more attention without the guilt.

Even though your post is very detailed, I don't understand your dynamic and culture enough to know whether to suggest telling her about your fantasies or not. It sounds like you're already hinting at it with her and she seems to be ok with it. It will certainly help her not to feel guilty when you're being so supportive.

As for the mmf story, use it to test her reaction to ideas you find hot. You don't have to completely divulge your dream scenario but create a mix of what you think she would like, what you think is "normal" (for an mmf) and mix in some of what you would like.
If you find the idea of watching hotter than participating, factor that in. Maybe make it so that you cum but the other guy continues and you just offer her kissing/affection while he continues. You soon get hard again from watching to be able to continue..?
It's just an example, take a little cuckolding tangent but don't make it the focus and don't dwell on it or end on it. See how she reacts to it.

[delhiguy]

I couldn't update as my post was going through moderator.

She replied back around 1:45 minutes after she had gone. They went via his car and she said they got late, due to trouble finding parking spot.
Nothing much happened, they went to starbucks, had coffee, talked about stuff and got back. She said he's a gentleman and he respects her and my relationship and doesn't want to get in between. She said the sketch will be completed and he will give her on friday. When i asked her if anything out of the ordinary happened, she said no. So i didn't pry further. In my later talks i will try to get if they have planned any more meetings together. She will go to her office next friday and will neet then.
I was a tiny bit disappointed about nothing happening. Or maybe she didnt reveal it. But i trust her and she would have said it. Talking to her more will get more details. I dont want to only talk about this and make her creep out so just tried to be aloof and change the topic.
I have planned to discuss a few points with her so that things dont go out of hand.
1. She will keep me informed, when she's left to meet him and update me in between
2. I trust her decisions and respect her but if any point of time i feel insecure she should respect mine as well and should break all contacts.
3. She should avoid revealing our talks to him, which might make him feel different about me.
4. And to promise to tell me every detail without being afraid as i will be supportive of her.

Anyway this was all i could think of. Will add anything else later.

[delhiguy]

She will no doubt be enjoying the attention she's getting from this other guy.
From his perspective, he probably feels like his time is running out and will want to get as close to her as she will allow in that time.
As the deadline gets nearer, don't be surprised if he tries to push her out of her comfort zone.
She will be trying to strike a balance between enjoying the attention he gives her and feeling guilt for leading him on more than she should.
That might mean that she turns a blind eye to some of his advances in order to enjoy more attention without the guilt.

Even though your post is very detailed, I don't understand your dynamic and culture enough to know whether to suggest telling her about your fantasies or not. It sounds like you're already hinting at it with her and she seems to be ok with it. It will certainly help her not to feel guilty when you're being so supportive.

As for the mmf story, use it to test her reaction to ideas you find hot. You don't have to completely divulge your dream scenario but create a mix of what you think she would like, what you think is "normal" (for an mmf) and mix in some of what you would like.
If you find the idea of watching hotter than participating, factor that in. Maybe make it so that you cum but the other guy continues and you just offer her kissing/affection while he continues. You soon get hard again from watching to be able to continue..?
It's just an example, take a little cuckolding tangent but don't make it the focus and don't dwell on it or end on it. See how she reacts to it.

Truly said and i agree with your points. But according to her he seems to be a good guy and have not been trying much. Maybe he's waiting for the right moment. She said he's not event tried to touch her or anything. Time will tell. I won't be pushing her to do anything. Will just encourage her that im ok with her hanging out with him and my tactic is to tease her like calling it a date and see her reactions. Im planning to start calling him her boyfriend. I have yet to ask her how she thinks about him like if he's attractive to her. Will do that in time.
She surely does like the attention she's been getting. She even tells me that she wants to try wearing sports bra in her gym, and teased me that other guys will stare at her. So she likes it.

Coming to the story, i have planned to use some story with me being her boyfriend, her and a third guy. Have not decided on the setting. But i will try to materialize the third guy in our roleplay to someone she knows, maybe will start with some actor and try to come towards T to see how she reacts. My plan is to do this while we are drunk. And go ahead with the story. I dont know if it will happen. She might stop me entirely. But if she goes ahead, i want to create a connection with him with the story and will tease her later on it. This is my current plan. Maybe this will lead to something. I just need a good setting and storyline to keep her hooked which will turn her on. About adding the cuckolding thing, i dont want to add that just yet as she might get creeped out. Maybe i will just hint at it.
Thanks for gour reply

[aztd]

The seed is planted please keep us updated things as things progress. Very hot

[leggysman]

I think things sound promising for the future. You're trying not to pressure her, and that's good. But, I think you need to practice patience.

