What would turn you on the most: watching her having sex? Participating? Or just the knowledge that she is fucking?

[annsman]

Not a wannabe for many years, but I've posted before that what you think you want changes with time and experience.

I wanted to watch and our first time was me watching, but she was fucked against a wall with her dress covering their vital parts so I didn't get to see him inside her. We talked about what we really wanted and have pretty much settled into her having solo dates and coming home to me afterwards.

Ann loves having private time with her boyfriends and we both love our time together afterwards

[silkyhw]

For us, waiting now works best. It's hot seeing her with another man but, in recent years, she has preferred regular long-term relationships with a degree of emotional involvement and I have come to relish the delicious angst of waiting for her to come home - without showering etc. I love it when she talks about him and what they did whilst we make love.

[Radle123]

As a wannabe for many, many years, my perfect scenario would be my wife having sex with a boyfriend/lover, while I was at home waiting. Being there and watching or participating doesn’t turn me on me. Just knowing they were having great sex, would be enough.
Being denied any access to her pussy would also add another level of pleasure!! If only….

[Sharemywife1968]

in beginning it was all about watching and some participation,over the years it has changed,from dating and coming home freshly fucked to where we are now she goes away and stays overnight with her lovers,now I get a rare text or even more rare,a picture,aslong as she is getting what's she wants and is she,, I have to accept, her next adventure sounds like her new bull is going start sharing her ,the angst is all ready starting as there is no set date,, ill be surprised,and floored all at same time,the knowledge she is getting 2 cocks and one is a stranger,and bare im
sure,,

[safado]

One time my ex called me from his bathroom and left the phone on. I didn't hear much, clothes rustling, slurping, kissing, her moaning a little.

Her descriptions of what they did on her dates were very detailed and that was great.

My dream would be to watch from a hidden camera so they would be uninhibited.

[Colliercuck]

I can’t imagine the excitement of watching her be taken by another man, to hear her moan, grunt and beg for his cock….an aggressive dominant male, which she has said she needs and told me I am not and NEVER could be.
But I would be beyond excited just to know she is given her married pussy to another man!!!! Something I’ve longed for ached for for over 30 years, and she knows it

[hornedhubby]

My go-to fantasy involves all of the above.

I'm with my wife at a hotel casino. She befriends a hot blackjack playing partner and invites him to dine with us. While getting dressed for dinner, she tells me she would love to have this guy pop her hotwife cherry. I ask how would you like it to go? She says alone with him in his room, while I wait for her in our room. I ask her to return to me after round one for clean up. She agrees. She flirts, fondles and seduces him in front of me during the meal and propositions him after dessert.

But when she comes back to our room and feeds me her cream pie, she tells me she wants more of his enormous cock. While riding my face, she sends him a text to come to our room for more. Then she tells me they have already discussed what is about to happen next.

When he arrives, she insists I fluff him and then get in 69 fucklicking position. He then proceeds to fuck her brains out while standing beside the bed.

And so on. Rinse and repeat until the wee hours.

[Bobs52]

I think I’d rather just have the knowledge that she is regularly or randomly getting fucked. I think we would both feel a little awkward with me watching.

She did act on her hall pass once some time ago, but she waited a long time to actually tell me even though I would push the fantasy while we were having sex. I was thrilled when she finally told me.

I would enjoy it if she would come home from time to time after having sex and tell me about it. If it happened often enough, I would be constantly on edge while she was out wondering if she was out getting fucked!

Probably my dream scenario would be watching her get ready for a fuck date and having me drive her to his house or hotel room. Delivering my wife to another man to fuck would be the ultimate turn on for me!

[firef503]

I thought I'd weigh in with something a little different.

I have done a situation where I fucked a guys wife and he secretly watched it happen.

[isinlarsa]

I think I’d rather just have the knowledge that she is regularly or randomly getting fucked. I think we would both feel a little awkward with me watching.

She did act on her hall pass once some time ago, but she waited a long time to actually tell me even though I would push the fantasy while we were having sex. I was thrilled when she finally told me.

I would enjoy it if she would come home from time to time after having sex and tell me about it. If it happened often enough, I would be constantly on edge while she was out wondering if she was out getting fucked!

Probably my dream scenario would be watching her get ready for a fuck date and having me drive her to his house or hotel room. Delivering my wife to another man to fuck would be the ultimate turn on for me!

I've had similar experiences. My wife and I had talked about her dating other men, but at that point she hadn't. Then after my daughter and I had return from an out-of-town trip to visit family, she told me she had spent the weekend in bed with another man. It blew my mind!

Then she did start dating. I would watch her getting ready, and then walking out the door to meet her date. However, her going out on a date did not guarantee that she would get laid. It drove me crazy (in a good way) not knowing if she was getting fucked while I was sitting at home waiting for her to return.

[Massage4Wife72]

Watching, listening, or knowing about it and her telling me about it later for me! No desire to participate. Listening I think I would like the most!

