Is this what I truly want?

[bbarnsworth]

Midnight joker, the negatives you speak of are no better than the ai drivel it's made from.

Time and time again I've seen couples who are ready for this who get into this lifestyle have an improvement in their marriage, a closeness like never before, enhanced trust, enhanced intimacy, and a greater bond. Yes, I've seen a couple flame out. One.

My wife and I have been in this for 17 years. We've seen a lot. She's had two regular boyfriends over the years whom she was in love with and had sex with probably dozens of times. This was always a positive in our marriage. Nowadays, she's less active, but I have been a bull for another couple for more than three years now. Their marriage is very stable, I enjoy having sex with her, my wife is happy for me and is glad I'm doing this.

Having an open marriage isn't for everyone nor even close. For those couples who have a strong marriage with deep communication, engaging in swinging or hotwifing is almost always good for the marriage.