Goals for 2024?

[HWHubbyHopeful]

Hi! My wife has known for years I would mfm but thinks it would be overwhelming…she is reserved in bed but has so much potential, cums 3-4 times a session.

Anyway, my goal for 2024 is for her to use a different name in bed…I would be so turned on. Perhaps some role playing as well.

And yours?

[hwfanatic]

Hi! My wife has known for years I would mfm but thinks it would be overwhelming…she is reserved in bed but has so much potential, cums 3-4 times a session.

…And yours?

You’re married to my wife, too!

I’ll build off of your goal and add that I hope to hear her say his name while enjoying a large toy or sleeve.

[RichardCranium]

we did the different name routine and i was surprised at the name she used. it was the name of a close friend of ours that I always thought she was attracted to.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum RichardCranium. Sounds like a Freudian slip to me.

[Planetony]

My lady always uses the same name when we pretend that someone else is fucking her. It happens to be the name of a man she went on a couple of dates with when we were on a break. I wonder if he got to taste her...

[RichardCranium]

[scarfolamew]

Ha. There are like a million things I would love to happen, that range from somewhat realistic to a snowball's chance in hell.

- She goes topless in an anonymous public setting (eg nude beach)
- She gets her tits out in front of people we know (eg hot tub)
- She gets more open with me about her sexual attraction to a guy we met recently and discusses it with me while we have sex or masturbate together
- My friend Celeste and her husband seduce my wife in front of me when we all do molly together in a couple months

[2inUPMichigan]

Are there any sexual goals the 2 of you have made together?

[Farmgirl]

Are there any sexual goals the 2 of you have made together?

Inquiring minds want to know.
Or would you rather continue as a wannabe?

[scarfolamew]

Are there any sexual goals the 2 of you have made together?

Inquiring minds want to know.
Or would you rather continue as a wannabe?

Not sure if yall are addressing me, but I'll share my thoughts.

The items I listed are just my fantasies, not goals that my wife and I share in common. I've gradually opened up to her over the years about the sort of stuff that turns me on. She has her own unconventional kinks and turn-ons and has never made me feel ashamed or anything like that, but she also says she can't imagine finding non-monogamy / promiscuity / cheating hot. (She's open to being topless at a nude beach or something, but she says it wouldn't be a sexual thrill for her.)

For a long time I basically assured her that this was all firmly stuff in the realm of fantasy for me and that I would never actually want her to sleep with somebody else. Which was true! But recent events have sort of rearranged my brain for whatever reason and now I'm down for basically anything life might have in store. My wife has picked up on this change and it's led to some interesting cards-on-the-table discussions, but the gist is that I am likely to remain a wannabe.

[HWHubbyHopeful]

Ha. There are like a million things I would love to happen, that range from somewhat realistic to a snowball's chance in hell.

- She goes topless in an anonymous public setting (eg nude beach)
- She gets her tits out in front of people we know (eg hot tub)
- She gets more open with me about her sexual attraction to a guy we met recently and discusses it with me while we have sex or masturbate together
- My friend Celeste and her husband seduce my wife in front of me when we all do molly together in a couple months

Love to know which ones are realistic

[HWHubbyHopeful]

Are there any sexual goals the 2 of you have made together?

That should be a goal—to establish that for 2024. I will keep you posted

[BBCfan]

Are there any sexual goals the 2 of you have made together?

Inquiring minds want to know.
Or would you rather continue as a wannabe?

Last year was unexpectedly ground breaking with her agreeing to consider it, and it creating a huge bump in our sex life with her completely embracing the fantasy play surrounding the idea.

for 2024 we(she) tentatively made plans with this guy for sometime in Spring. The reality of her following through still seems low probability, as much as I fantasize otherwise! LOL

As far as wanting to continue wannabe...
difficult question.
I won't be terribly disappointed if it doesn't happen but the sex life continues to thrive with the fantasy. It's been awesome mostly.

The reality if it happens could go nothing like I/we hope it might.
The humiliation/jealousy I've felt just seeing her in ecstasy from our cock sleeve makes me wonder if I could handle the real event, so would not want to be present just yet, but certainly would want her to pursue it if she desires.

So basically I think I'll be thrilled to have her become a hotwife, if it is her desire and within both our agreed parameters, but also thrilled if just our hot fantasy sex continues.

[Melodia1330]

I really think this will be the year that my wife hooks up with her work crush while away from home at a conference. It came close last year and the sexual tension between the two of them had only been building. I just hope she doesn’t fall completely in love with him and lose all interest in me. So my goal is for her to develop a second sexual relationship with this guy she’s into, but also be able to compartmentalize this to keep our marriage dear to her heart.