[Madcouple25uk]

Watching is our fantasy. Like to see her with older cocky ugly well hung arsehole having his way with her

[Carrienlarry]

We love sharing the experience. I like hubby watching and participating. It’s hard for me to focus on two or more cocks at once. So I prefer him close to me and I will suck and stroke him some. But I focus on the cock in me. I love seeing him suck on another woman’s tits and lick her pussy and fuck her. So in a nutshell. It’s best for us together

[straightshot22]

I have no interest in being there. I think the excitement of not knowing what was happening would drive me nuts I would love to have it recorded cause watching and listening to her enjoying it would the amazing and I could rewatch it with her

[iwish]

I want to watch and wonder. How could that happen?

I'd want to see her propositioned and seduced. Perhaps I'd step away from her for a bit and a guy would approach her. His effort would confirm just how attractive she is. Despite her acknowledging her married status her suitor would continue his pursuit. After some flirting that leads to light touching and him leaning in close enough to whisper in her ear, he extends his hand as an invitation to accompany him. After a brief pause where it's clear she is considering her options (obviously she is interested) she takes his hand and allows him to lead her out of the establishment. Along the way she catches my eye and gives me a look that lets me know that they will be having more than a chat. She makes it clear that he has impressed her. He has won her over. She is with him for the moment. She is his for the moment. She will satisfy him and his desires and he will fulfil some of her fantasies that she hasn't shared with me.

This scenario means that I will not see the resulting playtime, but I'd hope should would describe it to me in detail while teasing me. She could play Brad's game by stopping if her description makes me climax before the story ends. She's start from the beginning next time and stop if I cum before the end. I might not ever hear the entire story.

At some point, I think I'd like to see/hear her in action. Playing with someone other than her husband might allow her to let her guard down and let herself go. I'd love to see her perform and hear her moaning and asking and begging for him to take her. I'd like to see and hear her climax instead of repressing her emotions as she does with me.

[JaBe]

This is an interesting question. I'm not sure I have a conclusive answer.
I'd love to watch her, but I know that would inhibit her, which would stop her getting lost in the moment and the other guy's body and fucking. This would apply if she knew she was being recorded, but covert recording her would be both creepy and a betrayal of trust.

I certainly wouldn't want to sit in a corner with my dick in my hand as another guy fucked her, catching my eye as she orgasmed? No thanks. And being clothed and watching would be like wearing a dirty mac in those questionable 70's Soho cinemas with dark interiors, sticky floors (or so I have read ) and 24/7 Swedish films

Would I want her to be in a 3-way or multi-way? Yes. But I'm not sure that would be the same as her on her own with a guy, as I'd be there and she'd probably be wondering what I was thinking, or trying to make sure I didn't feel left out. A swap might be better than a 3-way from that viewpoint. Then comes the question of same room or different room. I'd prefer same - not sure what she'd vote for.

Which brings me to the only experience I've actual;ly had, all of the above being theoretical - the knowledge that she's fucking. And her sharing the details of what she and he got up to.

[Massage4Wife72]

Damn I would sure like to find out! My wife isn’t interested. BUT if she’s was it would be hard to chose between
- Listening
-Watching
-Her recounting the events back to me

All of those I find extremely arousing!

[lakeside]

I would love to watch!

[Thebestdays1]

I've had the privilege to do all three and they are all fun in their different ways.

I've only ever just watched her when she's giving a blowjob to someone but it was really exciting to watch. What was just as exciting was me having to masturbate in front of them and not only clean up the drops from his penis but having to eat my cum in front of them. The humiliation was really exciting. She did make it possible for me to spy on her and video it with one lover a few times but I was concentrating on zooming in on the action more than enjoying the view. I was also naked and peering in through a crack in the curtains as I stood in our garden, so I had to try not to shiver too much.
Participating is great because I was able to fucklick her and take some of his cum straight down my throat before cleaning her up. Cleaning, fluffing, fondling and sucking him off was humiliating and exciting at the same time. Just having sex with her as she was fucking or sucking someone else was really exciting too.
Not being with her was also really exciting because all I could do was imagine what she might be doing at any particular moment and wait, seemingly forever to know what she actually did with him. When she went away for the weekend with one boyfriend she used to leave our kids with her mum, who was fully aware of what she was doing, as I would be working on those weekends. When I'd pick them up, the MIL used to tease me about being eager to hear the details and not having cum for several days. The younger SIL used to tempt me and we'd usually end up having a quickie and she'd announce to the family that I was no longer so frustrated. All very humiliating. I even ended up having a 69 with the wife's nephew once when we'd both become turned on imagining what she was doing with her lover. I sucked him off again later on and my wife loved hearing the details. This same boyfriend used to spend most mondays with her and I found it so hard to concentrate at work that I had to take the day off and spent the day with a much older colleague of my wife's that we were both seeing, independently. Although I would have cum two or three times with this woman and my wife would have cum a few times herself, we'd both be so turned on listening to the details from each other that we'd have sex together that evening.

If any wannabies have their wishes come true then they could be in for a treat, whatever way it happens.

