Role playing with my self

[mfm4bnc]

I had a recent "did she or didn't she" experience (see my pins and needles post). My wife went out adventuring with my best friend and another friend. They had all met at my best friend's house. At the end of the day, the friend left from the driveway and my wife went in. She had taken off her riding gear and was wearing only her white long underwear tops and bottoms, with no bra and no panties.

The friend who left has often made comments about how much my wife flirts. His wife made a rule that she has to be copied on any texts between my wife and that friend. His wife is pretty snotty and seems to think of my wife as a slut.

I have thought it might be fun to have my own little roleplay. I could act like I am jealous and fearful that my wife slept with my best friend. I could kind of pump him for information about whether my wife was flirting or seductive... Ask what she was wearing... Ask how my best friend was responding, etc

I could kind of put myself in a beta position, even if nothing really happened.

I know there is danger that I am thinking with my dick. What are people's thoughts on that idea? I am trying to get some cuckold experience when my wife is not all in.

[Pufferfish]

Maybe it's just my own reading comprehension problem, but I'm struggling with trying to figure out what you're trying to say, your post seems a bit all over the place to me.

Are you saying you want to appear to be jealous about your wife's behavior to your friend? And ask him to relay information about how she acts around your other friend to you? I don't really get what you're thinking, or why you're thinking it.

In short, no. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. If you can't be honest with your wife about what you fantasize about and why, then certainly don't go full tilt the other direction and start lying, manipulating, and scheming ways to create a situation. Either talk to her about it, or hide it I guess, but don't start trying to build some elaborate trap.

[mfm4bnc]

Maybe it's just my own reading comprehension problem, but I'm struggling with trying to figure out what you're trying to say, your post seems a bit all over the place to me.

Are you saying you want to appear to be jealous about your wife's behavior to your friend? And ask him to relay information about how she acts around your other friend to you? I don't really get what you're thinking, or why you're thinking it.

In short, no. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. If you can't be honest with your wife about what you fantasize about and why, then certainly don't go full tilt the other direction and start lying, manipulating, and scheming ways to create a situation. Either talk to her about it, or hide it I guess, but don't start trying to build some elaborate trap.

My post is a little confusing. My apologies... I have lots of mixed feelings and lots of strong emotions about the whole cuckold thing, and it sometimes shows up in how I jump around in my writing. Not wanting to use real names can also make my writing a bit unclear.

Your response makes a lot of inferences, and does not seem to give me the benefit of the doubt on any of them.

I have been honest with my wife about my kinks since before we were married. We communicate very clearly and honestly. She cheated on me when we were engaged, and immediately came clean. Coincidentally, the guy she cheated with was the same guy that she had the recent “did she or didn’t she” moment with that I described in my recent “pins and needles” post. I made it clear to her before we were married, that her constant flirting and exhibitionism, and even occasional fucking, were bonus points, not something that bothers me.

She still loves to flirt and show off, and act seductive. I never try to manipulate her into doing those things. What she does not like is my reaction. She thinks I should be jealous rather than turned on.

She occasionally throws me a bone with a little role-play. In the most recent instance, she went out for an all day adventure with two of our mutual close friends (both male), while I was out of town. They all met at my best friend’s house. The role play part was that she texted me that she was going to go in afterwards. Our whole family has Life360 (her idea), which is an app that lets you see location. She let her phone die while approaching his house, knowing it would make me crazy that the last known location would show as being my best friend’s house. (Also coincidentally, the last time she cheated on me, her phone died at his house).

After a few days, she told me that she had only stayed a minute, and that she came home, and left her phone off in order to titillate me without her actually having to engage in any real hotwife behavior. There are a couple inconsistencies in her story, which got my mind running down the “did she or didn’t she” road.

The question in this thread has nothing to do with manipulating her or playing games with her. The reality is that I am having genuine “did she or didn’t she” thoughts, and I find myself very aroused by them. The other reality is that one close friend saw her linger at my best friend’s house, and when that friend left, my wife was dressed sexy as fuck, going into my best friends house, while I was out of town. That friend has also knows about the tryst between my wife (then fiance) and best friend, and he has repeatedly observed my wife being seductive with my best friend.

I enjoy the beta feelings I get from people wondering if my wife fucks around. The central question of this thread is asking about pros and cons of opening up to the other friend that I have doubts about whether my wife had another tryst on that day. Openly showing a little insecurity would really increase my beta feelings. I can’t (and don’t want to) control my wife. I will never know for sure whether she went in for a tryst. (I generally trust her, and she denied it, but there are some inconsistencies in her story). What I can control is my reaction. Basically… I feel a little insecure, and I think it would be arousing to be openly insecure. What are the pros and cons?

[parklife]

I 100% support the idea of roll playing with yourself.. using mental gymnastics to play wit your own sense of desire/denial/kink. The problem involves using others outside, not only your relationship, but also your in primate life is going too far. You want to involve your wife, by all means since she share in your sexuality. Your friends do not and using them for your sexual kink fulfillment is pulling them somewhere they may not want to go. So, it comes down to consent rather than trying to manipulate a scenario whereas your friend partakes in your sexual fetish.. I see that as a line best not crossed.

[mfm4bnc]

I 100% support the idea of roll playing with yourself.. using mental gymnastics to play wit your own sense of desire/denial/kink. The problem involves using others outside, not only your relationship, but also your in primate life is going too far. You want to involve your wife, by all means since she share in your sexuality. Your friends do not and using them for your sexual kink fulfillment is pulling them somewhere they may not want to go. So, it comes down to consent rather than trying to manipulate a scenario whereas your friend partakes in your sexual fetish.. I see that as a line best not crossed.

good points. Thanks for the input.