In my opinion you should not go down this path while you're long-distance, and haven't even fully established your sexual relationship together. I don't think you should encourage her to see this other guy -- cool your jets for now, my good man.

My guess is that, if she becomes a hotwife, it will be a few years down the road after you are married. Having very young children around might also delay things, if that's what you two are planning.

Keep your sex life fun, keep the fantasy and spicy talk going, be patient, be honest (tell her what you actually want -- don't hedge by saying you'd "be ok with ..." -- trust in her enough to reveal your true self), be consistent, and never push. Talk about it with her whenever you can, but choose the right moments. Ah yes - it's the art of being married

[delhiguy]

I think things sound promising for the future. You're trying not to pressure her, and that's good. But, I think you need to practice patience.

In my opinion you should not go down this path while you're long-distance, and haven't even fully established your sexual relationship together. I don't think you should encourage her to see this other guy -- cool your jets for now, my good man.

My guess is that, if she becomes a hotwife, it will be a few years down the road after you are married. Having very young children around might also delay things, if that's what you two are planning.

Keep your sex life fun, keep the fantasy and spicy talk going, be patient, be honest (tell her what you actually want -- don't hedge by saying you'd "be ok with ..." -- trust in her enough to reveal your true self), be consistent, and never push. Talk about it with her whenever you can, but choose the right moments. Ah yes - it's the art of being married

I agree with you, but when she faces situations like this, I can check her reactions and do accordingly. I am not forcing her to do anything. Just being supportive of her decisions. I know, I am a little excited on the prospects of something happening, but won't try anything to ruin our relationship.
Depending on the guy and the effect he has on her maybe in future something can happen. But I want to establish that I am ok if things are civil to some extent and not try to control her. This is a good opportunity for that. And during drunk talks, I get her reaction on things that's a plus point. I can't outright say to her that I want her to have sex with someone else and make me watch. Just taking baby steps.
Thanks for your views. Comments from others helps me see things in different perspective.

[patw3268]

It’s got to be a lot of emotions for her as being a virgin the first guy means a lot. I think you could wreck your marriage going into this path. For now focus on the mfm porn and keep the idea warm for her. As for the other guy she’s spending time with. Be engaged when she talks about him but don’t be pushy. If she sees you’re not jealous it may leave the door open in the future. Think long term.

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[delhiguy]

It’s got to be a lot of emotions for her as being a virgin the first guy means a lot. I think you could wreck your marriage going into this path. For now focus on the mfm porn and keep the idea warm for her. As for the other guy she’s spending time with. Be engaged when she talks about him but don’t be pushy. If she sees you’re not jealous it may leave the door open in the future. Think long term.

Yep agreed. Just reassuring her that it's ok

[delhiguy]

Update:
Nothing else happened. Tomorrow she'll be going to work from office and he will be dropping and picking her up.
She said he'll give her the sketch he made for her as well.
I didnt want to creep her out so didn't ask much.
Will check back with her tomorrow on hota it went.
But thinking about her being with him, while he might be flirting with her is a weird feeling. Im jealous as well as curious about what if something happens.

[Hawthorne34]

Thank you for sharing. I am looking forward to seeing how this develops.

[delhiguy]

So wanted to add an update. It's Saturday night. Things have moved a little. I wanted to add it yesterday, but due to limited interaction om the post and my replies don't go instantly but is moderated, I avoided.
Adding what happened on Friday and Saturday altogether.
I will call my fiance S and the guy T.
So my gf went to office with him dropping her off and he had made a pencil sketch for her, which he brought with him.
He showed her that and she liked it, she was generous towards him because someone rarely does that for her. He was trying to be more flirty with her. He went off route and took long for them to reach office and had kept rose petals on the visor of his car and asked her to check the mirror when they dropped off.
He's getting a bit more romantic for my liking. Im not sure if i should be ok with that. Even she was uncomfortable and scolded him for doing so. His reply what that he likes seeing her happy and doing such gestures.
But after this S also took a backstep as she didnt want to hurt him when she would have to stop seeing him. He said that he will exit her life when she's uncomfortable but him doing romantic things is uncalled for. Anyway he asked her for lunch in office, but she said she had other plans, because she lunches with her colleagues.
During all this I talked to S on call and we discussed.
While going back home from office, again he tried asking her out for going somewhere, but the act that he tried to pull and the fact that she had not discussed that with me she denied.
When we were both back home, we had a long discussion about everything.
She explained how she felt special when he did it for her, the sketch and the flowers. And she is generous and might gift him something, but the flowers part was uncalled for. She thought of hiding that from me and how will i react. But i told her that she didn't have to hide anythinf and we should be on the same page. We can discuss together on what to do and take it accordingly.

