Nude Beach -ideas?

[vrmtr]

Headed to nude beach, hoping we can make progress into the topic of hot wifing. She has known for many years I'd love to she her. We roll play the topic. She said with right guy she would, she just does not want it to be set up.

Any ideas for challenges I can try to help progress the idea of hot wifing while at the nude beach?

[Photo Cuck S]

Rather than challenges for her to perform or achieve, why not try something like asking her "what do you think he would like to do to you if he had the chance" or "if you had ten/thirty/however many minutes alone with him, what would you do", and let her describe her thoughts.

A challenge might come across as a little daunting, or forward, to her. But verbalizing a fantasy idea might get her more comfortable thinking about it. Especially so since it would be what she is thinking about what might or could happen, not what you had thought up for her. It would feel more like it is "her" idea, as is it her in control of the situation that way. If you are lucky, maybe what she is thinking is something similar to what you would have challenged her to do anyway, like stopping in front of a guy while walking down the beach, and bending over to pick something up from the sand, while giving the guy a nice, full view of herself.

And, who knows, she might surprise you with a hot idea that you hadn't thought that she would think about. She might reveal how she'd like to feel how the guy a little bit down the beach from you would feel inside her right then and there in front of everyone. Or how the guy casually glancing her direction had been looking at her breasts for a while, so she wonders how his hands would feel on them while he is taking her from behind right in front of you.

Since you are already role playing it, letting her describe the action would be like her leading the role play. That might make her feel more comfortable with the whole situation, and then you can voice your support to her in the realization of the fantasies if she wants. That might make it easier or less threatening to her to try, since you will have let her think about it on her terms. And then you let her know you wanted it FOR her, because it is about HER pleasure!

[drj7070]

Have her rate guys from 1-10, it is a hot sexy game and you find out what she likes! I found out she likes dark skinned muscular Italian, Hispanic, and light skinned black guys.

[Wantsomefunto]

Tell her you want to eat he her lay alone in the beach from a distance and see if she is able to chat with any guys and make a friend to meet for drinks. See what happens

[vrmtr]

Rather than challenges for her to perform or achieve, why not try something like asking her "what do you think he would like to do to you if he had the chance" or "if you had ten/thirty/however many minutes alone with him, what would you do", and let her describe her thoughts.

A challenge might come across as a little daunting, or forward, to her. But verbalizing a fantasy idea might get her more comfortable thinking about it. Especially so since it would be what she is thinking about what might or could happen, not what you had thought up for her. It would feel more like it is "her" idea, as is it her in control of the situation that way. If you are lucky, maybe what she is thinking is something similar to what you would have challenged her to do anyway, like stopping in front of a guy while walking down the beach, and bending over to pick something up from the sand, while giving the guy a nice, full view of herself.

And, who knows, she might surprise you with a hot idea that you hadn't thought that she would think about. She might reveal how she'd like to feel how the guy a little bit down the beach from you would feel inside her right then and there in front of everyone. Or how the guy casually glancing her direction had been looking at her breasts for a while, so she wonders how his hands would feel on them while he is taking her from behind right in front of you.

Since you are already role playing it, letting her describe the action would be like her leading the role play. That might make her feel more comfortable with the whole situation, and then you can voice your support to her in the realization of the fantasies if she wants. That might make it easier or less threatening to her to try, since you will have let her think about it on her terms. And then you let her know you wanted it FOR her, because it is about HER pleasure!

Thanks for the response. I do ask her for her thoughts on guys...asking her what she thinks of them. She is opening up, but at times does not go too deep into her thoughts when I approach it this way. She has however been responsive to tasks and it's for this reason, I thought challenges would be good at the nude beach

[vrmtr]

Have her rate guys from 1-10, it is a hot sexy game and you find out what she likes! I found out she likes dark skinned muscular Italian, Hispanic, and light skinned black guys.

I have not asked her to rate the guys. I do ask her..or say from whoever is at the beach, she has to point out a primary and a secondary...which she has. Last time this past weekend there a really nice looking couple was there. The guy was was league's above any other guy at the beach. !!

[vrmtr]

Tell her you want to eat he her lay alone in the beach from a distance and see if she is able to chat with any guys and make a friend to meet for drinks. See what happens

I love this idea! Having her sit alone to see if she gets any attention. I'm going to see if she is up for it next time we go. Thank you

[aandmp]

My wife said she'd never have another man. We started going to 'family' type nude resorts, get used to be naked around others. Then ventured in to a lifestyle resort - a eyeopener to see sexual fun happening. Then, we ventured to Hedo2. 1st visit, she was shy, and didn't interact with others much, but we returned again, and she got to be a bit more friendly with others. Obviously, some men tried to lure her into sexual fun, but she was adamant.
We met a couple, she and they got along very well, it was obvious he was attracted to my wife, and after a week, we ended up in bed together. 1st with just the husband, so my wife's 1st mfm fun. Then his wife came to the room, and we all four had some fun on the bed. (Favorite memory still - my wife on her back, the other husband kneeling around her head and my wife holding her head up, sucking his balls and cock eagerly, while his wife had her face buried in my wife's pussy, and I was fucking his wife from behind. What a sight!!). Anyhows, after it was over, my wife sat up, exclaimed "that was fun, I want to do it again!"
So, for us, it was getting familiar with nude people around having sex, a couple she was comfortable with, and enjoyed their company.