[Farmgirl]

Thank you, guys, for your follow-ups.
There is always so much male fantasy on here that I often wonder if the wife is actually included.

[scarfolamew]

Thank you, guys, for your follow-ups.
There is always so much male fantasy on here that I often wonder if the wife is actually included.

It's funny because for a fetish/lifestyle that's nominally about men taking on a role that's more subservient to women's desires, the flipside is that it can also be a hugely indulgent and selfish thing where we want our wives to be our personal pornstars to direct at our pleasure.

The needle I'm trying to thread is that, while my wife has been pretty explicit about her reluctance towards any extramarital activity, she also is someone who (due to her own kinks) specifically enjoys having her boundaries pushed and her consent overridden. For example, she believes she's the type of person who is susceptible to hypnosis, so sometimes I tease her that I'm going to whisper shit in her ear while she's asleep and reprogram her mind to turn her into my polyamorous slut. She finds the nonconsensual aspect of this quite exciting, if not the the notion of polyamory itself.

[philxxo]

My goals for 2024 are modest. My wife and I had long discussions yesterday and including about this topic. Essentially she said as my wife she wants to please me, but her faith will not allow her to do this. She is bothered by the fact that I have this fantasy, and that she is unable to fulfill my fantasy for me. She has conflict. She rather that I don't have this fantasy at all. She swears up and down that I am able to please her sexually, even though I have confronted her about avoiding sex at times. She swears its not due to lack of being pleased. Our communication and openness has increased dramatically this past year regardless. Our sex life is better than ever.

My goals for 2024 are to get some great nude pictures of her. I am slowly getting a few. To get her to share with me what guys she finds attractive. Right now she doesn't tell me because she knows I will hold on to that and use it for my fantasy. I don't think she will hotwife, but since she brings up fucking other men to tease me, I know she still thinks about it.

[tony090909]

My wife has known for about 18 years that I would like to share her, but for some time now, has been clear that it isn't going to happen (she is now 62). I hoped the perfect circumstances might crop up and push her over the edge, but I've just about given up hope of that happening.
We do indulge in some role playing and I would love to do more, but she will only embrace it as an occasional treat; if I ask her too often she gets irritated. One thing she hasn't done for quite a while is dress up for sex - sexy lingerie, a nice dress, some make-up - all things that show she is aware of herself as a woman.
So my goal for 2024 is fairly modest - to get her to dress up for sex. Possibly we could go to a smart restaurant with her dressed in a smart, but sexy way. At some stage in the evening she could go to the loo, come back and hand me her panties. She has done that once or twice in the past and I find it pretty sexy.
A modest goal, but hopefully a realistic one.

[GlasgowWannabe]

Ideally to eat warm cum from my wifes cunt

Given I’m just a wannabe at the minute, I suppose it’s a big ask

[BBCfan]

Thank you, guys, for your follow-ups.
There is always so much male fantasy on here that I often wonder if the wife is actually included.

I wish she was included more!!!

For me being out here and such...it's a fun outlet and kind of therapeutic... so I don't bother my wife as much and things can move along at a more comfortable pace for her.

She knows I'm out here, but I'm glad she doesn't want to be, as I can kind of bounce stuff off people or myself out here and, It's also kind of a diary for my progress.
I can refer back and remind myself of details to potentially help moving forward.

And likely just like her, she's working through things and probably only willing to share what she's comfortable with. This is kind of that outlet for stuff that I don't want to share with her as far as the negative emotions and such, as well as the exciting bits!.

[firef503]

I want to seduce and fuck one guys wife per month.

[dulceandleche]

Funny I just posted this in my thread. Trying to keep it realistic for us
1.Would like to share some pics and video (my wheelhouse) with her actively creating and enjoying the posting. (that may take a while)
2.Flirt online with someone even if just thorugh DM's
3. a IRL experience of any even if just light flirting or dancing on someone (of course if anything goes further win win)

[Her number1]

My goal is simply to be a better husband. While simple in concept, and it should be simple to execute, it is an internal battle every day with the warring factions of myself.

[BBCfan]

I want to seduce and fuck one guys wife per month.

That's funny. Reminds me of a younger version of myself. Although I never was seeking specifically that, married women certainly were exciting and usually just looking for great sex with no attachments.

I imagine you mean with husbands knowledge and approval?
Otherwise, an exciting but VERY dangerous road to go down from my experience.

[BBCfan]

My goal is simply to be a better husband. While simple in concept, and it should be simple to execute, it is an internal battle every day with the warring factions of myself.

I'm curious as to that would entail for you, as a husband involved in the lifestyle.
Is this something you and your partner discuss, or just your ideas?