I even discussed how he was and if she was uncomfortable around him. She told me he was a good person, she trusts him, she likes spending time and talking and he looks ok goes to the gym and dresses nice. All this made my heart racing. But i assured her that all was ok. And they can be friends and to ask him to stop the romantic stuff
I even hinted to her that all this makes me jealous a little but its exciting for me and also that the fact that someone likes her and she spends time with him and flirt, makes me want her more and makes me like her more. I did not outright told her about the cuckold part of it, but maybe this can be a start
Anyway, she said she will tone down the spending time part because he might get attached and it might hurt him when she has to leave. He has also started to tell her that he thinks she likes him as well. But she assured me that's not the case and even i trust her.
Now Saturday morning today he had been avoiding her and not replying to her, she told me. She said its for the good only.
But evening came, she said she felt a little bad for him as she didn't want to just end things on bad terms and wanted to ease out slowly or maybe remain friends, also she felt bad that she took the sketch gift from him without anything in return. So she tried taking to him and explained about it. They're just talking normally for now. And when i asked if she will meet him she said she will see. Maybe once or twice or for tea and coffee. She feels like its her fault, bit she had been clear with him since day1. Its he who's going out of line.
That's all that we discussed.
I have mixed feelings about it now. Like i have thought about them together a lot in different situations and have jerked off thinking about everything and how it would progress. But it happening in real life is different. And him going romantic with her is a no for me as that is only reserved for me and her.
I'll still support her decisions and see where it goes, if it starts going off then will ask her to stop. But, if he plays his cards right, just maybe it might happen.

What are you guys thoughts? Am I doing somethings wrong. Should i avoid all this if i want a happy life with her? Im in a dilemma and my penis brain when thinks of them together of her in his arms him rubbing her pussy and later on her lips on his dick, i start thinking the opposite. A bit confused here. Will see how it plays out and will do accordingly.
But the one thing this has given me, is a chance for an open discussion with her. We are getting more close together it seems. And the trust is increasing. Maybe with this i can open up about the cuckold part of it a little as things progress and see what her thoughts are on it.
The roleplay part is still pending. That might take time, as we did the last one a week back. And usually, there's some gap. Still hoping for the best in that.
Anyway will update later.

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[delhiguy]

Update:
Today is Tuesday. Yesterday on monday she went to office with him. He had coffee ready for her and took an extra round while they were drinking coffee together.
During the afternoon they went in the office cafe to drink some juice together.
And she came back home with him.
She didn't report anything else that happened.
Did we scare him off? Should i do something to encourage her.
Although they spend time together and he flirts a little, nothing much. Will give it some time.
She will be back to me in August.
Will update if anything else happens

[sandy691196]

So wanted to add an update. It's Saturday night. Things have moved a little. I wanted to add it yesterday, but due to limited interaction om the post and my replies don't go instantly but is moderated, I avoided.
Adding what happened on Friday and Saturday altogether.
I will call my fiance S and the guy T.
So my gf went to office with him dropping her off and he had made a pencil sketch for her, which he brought with him.
He showed her that and she liked it, she was generous towards him because someone rarely does that for her. He was trying to be more flirty with her. He went off route and took long for them to reach office and had kept rose petals on the visor of his car and asked her to check the mirror when they dropped off.
He's getting a bit more romantic for my liking. Im not sure if i should be ok with that. Even she was uncomfortable and scolded him for doing so. His reply what that he likes seeing her happy and doing such gestures.
But after this S also took a backstep as she didnt want to hurt him when she would have to stop seeing him. He said that he will exit her life when she's uncomfortable but him doing romantic things is uncalled for. Anyway he asked her for lunch in office, but she said she had other plans, because she lunches with her colleagues.
During all this I talked to S on call and we discussed.
While going back home from office, again he tried asking her out for going somewhere, but the act that he tried to pull and the fact that she had not discussed that with me she denied.
When we were both back home, we had a long discussion about everything.
She explained how she felt special when he did it for her, the sketch and the flowers. And she is generous and might gift him something, but the flowers part was uncalled for. She thought of hiding that from me and how will i react. But i told her that she didn't have to hide anythinf and we should be on the same page. We can discuss together on what to do and take it accordingly.