[Carrienlarry]

Hubby and I are always together. We hug and kiss as I fuck. For me. I like one on one. It can be hard to focus on me and two guys. Hubby fucks me as soon as the dude finishes. It’s a magical experience

[Paul01uk]

It used to be watching her surrendering to another man completely. Then it became listening and knowing, and now it would be, if she would do it again, just knowing. Knowing she was totally giving herself to any desires he had, and my wanting her to have every bit of enjoyment she could out of sex as I can no longer satisfy her. Happy to chat to any other husbands in similar situations or who understand. Paul (UK)

[Wyorock]

Done all 3. All are a turn on. However, I get the most turned on if I am not there but know she is being naughty. Sitting there wondering what she might be doing is a total rush.

There is also a 4th which is when she has tells you she had fun and you had no idea she was going to. That is always a fun surprise

[Zeepers]

Participating! Me on my back with her riding me cowgirl, another guy fucking her ass I can feel from the inside, one guy standing straight over me for a good view of him fucking her mouth. Optional guys on each side she's jerking off. We all cum at same time, me pumping cum into her pussy as I feel other guy pumping cum into her ass. Then just seeing her afterward lying on the bed exhausted, covered in cum dripping from every hole.

Or just waiting for her to come home and tell me everything that happend. Either way.

[sharedfantasy]

I love reading all the different answers and I feel like I am with the less popular crowd..
As a wannabe, I can’t say for certain, but my current fantasies would rank in this order:

3rd - the knowledge that she is fucking. Although this is ranked the lowest, don’t get me wrong; if my queen had ordered me to wait at home wait for her to tell the stories afterward, then I would by default obey her patiently at home and be a good house husband and the scenario for me would blow my mind, regardless of the fact that I didn’t know what was going down.. are you kidding me? My mind would be racing because naturally, we fear the unknown, and that is a fetish in itself. Plus me not being there would guarantee that she has the most intimate experience possible and throughly
enjoyed it as much as my Queen should enjoy it. So heck yeah, I would probably live this too. I could proudly be the husband of a hotwife, above everything. Her stories would put me on cloud nine and make me harder than ever before. Just listening to them would be so teasing in its own way.. so hot. Then of course the part that apparently is the best sex ever.. the reclaim!

2nd - watching her having sex. To me, this seems like the classic cuckold scenario and I believe is a huge driving force for a lot of cuckolds, from material I’ve read or listened to. It’s because to us devoted married men, our wives are the hottest women on earth (at least mine is to me) and when we see them engaging with another man, aside from the whole taboo of it, the hottest thing for a lot of guys is seeing your wife from a third-person point of view, because it is as if she is the star of this show and essentially your favourite pornstar in action, in a sense. So yes, seeing my wife getting pleasured by a man who has much more to offer her in the cock department would totally make me handsfree cum. For me, watching her from a different angle would be amazing, but what gets me is hearing her make noises I never could make her do after twenty years and seeing her react in ways I’ve never seen and her squirting exponentially more than the little I’ve ever made her squirt, in a single fuck. Seeing and hearing her doing things that both of us have never experienced would blow my mind as I know it is simultaneously blowing hers with pure pleasure and ecstasy. Even smelling all the pheromones thick in the musky air. The visuals of his huge member just constantly pumping her gorgeous vag.. so many things really.. and of course, the reclaim!

1st - participation.
This may go against the grain here, but I’m just being honest. Making love to my wife is my favourite thing ever, so to actually be integrated into her hotwife experience does it for me so much more. I admit, I have spitroast fantasies and even more would be doing a dp and a dvp, which I all have mentioned jokingly to my wife, to which she replied ‘You would do that sort of thing?’..
Plus here’s another huge factor, it’s my wife’s biggest fantasy.
I know it sounds hard to believe, because I’m a wannabe, but my wife has clearly stated to me in the past that she can die without fulfilling sexual fantasies, but that I have always known that her being with two men is her biggest fantasy. Even though she hasn’t mentioned or admitted to many other fantasies and only that one, I can see how she reacts to the very few comments I made about dp’ing and so on... how her eyebrows raise, how her eyes widen, how she moves her lips and shapes her mouth, her breathing patterns and how they stop and then she starts breathing fast, how she goes completely silent and still and I swear I can see the vein in her neck looks like it is throbbing or something, and even her chest starts noticeably pounding from each heavy heartbeat to the point it makes her tits shake with each rise and fall. I mean we know our women better than we know them, so you just know when she is getting super hot, super fast. This kind of works in my favour, because I also have the same, hence my username.
I know she fantasizes about being dp’d, about a dvp, and of course she would love to get roasted too, but more so the experience of being pleasured my two men at the same time. Two pairs of hands, two pairs of lips, and two cocks. That’s what she wants.

Just my personal thoughts, as a wannabe who has little experience being a cuck and these three scenarios are all hypothetical for me lol

[nks]

Knowledge that she is fucking is the greatest turn on.

I would really love to watch her or participate, but knowing her, it is not too realistic. If she has sex with someone she is into very much, then I would want her to enjoy sex to the fullest, not having to worry about me being around. She could relax and enjoy sex much more on her own. It is also about her having sex and I would not want to participate unless she orders me to do so. The knowledge that she is having good sex is enough, though perhaps a story, a few photos or a video would be nice to have.