Letter

[Marinecuckplease]

Has anyone written a letter pre confession of fantasy to give to partner after initial talk? Im thinking of writing a letter to her explaining my thoughts and origins that way no emotions could interfere with my explanation reguardless of what her reaction is to my confession. Im torn between hotwifing and swinging so i cant 100% say i dont wanna fuck other girls but my desire is much greater for her to explore with others. I would say im more curious about swinging but desire her to get additional pleasure and experience elswhere.

[Pufferfish]

Well, yes and no. Not before the initial talk. But in the aftermath as I was trying to explain why I thought like this, or answering her questions she would write me. We're both better at writing our thoughts down more than just impulsively speaking so it was a good crutch to move things in the right direction.

[Marinecuckplease]

Yeah my thought was if i wrote it down prior i couldnt say things "just because" to her questions. The only down fall i see is there may not be questions if i answer them all right away. Which could slow any potential talks. And cause a stalemate at "yeah ok" never progress to communicating about it

[Pufferfish]

It's good to be prepared and consider ahead of time a lot of her possible responses. Which is why places like this site are pretty great, you can read and understand how many wives have responded to the talk. I do think that something like a letter is a good idea, but that it's only good to supplement your conversation, not something that you do instead of the conversation. I think it's best that you still have the initial talk face to face. But writing a letter or something in preparation for the talk, or to clarify what you talked about, is a great idea.

[Marinecuckplease]

@pufferfish thanks thats my thoughts. Just a security blanket of sorts i guess. Still initial face to face. She is starting to open up about talking sex in general. Ive been trying for like 3 years. She also just agreed to watching porn pretty easily which before when i approached it it was met with almost a disapointing disaproval. Last night i asked her if she still had no fantasys and she said not really and she cant remember them...(i call bs lol) but she asked me mine and i said "kinda everything at least once mo twice since im old now". Lol she said what about another guy... i resopnded with maybe the last thing i try. Lol i almost said i have no desire to be with a guy but those words most likely would of bit me later on down the road. Sorry i took this off the rails lol