I even discussed how he was and if she was uncomfortable around him. She told me he was a good person, she trusts him, she likes spending time and talking and he looks ok goes to the gym and dresses nice. All this made my heart racing. But i assured her that all was ok. And they can be friends and to ask him to stop the romantic stuff
I even hinted to her that all this makes me jealous a little but its exciting for me and also that the fact that someone likes her and she spends time with him and flirt, makes me want her more and makes me like her more. I did not outright told her about the cuckold part of it, but maybe this can be a start
Anyway, she said she will tone down the spending time part because he might get attached and it might hurt him when she has to leave. He has also started to tell her that he thinks she likes him as well. But she assured me that's not the case and even i trust her.
Now Saturday morning today he had been avoiding her and not replying to her, she told me. She said its for the good only.
But evening came, she said she felt a little bad for him as she didn't want to just end things on bad terms and wanted to ease out slowly or maybe remain friends, also she felt bad that she took the sketch gift from him without anything in return. So she tried taking to him and explained about it. They're just talking normally for now. And when i asked if she will meet him she said she will see. Maybe once or twice or for tea and coffee. She feels like its her fault, bit she had been clear with him since day1. Its he who's going out of line.
That's all that we discussed.
I have mixed feelings about it now. Like i have thought about them together a lot in different situations and have jerked off thinking about everything and how it would progress. But it happening in real life is different. And him going romantic with her is a no for me as that is only reserved for me and her.
I'll still support her decisions and see where it goes, if it starts going off then will ask her to stop. But, if he plays his cards right, just maybe it might happen.

What are you guys thoughts? Am I doing somethings wrong. Should i avoid all this if i want a happy life with her? Im in a dilemma and my penis brain when thinks of them together of her in his arms him rubbing her pussy and later on her lips on his dick, i start thinking the opposite. A bit confused here. Will see how it plays out and will do accordingly.
But the one thing this has given me, is a chance for an open discussion with her. We are getting more close together it seems. And the trust is increasing. Maybe with this i can open up about the cuckold part of it a little as things progress and see what her thoughts are on it.
The roleplay part is still pending. That might take time, as we did the last one a week back. And usually, there's some gap. Still hoping for the best in that.
Anyway will update later.

Hi Delhiguy..

Let me try to help things along a bit, as a fellow Indian.

1) Do you have cuckold or hotwifing fantasies? Do you want her to get physical with other guys?
2) If yes, then what are your concerns? I see that you are put off by someone trying to get "romantic" with her. So you want pure sex on the side for her.. without any romance?
3) Have you role played this with her during video sex? No? Why? Are you scared that she will be suspicious about your manhood, your intentions and might feel unsure about your commitment?
4) Do you feel this guy presents a convenient opportunity for you to explore the kink since she wont see him again ever and it can be an exciting, short lived thing which you too can get hot thinking about together after marriage? After all its an ideal situation. They are already friendly. The guy is obviously interested in her and he knows about you and the fact she is leaving soon. Still he is trying his luck for a short term fun.

Now let me try to help you with your decision:

* You first let her know that as a guy, you feel more turned on about her and proud when other men want her. It makes it competitive and makes you feel lucky to have her.
* Confide that you have read and watched porn wife sharing and it has made you hot. Tell her your only concern is about emotional involvement and that you are emotionally a very very possessive lover / husband.
* Say that you had a dream or fantasy in half sleep, about she doing something physical with him and it made you cum without hands! tell her you have been trying to understand this yourself and hence didn't share with her till now. But now you have solved the riddle. You read on the internet and found that lots of guys get triggered by safe wife sharing where there is no risk of complications or losing one's partner. In this case, you now realise that the safety factor made you unknowingly hot and keen to pursue this.
* A guy giving flowers to her means NOTHING at this stage. How will he go about hitting on her and making his interest known? See it from his point of view. if he makes any direct physical move, he risks getting slapped and/or arrested! So how does he play safe? he does something polite and "non-physical" which is also cute and shows his interest. Thus the flowers!
* There is no chance of hurting him since he knows the score. He knows she is engaged and about to move away. So there is NO scope for any expectations.
* See her reaction after you have told her the above stuff. If she reacts with anger and hurt then immediately back off and pass it on to hot material for mutual fantasy and not reality. Tell her fantasies with a real basis are hotter than imaginary people and situations.
* If instead of anger she is surprised or confused then help her understand your thoughts better. Assure her that its a collaborative fun project where both of you will get hot and naughty.. even though you are not physically present. The other guy is just a tool like a dildo.
* Reassure her that you don't want this thing with any girl since your fantasy was specifically about her getting off with guy in this specific situation. But don't bring up the other girl angle yourself, unless she raises it as a concern.
* If she agrees on principle THEN you start discussion of logistics. How to make it happen safely and gracefully.