[WatchinginNJ]

Not advice per se, but here's some of my experiences that you may glean some ideas from.

When I was in my 20's I was in a serious relationship with a woman who I thought I was going to marry (that's a different story). We got into hotwifing, via her penchant for exhibitionism. One night she asked if I wanted to see her naked in the car, and that became a regular thing.

I took her a nude beach (Sandy Hook) as kind of as a surprise thinking maybe she'd get naked. The first time was a disaster. She was pretty jealous, and accused me of trying to look at other women naked. We were there maybe 5 minutes and didn't even make it past the "You may encounter nude Sun Bathers".

We fought all week and that weekend came around and she said to me, "I might of gone if you just asked me. I mean if you told me to, I guess I'd have to do it." Long story short, she had a bit of a submissive streak and didn't want to volunteer. So I got the hint, and the next day I packed a bag and said "We're going to go to the nude beach."

She hemmed and hawed when we got there but she got naked. "I can't believe I'm doing this...This is so embarrassing" The whole bit. This and a few other adventures I figured out she didn't want to be in control. So I would tell her "Ok, that guy is staring at you, spread your legs". Eventually after a bunch of different experimentation, I got her to strike up a few convo's and she ended up with a fuck buddy from there.

Take your time. Let the adventure play out. She may not even be able to verbalize what she does or doesn't like, and sometimes the words for that don't come easy. So be a good observer. See how she reacts and ask her how she's feeling about certain things. There maybe things that come out of it that she never ever saw herself doing, but once there the idea comes.

My girl didn't even own a bikini. She hated the beach before we started going. She had small boobs and was pretty self-conscious, so she needed to get in the headspace where she wasn't deciding so if things went weird it wasn't her fault so to speak. In the years that we got into it, and through it, she never once said specifically, "Yeah sure I'd like to fuck other guys". There was a lot of me trying different scenarios, seeing her response and tweaking the situation accordingly. The only direct hint I ever got was she told me she had a fantasy of sleeping with strangers, and she hinted that occasionally between boyfriends she'd have one night stands.

[vrmtr]

My wife said she'd never have another man. We started going to 'family' type nude resorts, get used to be naked around others. Then ventured in to a lifestyle resort - a eyeopener to see sexual fun happening. Then, we ventured to Hedo2. 1st visit, she was shy, and didn't interact with others much, but we returned again, and she got to be a bit more friendly with others. Obviously, some men tried to lure her into sexual fun, but she was adamant.
We met a couple, she and they got along very well, it was obvious he was attracted to my wife, and after a week, we ended up in bed together. 1st with just the husband, so my wife's 1st mfm fun. Then his wife came to the room, and we all four had some fun on the bed. (Favorite memory still - my wife on her back, the other husband kneeling around her head and my wife holding her head up, sucking his balls and cock eagerly, while his wife had her face buried in my wife's pussy, and I was fucking his wife from behind. What a sight!!). Anyhows, after it was over, my wife sat up, exclaimed "that was fun, I want to do it again!"
So, for us, it was getting familiar with nude people around having sex, a couple she was comfortable with, and enjoyed their company.

Thanks for the response. We have now gone to the nude beach multiple times. We even went to a swinger resort. Come summer, she now looks forward to going to nude beach. She is definitely comfortable with being nude around other people. The nude beach, we played with each other in a play room. It was mid-day, so no one else in there. We chatted with other couples and a single guy was definitely trying to pick us up...but that is as far as it went . The swinger resort is on opposite side of US from us, so we will not be there any time soon...I like how you went about your introducing the idea to your wife. I too hope for this progress

[vrmtr]

Not advice per se, but here's some of my experiences that you may glean some ideas from.

When I was in my 20's I was in a serious relationship with a woman who I thought I was going to marry (that's a different story). We got into hotwifing, via her penchant for exhibitionism. One night she asked if I wanted to see her naked in the car, and that became a regular thing.

I took her a nude beach (Sandy Hook) as kind of as a surprise thinking maybe she'd get naked. The first time was a disaster. She was pretty jealous, and accused me of trying to look at other women naked. We were there maybe 5 minutes and didn't even make it past the "You may encounter nude Sun Bathers".

