Wife had Previous Relationship as a Hotwife

[mrlunar888]

In my snooping through old computers, and digging a bit on the internet, it has come to my attention that my wife was a swinger/hotwife in her previous relationship. I found this very exciting and the adrenaline rush of finding more felt like digging for gold. I've come here to ask, has anyone else encountered this and what other tools have you used to extract information either from the internet or your gf/wife. I want to eventually bring this up to her, but I enjoy relishing the what could be and being the one knowing about her past.

[afagehi7]

In my snooping through old computers, and digging a bit on the internet, it has come to my attention that my wife was a swinger/hotwife. I found this very exciting and the adrenaline rush of finding more felt like digging for gold. I've come here to ask, has anyone else encountered this and what other tools have you used to extract information either from the internet or your gf/wife. I want to eventually bring this up to her, but I enjoy relishing the what could be and being the one knowing about her past.

Welcome to OHW. I can't wait to hear what you found out. Sounds crazy hot. If she was into it before she may be again unless her ex was an ass and ruined it for her

[mrlunar888]

Yea he was. So unfortantely, there is some trauma there associated with it. She tried bringing over a girl, and kept suggesting she had fucked her friend since 8th grade and had threesomes with her and her ex husband. But as soon as I said, I'd be open with fucking her friend. She got all tight lipped and chose not to proceed further. We still had sex that night with me and just her and she talked dirty about her friend who was 5 feet away in the other room. We've been getting frisky with neighbors and pushing boundaries there too. She enjoys being watched. That's for sure. Ended up making out with the neighbors wife in the backseat of the car on the ride home. Too bad it didn't end with anything special

[Bent_n_Twisted]

...as soon as I said, I'd be open with fucking her friend. She got all tight lipped and chose not to proceed further...

You may want to cool it with that then. My wife had some issues with boyfriends wanting to fuck her friend(s). If I understand it correctly, she had some issues with thinking her friend was more attractive, and some concern that maybe guys were just using her to get to the friend.

That may not be the particular issue your wife has, but is seems that there is *some* issue there.

I know for sure that my wife is dead-set against not only me fucking any of her friends, but any other women at all. Any suggestion of that and she will shut right down.

[patw3268]

How did you discover this on the internet? Is it public knowledge like on a porn site or will you break or trust telling her you know?

I think you should approach her like I want to protect you but I found this on the internet and tbh I think it’s sooo hot. Then let her go through the emotions.

Whatever you do, don’t overplay your hand. Slow play this.

[mrlunar888]

Old computer contained the pictures. I just traced some old accounts linked to it through some simple Google search, I never found pictures. Just text of ex husband saying things. Figuring out a path forward is still difficult as information isn’t necessarily supposed to be known. I’ll need to create a story of how I found out

[leggysman]

I’ll need to create a story of how I found out

You should instead tell the truth, in my opinion.

You found something that strummed your kink string, you naturally got curious and investigated it, and found more stuff. Apologize if/as necessary, finesse it as you see fit, but tell her the truth. Lying is a rot that's difficult to eradicate. It's the 'easy' - and cowardly - thing to do, and the road to ruin in any relationship.

Be prepared for various ways she might respond to what you found. Initial denials (if she's taken by surprise) and anger (if she feels like her privacy has been invaded) are possibilities. But what you did is understandable and human. And you like her past. Have a conversation or ten, and work it out, so that everything is out in the open, and both of you are in a good place about it.

I think that most people here will agree that a successful non-monogamous relationship built on unabridged honesty, trust, and vulnerability.

[ the thing about her friend - you told her you'd be fine with the two of them hooking up again, not friend and you - correct? ]

[mrlunar888]

This is still developing and been so for sometime. I could let it progress possibly naturally or use the information I have to push things I may not have been open to to begin with. Right now I’m waiting it out and taking opportunities where I can get them whether that being over flirtatious with others or what. I may reveal pics if I want things to be pushed faster, but it’s still slow to progress. I’ll keep yall updated.


As for her friend, I told her I’d enjoy watching. The way it was brought up though was while we were having sex she asked if I wanted to fuck. So almost like trapped me which all I’m thinking at the moment is sex and not a clear mindset.

[Shiphead]

Your post is a little or a lot confusing. Did you already mention it to her about her girlfriend? If you have already started telling her about it by telling her you want her to bring her gf over to your house, go in the garage, grab some duct tape and put it over your mouth until your brain starts working. Please tell me that isn't what you did to your woman who had some trauma with the LS in the past.