If the above is ok with you and you make progress then we can discuss next steps.

Have fun - stay safe!

[delhiguy]

Hi Delhiguy..

Let me try to help things along a bit, as a fellow Indian.

1) Do you have cuckold or hotwifing fantasies? Do you want her to get physical with other guys?
2) If yes, then what are your concerns? I see that you are put off by someone trying to get "romantic" with her. So you want pure sex on the side for her.. without any romance?
3) Have you role played this with her during video sex? No? Why? Are you scared that she will be suspicious about your manhood, your intentions and might feel unsure about your commitment?
4) Do you feel this guy presents a convenient opportunity for you to explore the kink since she wont see him again ever and it can be an exciting, short lived thing which you too can get hot thinking about together after marriage? After all its an ideal situation. They are already friendly. The guy is obviously interested in her and he knows about you and the fact she is leaving soon. Still he is trying his luck for a short term fun.

Now let me try to help you with your decision:

* You first let her know that as a guy, you feel more turned on about her and proud when other men want her. It makes it competitive and makes you feel lucky to have her.
* Confide that you have read and watched porn wife sharing and it has made you hot. Tell her your only concern is about emotional involvement and that you are emotionally a very very possessive lover / husband.
* Say that you had a dream or fantasy in half sleep, about she doing something physical with him and it made you cum without hands! tell her you have been trying to understand this yourself and hence didn't share with her till now. But now you have solved the riddle. You read on the internet and found that lots of guys get triggered by safe wife sharing where there is no risk of complications or losing one's partner. In this case, you now realise that the safety factor made you unknowingly hot and keen to pursue this.
* A guy giving flowers to her means NOTHING at this stage. How will he go about hitting on her and making his interest known? See it from his point of view. if he makes any direct physical move, he risks getting slapped and/or arrested! So how does he play safe? he does something polite and "non-physical" which is also cute and shows his interest. Thus the flowers!
* There is no chance of hurting him since he knows the score. He knows she is engaged and about to move away. So there is NO scope for any expectations.
* See her reaction after you have told her the above stuff. If she reacts with anger and hurt then immediately back off and pass it on to hot material for mutual fantasy and not reality. Tell her fantasies with a real basis are hotter than imaginary people and situations.
* If instead of anger she is surprised or confused then help her understand your thoughts better. Assure her that its a collaborative fun project where both of you will get hot and naughty.. even though you are not physically present. The other guy is just a tool like a dildo.
* Reassure her that you don't want this thing with any girl since your fantasy was specifically about her getting off with guy in this specific situation. But don't bring up the other girl angle yourself, unless she raises it as a concern.
* If she agrees on principle THEN you start discussion of logistics. How to make it happen safely and gracefully.

If the above is ok with you and you make progress then we can discuss next steps.

Have fun - stay safe!

Hey,
All the first 4 points by you are correct. That is exactly the case.
The points you mentioned later about what should i do. I have already started with the first one.
Telling her that i feel lucky and proud when others want her. She took it well. Will soon tell her that i am turned on as well. And. I want to slowly tell her about the rest of the points seeing how she reacts by hearing them.
Wife sharing porn, this point will discuss with her when we do the mfm roleplay fantasy, will tell her the story i watched in a porn and it was great. And then will try to incorporate T in our roleplay somehow to see how she reacts.
The dream about them getting physical part, this will be my next discussion with her in some days maybe.
Accordingly will follow my next steps.
And again if in any step i feel she is not liking, i will back away. And repeatedly i have been telling her that if i feel insecure about anything and i tell her to stop. She should. We have been joking about some stuff as well and i will try to jokingly maybe reveal my fantasies to her. Let me talk about that in my update in next post.
But thank you for your in depth guide. This helps a lot.
How do you know about all this? And it would be great to hear from u next soon.
Thanks