We fought all week and that weekend came around and she said to me, "I might of gone if you just asked me. I mean if you told me to, I guess I'd have to do it." Long story short, she had a bit of a submissive streak and didn't want to volunteer. So I got the hint, and the next day I packed a bag and said "We're going to go to the nude beach."

She hemmed and hawed when we got there but she got naked. "I can't believe I'm doing this...This is so embarrassing" The whole bit. This and a few other adventures I figured out she didn't want to be in control. So I would tell her "Ok, that guy is staring at you, spread your legs". Eventually after a bunch of different experimentation, I got her to strike up a few convo's and she ended up with a fuck buddy from there.

Take your time. Let the adventure play out. She may not even be able to verbalize what she does or doesn't like, and sometimes the words for that don't come easy. So be a good observer. See how she reacts and ask her how she's feeling about certain things. There maybe things that come out of it that she never ever saw herself doing, but once there the idea comes.

My girl didn't even own a bikini. She hated the beach before we started going. She had small boobs and was pretty self-conscious, so she needed to get in the headspace where she wasn't deciding so if things went weird it wasn't her fault so to speak. In the years that we got into it, and through it, she never once said specifically, "Yeah sure I'd like to fuck other guys". There was a lot of me trying different scenarios, seeing her response and tweaking the situation accordingly. The only direct hint I ever got was she told me she had a fantasy of sleeping with strangers, and she hinted that occasionally between boyfriends she'd have one night stands.

I hear you!! Great stories and events you mention. My wife is the same as far as I can tell. She doesn't want to be asked, If I just say we are going to the nude beach, it makes it easier for her. She does not have to decide. I'm picking up on this. She has also said, she'd be up for a threesome, BUT she does not want it to be set up and it needs to be with right guy, place and time....so essentially it just has to happen...I think and what I'm getting from her, she wants me to make it happen.

To some degree I think that's why I want to try some challenges to see her move in that direction..to assure me before I actually pursue it further.

[WatchinginNJ]

Not advice per se, but here's some of my experiences that you may glean some ideas from.
....

I took her a nude beach (Sandy Hook) as kind of as a surprise thinking maybe she'd get naked.... I got her to strike up a few convo's and she ended up with a fuck buddy from there....

I hear you!! Great stories and events you mention. My wife is the same as far as I can tell. She doesn't want to be asked, If I just say we are going to the nude beach, it makes it easier for her. She does not have to decide. I'm picking up on this. She has also said, she'd be up for a threesome, BUT she does not want it to be set up and it needs to be with right guy, place and time....so essentially it just has to happen...I think and what I'm getting from her, she wants me to make it happen.

To some degree I think that's why I want to try some challenges to see her move in that direction..to assure me before I actually pursue it further.

As per your question in PM's I figure it's better here as why not have an open discussion about it? When we first started her getting naked in my car she told me, "You want me to take my clothes off? I will if you tell me." So keep that in mind.

For those that don't know about Sandy Hook, it's a nude beach but they do not allow any kind of hanky panky and will quickly eject you and quite possibly charge you with a federal sex crime (Lewdness).

The first time we went and we're both on the same page, I had no idea how far she would go. So I eased into things. I set up the chairs and sunbrella, put out our towels and just told her to sit down and relax a little. She started with shorts, and a triangle top thingy that tied behind her back and a macramé wrap. "Why don't you sit in your chair. You can take your shorts off while you're at it."

"really? I don't know about this?" all the while she was taking them off.

That was the code. Don't ask her. Just tell. I got her down to just the wrap and that was pretty hot.

After a few trips and trying I would tell her to lay on her stomach and spread her legs or go for a walk by herself. Eventually one trip I saw a guy who kept walking past and checking her out. He was a typical muscled up Jersey shore guy and definitely her type. I told her "Next time he walks by, go introduce yourself. Make sure your tits are out."

She chatted him up. The nice thing about nude beaches, you can see her skin. She was flushed red all on her neck and chest. She did that when she was horny or embarrassed. She invited him over for a beer and introduced us. Poor guys heart sank when he saw me but he still came. I told them I needed to use the facilities and went for a walk to the water. While I was gone, she filled him in on the situation. He ended up being a cool guy, and pretty understanding with the dynamic. He was also a truck driver and worked odd hours, and she ended up fucking him a bunch. We had a few threesomes also.

But it was always the same for us. The first step was me telling her to move to the next level.

[vrmtr]

"Telling her to move to the next level!!" I think my wife is very much like yours. When asking her, she thinks through every possible scenario and talks her self out of it. What are all the possible things that can go wrong. I know she is somewhat submissive. Likes to be a part of things, a little she, does not want to set things up, but glad she did it. Telling her to move to the next level may be the key. I know my wife is proud of herself for going to the nude beach as we have now done multiple times. She even leads the way as we walk in and the last time we went, she bought new chairs for us to sit on. Looking for challenges for her may not work. She again would think them to death. Just telling her to do something allows her to just act!