Advice: let her cheat, or push for hotwife?

[nickdingy]

I recently opened my wife's messenger on our tablet and found a message spanning over two years with a guy she she was with before we were married. When we first got together almost twenty years ago, she said she was only with two other guys and me. She blew about every guy in her local pool hall though. So it turns out that I'm at least #5 or more?
Well this thread tuned out to be multiple years old, talking about how and where he used to fuck her, and the sexy clothes she would wear for him. I found out she would leave work for a work related thing or dentist appt. and get creampied then go back to work. We worked together at her dad's business (how we met).

Now he is really pushing to meet at our house while I'm at work so he can fuck her again. He is also married and it doesn't seem to phase her?

This brings us to last night. My wife and I were standing in the kitchen and I felt her ass and said she would get thrown around since she lost weight. She replied, I'd love to get thrown around but you're too weak. So I said, you're going to have to get someone else to do that for you. I have been throwing out these little comments for a while now to gauge interest.

I got instantly hard as I love to submit to her. I let her make mostly all of the household decisions. The thought of being female led makes me tingle with beta emotions.

My question is should I:
1. Let this play out as is.
2. Try to anonymously reach out to him to give him encouragement/tips on her interest in him.
3. Full blown commit to having the whole cuck conversation.

[hotmetalman]

If this is going to work, communication is essential. The two are not off to a good start since she appears to be going behind your back and you are snooping. Not judging, I have been there, but it didn’t work well for me. I think you need to bite the bullet and tell your wife you want a FLR including your desire to be her cuckold.

[Dream Weaver]

If this is going to work, communication is essential. The two are not off to a good start since she appears to be going behind your back and you are snooping. Not judging, I have been there, but it didn’t work well for me. I think you need to bite the bullet and tell your wife you want a FLR including your desire to be her cuckold.

Yep. I'd probably run a little "hail mary". Do a date night or something where she's had a drink or two, then tell her she needs to be more careful with her messaging, but with a smile on my face the entire time, and cap it off with "you want a hall pass, I don't mind, I'll even help you out." Basically be positive the entire time. No negative energy. Why not? Make it all above board and fun for the whole family.

No need to go heavy into any cuck talk. That's probably a bit much if you've never broached the subject. Just be supportive and tell her you find the idea of her connecting with the ex "hot as hell." If she asks "why" just say, "hell if I know, but it's feels right!"

[bbarnsworth]

This screams train wreck. There's serious issues in your relationship that aren't going to be fixed by letting her fuck this guy. It will make things worse. Having a cuckold relationship requires strong communication, deep love, and commitment. You don't appear to have any of these. If you go this route with your relationship as is, you're dooming your relationship.

Sorry to be a downer, but that's what I see.

[elina]

First,

I do not agree with the previous poster.

To me, it seems more like your Wife is open to exploring Her sexual freedom.

Also, since you yearn for a Female Led Relationship and is already leaving most of the Household decisions to Her, I would suggest your best approach is simply to start acting even more submissive to Her.

Tell Her how much you love Her, and how much you enjoy being with Her and serving Her.
Ask Her what else you can do around the house to support Her.
Tell Her your first priority is to see Her happy. Focus on pleasing Her, learn to become the perfect pussy licker if you are not already.

Whether She is currently ready for you to confess wanting Her to become a hotwife is very difficult to assess based on what you have written. I would argue this is not the most urgent thing.

Just my thinking.
Sincerely
elina
(submissive male)

[jc6morw]

Start the cuck conversation. Make yourself an open book especially about giving her a hall pass with someone from her past. Let her lead. If she decides to go down the cheating path, enjoy it if you're both ok with it.

Don't contact him. You'd be stepping on her toes and revealing that you snooped, disrespecting her privacy/ leadership role.