[delhiguy]

Update:
Its Tuesday night right now. She didn't go to office today. But we have been talking about everything.
She told me that yesterday that T asked her over chat, if I wasn't there and she wasn't engaged to me and she had not met me, would she be dating her. At first she said since it is not possible why to discuss. But when he asked her again, that she has to answer so she told him its what he's been thinking, indirectly telling him yes.
This was a big turn on for me to hear as she told me. She asked if i was ok with it, i told yes i was. I told her i was a little jealous but its ok.
She went to gym today wearing cut sleeve tshirts and sports bra. This is out of the ordinary for her. When she usually wears baggy t shirts.
She sent me pics of her wearing that in the morning. When i had asked why she chose to wear. She said its for herself and she felt sexy and to make others watch her jokingly. I asked her if they did, she said yes. She told me people in her office also notice her and told me i was a lucky guy to have her.
Even i told her that all these talks we are having has made me feel lucky and proud of her and the small jealousy mixed with me wanting her more is different and exciting.
She told me she can enjoy it till she comes back to me. I said yes enjoy it. I asked her if she felt weirded out by my openess with allowing her all this, she said no. She loved me more.
I have been trying by my talks to slowly tell her that all this turns me on and is a different feeling for me. Will do it eventually at the right moment.
We have also discussed that she should tell me all details she has with him. So our trust is not broken, even if she thinks it might make me angry.
She said they had discussed that her fav colour is black and he asked her if she has a black dress.
Now she has decided that the final time she goes to see him over a lunch date, she will wear a black dress which she has already ordered. I asked when will that be, she told he might be going away for some time. So maybe soon. But she said she has work so maybe wont be able to go in the afternoon.
I hinted she can go in the evening or on weekends, she didn't deny it but said she cant lie at her home. So will see what happens next.
I have been pampering her and complimenting her about being hot and awesome that people notice and have a crush on her. She is also enjoying all the attention. Tomorrow she might meet him. Will update .
Thanks

[sandy691196]

Hi Delhiguy..

Let me try to help things along a bit, as a fellow Indian.

1) Do you have cuckold or hotwifing fantasies? Do you want her to get physical with other guys?
2) If yes, then what are your concerns? I see that you are put off by someone trying to get "romantic" with her. So you want pure sex on the side for her.. without any romance?
3) Have you role played this with her during video sex? No? Why? Are you scared that she will be suspicious about your manhood, your intentions and might feel unsure about your commitment?
4) Do you feel this guy presents a convenient opportunity for you to explore the kink since she wont see him again ever and it can be an exciting, short lived thing which you too can get hot thinking about together after marriage? After all its an ideal situation. They are already friendly. The guy is obviously interested in her and he knows about you and the fact she is leaving soon. Still he is trying his luck for a short term fun.

Now let me try to help you with your decision:

* You first let her know that as a guy, you feel more turned on about her and proud when other men want her. It makes it competitive and makes you feel lucky to have her.
* Confide that you have read and watched porn wife sharing and it has made you hot. Tell her your only concern is about emotional involvement and that you are emotionally a very very possessive lover / husband.
* Say that you had a dream or fantasy in half sleep, about she doing something physical with him and it made you cum without hands! tell her you have been trying to understand this yourself and hence didn't share with her till now. But now you have solved the riddle. You read on the internet and found that lots of guys get triggered by safe wife sharing where there is no risk of complications or losing one's partner. In this case, you now realise that the safety factor made you unknowingly hot and keen to pursue this.
* A guy giving flowers to her means NOTHING at this stage. How will he go about hitting on her and making his interest known? See it from his point of view. if he makes any direct physical move, he risks getting slapped and/or arrested! So how does he play safe? he does something polite and "non-physical" which is also cute and shows his interest. Thus the flowers!
* There is no chance of hurting him since he knows the score. He knows she is engaged and about to move away. So there is NO scope for any expectations.
* See her reaction after you have told her the above stuff. If she reacts with anger and hurt then immediately back off and pass it on to hot material for mutual fantasy and not reality. Tell her fantasies with a real basis are hotter than imaginary people and situations.
* If instead of anger she is surprised or confused then help her understand your thoughts better. Assure her that its a collaborative fun project where both of you will get hot and naughty.. even though you are not physically present. The other guy is just a tool like a dildo.
* Reassure her that you don't want this thing with any girl since your fantasy was specifically about her getting off with guy in this specific situation. But don't bring up the other girl angle yourself, unless she raises it as a concern.
* If she agrees on principle THEN you start discussion of logistics. How to make it happen safely and gracefully.

