A change in our relationship…

[Justaregularguy]

My wife and I did a little quiz in December and since then as we have incorporated more of hotwifing into role play we re-scored the quiz

Sex with another dude -has gone from unlikely but I wouldn’t rule it out completely to maybe in the right circumstances
Flirt with another guy - from maybe in the right circumstances to hell yea lets do it now
Bj - has gone from unlikely but I wouldn’t rule it out completely tomaybe in the right circumstances
Virtual sex with another guy - has gone from unlikely but I wouldn’t rule it out completely to more likely than not
Sext with a stranger - has gone from unlikely but I wouldn’t rule it out completely to more likely than not.

And I quote her:
“I think after a drink and if I knew our marriage was safe I wouldn’t be opposed to trying it either”

A few texts later she said she thinks we’re pretty unbreakable now as well and while she’s all for fun there’s only one person she wants to come home to.

Some interesting developments in the space of a month.

We had some hot sex tonight where she had ‘been out and met a stranger in a bar, interestingly her scores on a threesome didn’t change and when asked she said she would feel less pressure and more comfortable solo than she would if I was participating.

[SilverStag]

Quite often you plant the seed and wait for it to germinate.....you are on the right track.

[Justaregularguy]

Quite often you plant the seed and wait for it to germinate.....you are on the right track.

Perhaps but the sudden interest in reading stories, playing along in bed and changing her ratings has shocked me a little

[SilverStag]

I am always baffled that when someone who is searching for something actually finds it, they are amazed or scared or baffled.

Like on those ghost hunting shows....these people actively search out paranormal activity for years, then when they witness something that might be paranormal, they scream and run away.

If you seek something, don't be flustered when you actually get it. Plan your next step.

[Justaregularguy]

I am always baffled that when someone who is searching for something actually finds it, they are amazed or scared or baffled.

If you seek something, don't be flustered when you actually get it. Plan your next step.

No fear… just excitement and a little bit of surprise that she’s embracing it more than before… even just the fantasy is massively improving our sex life.

[BBCfan]

Quite often you plant the seed and wait for it to germinate.....you are on the right track.

Perhaps but the sudden interest in reading stories, playing along in bed and changing her ratings has shocked me a little

That's completely understandable.

When you know someone so closely or think you do, and they've been set in their ways for a very long time, It is shocking or at least very surprising when they do change. Especially with ingrained belief systems of morality. It's not like she's just changing what she has for breakfast.

I know my wife had said never and was very against it.
When she unexpectedly softened on that last year it was shocking ( and exciting)... so I totally get what you mean.

[Justaregularguy]

Quite often you plant the seed and wait for it to germinate.....you are on the right track.

Perhaps but the sudden interest in reading stories, playing along in bed and changing her ratings has shocked me a little

That's completely understandable.

When you know someone so closely or think you do, and they've been set in their ways for a very long time, It is shocking or at least very surprising when they do change. Especially with ingrained belief systems of morality. It's not like she's just changing what she has for breakfast.

I know my wife had said never and was very against it.
When she unexpectedly softened on that last year it was shocking ( and exciting)... so I totally get what you mean.

The last two nights while having sex she’s been different. More raw and so very wet, the way she was talking about fucking these two other men, saying how she was going to have to do it more etc. it was mind blowing, she says she’s never seen me cum so much.

[leggysman]

That period of time when she's making up her mind to become a hotwife ... magical! Very exciting for both of you. Even if it never actually happens, her embracement of the fantasy is a sea change.

[Justaregularguy]

That period of time when she's making up her mind to become a hotwife ... magical! Very exciting for both of you. Even if it never actually happens, her embracement of the fantasy is a sea change.

My gut feeling would now be that there’s a very really possibility that she would be willing to do it one day and more for herself than her ‘doing it for me’

[ohiofella84]

I helped a husband break his wife into things, she was very religious too, so yeah it can take awhile. For her the key was building a connection, so we ended up sexting for like 6 months before timing was right for her and for them to be able to get a night away to do so. But once we broke the seal so to speak for her it definitely came even more appealing and a desire for her more than just to make him happy.

[aztd]

Good luck

[Justaregularguy]

I helped a husband break his wife into things, she was very religious too, so yeah it can take awhile. For her the key was building a connection, so we ended up sexting for like 6 months before timing was right for her and for them to be able to get a night away to do so. But once we broke the seal so to speak for her it definitely came even more appealing and a desire for her more than just to make him happy.

No rush for us, we’ve thought about her doing some online sex stuff though.

[Statein88]

I get it. It was a rush of fear, excitement, surprise and shock when it went from “no I would never do that” to “I think I would like to if you’d like me to.” It definitely changes some perspectives pretty quickly.

Still taking things slow ourselves and honestly we may never get all the way there, which is fine. Communication is better than it’s ever been and we’ve learned a lot about each other. And the intimacy has been fantastic.

[Justaregularguy]

I get it. It was a rush of fear, excitement, surprise and shock when it went from “no I would never do that” to “I think I would like to if you’d like me to.” It definitely changes some perspectives pretty quickly.

Still taking things slow ourselves and honestly we may never get all the way there, which is fine. Communication is better than it’s ever been and we’ve learned a lot about each other. And the intimacy has been fantastic.

Even just the fantasy and role playing it is highly erotic. I’m certain if the right circumstances presented themselves she would do it as well.

[Justaregularguy]

So latest update on our situation is that my wife suggested that she join a dating site and specify she was open to some online fun with somebody. She knows i would excite me for her to have sexual chats with guys or cam with them but she doesn’t want to just be seen as ‘a piece of meat’ so wanted some normal chat first. It came about after a work night out where she got lots of attention and she said it was a big kick for her knowing they wanted her.

[BBCfan]

So latest update on our situation is that my wife suggested that she join a dating site and specify she was open to some online fun with somebody. She knows i would excite me for her to have sexual chats with guys or cam with them but she doesn’t want to just be seen as ‘a piece of meat’ so wanted some normal chat first. It came about after a work night out where she got lots of attention and she said it was a big kick for her knowing they wanted her.

Certainly a positive and hot update. Any nervousness for you from her moving forward somewhat.

[Justaregularguy]

So latest update on our situation is that my wife suggested that she join a dating site and specify she was open to some online fun with somebody. She knows i would excite me for her to have sexual chats with guys or cam with them but she doesn’t want to just be seen as ‘a piece of meat’ so wanted some normal chat first. It came about after a work night out where she got lots of attention and she said it was a big kick for her knowing they wanted her.

Certainly a positive and hot update. Any nervousness for you from her moving forward somewhat.

Nope. No nervousness as we’ve agreed not to rush anything and make sure we are both comfortable

[QuietHope]

I helped a husband break his wife into things, she was very religious too, so yeah it can take awhile. For her the key was building a connection, so we ended up sexting for like 6 months before timing was right for her and for them to be able to get a night away to do so. But once we broke the seal so to speak for her it definitely came even more appealing and a desire for her more than just to make him happy.

Wow, I need to find a dude like you

[QuietHope]

My wife and I did a little quiz in December and since then as we have incorporated more of hotwifing into role play we re-scored the quiz

What was the quiz?

[Justaregularguy]

Just a home made one