If the above is ok with you and you make progress then we can discuss next steps.

Have fun - stay safe!

Hey,
All the first 4 points by you are correct. That is exactly the case.
The points you mentioned later about what should i do. I have already started with the first one.
Telling her that i feel lucky and proud when others want her. She took it well. Will soon tell her that i am turned on as well. And. I want to slowly tell her about the rest of the points seeing how she reacts by hearing them.
Wife sharing porn, this point will discuss with her when we do the mfm roleplay fantasy, will tell her the story i watched in a porn and it was great. And then will try to incorporate T in our roleplay somehow to see how she reacts.
The dream about them getting physical part, this will be my next discussion with her in some days maybe.
Accordingly will follow my next steps.
And again if in any step i feel she is not liking, i will back away. And repeatedly i have been telling her that if i feel insecure about anything and i tell her to stop. She should. We have been joking about some stuff as well and i will try to jokingly maybe reveal my fantasies to her. Let me talk about that in my update in next post.
But thank you for your in depth guide. This helps a lot.
How do you know about all this? And it would be great to hear from u next soon.
Thanks

Thanks for your appreciation.

As for your query - "how do I know".. well I have played a lot (on both sides of the game).. I have shared my partner.. And on the other side, as the "bull" I have helped cuck couples in fulfilling their fantasies without drama! Though I don't like the "bull" label.
I have been a FWB to those couples.. Rather than "dominating" the male half of the couple or humiliating him. But the Alpha make dynamic sometimes automatically seeps into the equation, if they see it that way.
I have played in all the metros in India. Orgies in Mumbai and Bangalore were the best! Mind blowing!
In Delhi.. well one had to be always on one's guard..

Anyways.. wish you two the best.

Have a good - safe fun time.

[sandy691196]

Update:
Its Tuesday night right now. She didn't go to office today. But we have been talking about everything.
She told me that yesterday that T asked her over chat, if I wasn't there and she wasn't engaged to me and she had not met me, would she be dating her. At first she said since it is not possible why to discuss. But when he asked her again, that she has to answer so she told him its what he's been thinking, indirectly telling him yes.
This was a big turn on for me to hear as she told me. She asked if i was ok with it, i told yes i was. I told her i was a little jealous but its ok.
She went to gym today wearing cut sleeve tshirts and sports bra. This is out of the ordinary for her. When she usually wears baggy t shirts.
She sent me pics of her wearing that in the morning. When i had asked why she chose to wear. She said its for herself and she felt sexy and to make others watch her jokingly. I asked her if they did, she said yes. She told me people in her office also notice her and told me i was a lucky guy to have her.
Even i told her that all these talks we are having has made me feel lucky and proud of her and the small jealousy mixed with me wanting her more is different and exciting.
She told me she can enjoy it till she comes back to me. I said yes enjoy it. I asked her if she felt weirded out by my openess with allowing her all this, she said no. She loved me more.
I have been trying by my talks to slowly tell her that all this turns me on and is a different feeling for me. Will do it eventually at the right moment.
We have also discussed that she should tell me all details she has with him. So our trust is not broken, even if she thinks it might make me angry.
She said they had discussed that her fav colour is black and he asked her if she has a black dress.
Now she has decided that the final time she goes to see him over a lunch date, she will wear a black dress which she has already ordered. I asked when will that be, she told he might be going away for some time. So maybe soon. But she said she has work so maybe wont be able to go in the afternoon.
I hinted she can go in the evening or on weekends, she didn't deny it but said she cant lie at her home. So will see what happens next.
I have been pampering her and complimenting her about being hot and awesome that people notice and have a crush on her. She is also enjoying all the attention. Tomorrow she might meet him. Will update .
Thanks

Can she tell her folks that you had an urgent meeting in her city suddenly and would be taking a late night flight back. So she is going to the airport area to meet you for a few hours in the evening?
That way she can spend intimate time with him one evening.
Does she have black lingerie (bra - panties)? Is it possible to tell her that the thought of her wearing those, when meeting him, made you cum?