Maybe she’s found a friend?

[JR1966]

I placed a similar post in another forum with limited responses so I’m think I was in the wrong area. I’ll post this here and make it a bit shorter, not a lot but some.

My wife knows about my fantasy of her and a younger guy. I first brought it up probably 3 years ago maybe. Originally I thought it was longer but after thinking about it I don’t think it was over 3 years ago really.

She was at first a definite NO never gonna happen and when I did bring it up and would sigh as in a disgusted sigh. But she finally stopped that and doesn’t say anything anymore. She definitely knows how much it turns me on and makes me cum really quickly.

So fast forward after to a couple weeks ago. She had shoulder surgery and is now doing PT. After her first session she comes home and tells me about her PT guy and saying he’s about our younger daughters age and how perfect he would have been for her (she has a serious BF). Because he likes all the things we like. Music, college basketball, kayaking, fishing etc. Tells me he lives along in a cabin on a small acreage etc etc. She’s telling me all this in a very exited voice and just overall happy.

So the next session she has she tells me that he’s not in his 20s but he is 37. Still very happy to tell me all of this. They talk kayaking, fishing and I don’t know what all else. So I tell her they should exchange numbers because he likes to kayak a certain slow moving river and she’s never been on that one and she likes this faster moving river and he’s kind of intimidated by that.

A few days later she comes home and I ask her if she got his number and she says no. The next session I mention to get his number and she says “I don’t want it to look like I’m coming on to him”. So I mention that if he’s as shy as you say he may never ask you to go kayaking. She did tell him that if he ever wants to get on the faster moving river to get ahold of her. I didn’t ask what his response was. We’ve talked more about him and her sessions with him and each time she talks more about him than just what I asked about and seems to enjoy talking about him.

She sees him twice a week and has a few more weeks of PT to do. Should I leave this lay where it is and if she gets his number she does and if not then ok? I don’t wanna push it at all.

What’s everyone’s thoughts about this? Do you think she has an interest in him? I know you don’t know her but what’s it sound like to everyone? Knowing she knows I want her to have male friend and everything and even one to be close with.

Do you think she’s been looking for the right guy all this time ?

A little longer read than I wanted, sorry about that.

[aztd]

Probably has some interest.
Doesn't mean she would do him.
Go slow maybe mention during sex. Maybe mention a fictitious guy a bar pickup someone she met in a social event. Then she responds positive that mention a real person. But my wife lunch I mentioned a real person she told me no way and kind of ruined the session. Go slow Journey can be held a ride within

[Pufferfish]

My 2 cents is as follows:
She's flirting with the idea, and probably enjoying flirting with him. Most likely nothing will come of it, but this is where you need to let her play with the idea herself, and let her dip her toe in and begin to fantasize about it. You've already suggested to get his number, hounding her about it and encouraging it further is only going to irritate her and blow up in your face. So keep that yapper shut.

At best, tell her that you've enjoyed seeing her get excited about this younger guy, and talk about how you think about what it could develop into, and just play with the fantasy with her. Tell her some things you've been thinking about her doing and get her imagination running wild with those scenarios now that she might have a certain guy in mind. That is a good stage to be at and should really be your only goal at this time. Once she's comfortable with that she may begin to play around with the idea of pushing her boundaries. But pushing those boundaries for her is only going to backfire on you.

[JR1966]

Great to see a response like this! I’ve told her my fantasies but not necessarily with him. So she knows for sure.

I’ll keep my yapper shut now and let it develop if it does. If it doesn’t it’s ok.

Thanks for the great advice and great read. Exactly what I wanted to hear and read.

[philxxo]

My 2 cents is as follows:
She's flirting with the idea, and probably enjoying flirting with him. Most likely nothing will come of it, but this is where you need to let her play with the idea herself, and let her dip her toe in and begin to fantasize about it. You've already suggested to get his number, hounding her about it and encouraging it further is only going to irritate her and blow up in your face. So keep that yapper shut.

At best, tell her that you've enjoyed seeing her get excited about this younger guy, and talk about how you think about what it could develop into, and just play with the fantasy with her. Tell her some things you've been thinking about her doing and get her imagination running wild with those scenarios now that she might have a certain guy in mind. That is a good stage to be at and should really be your only goal at this time. Once she's comfortable with that she may begin to play around with the idea of pushing her boundaries. But pushing those boundaries for her is only going to backfire on you.

This is sage advice. Don't push. I wouldn't even bring it up at all. Just listen to her talk about him and be supportive. Do not show even the slightest hint of jealousy. If she asks your advice then encourage things which would bring them closer. If the right guy shows up sometimes things happen. Maybe this is the right guy. Just let things develop naturally.

[JR1966]

Thanks! I’ll do just that for sure. Really if nothing else it would be hot if they became nothing but good friends. I could let my mind wander that way as well.

[JR1966]

Recap of this post. She finished her PT with this guy a few months ago. She gave him her number and told him if he ever wanted to go kayaking together to give her a call. She didn’t get his number.

I’ll add that she did try to find a Facebook and Instagram account for him but he had neither.

One day a month or so ago she brought him up in conversation and I could tell she was excited to talk about him. Don’t remember what the conversation was about now.

The other morning laying in bed we were talking about kayaking and I mentioned she should have gotten his number and how they could be kayaking buddies, when they were done kayaking they could go back to his place and let one thing lead to another. Her response was “well I guess I could tear or break something again so I have to go back to PT”.

The interest in him is definitely there. He’s 21 years younger than her by the way.

[Tryn]

Or… she could tell her doctor she was having some more pain and would like to try PT to see if it helps. Doctors and insurance love PT because it can stave off bigger problems. Both will oblige that request without any delays. Then she just schedules more appointments with him.

[JR1966]

She found him on Instagram and I told her to follow him but she said she thought he might think she’s stalking him. I told her guys don’t think that way. Then yesterday she brought that after we had been talking about him she saw him on the hiway heading home that afternoon.

Last night while laying in bed having stroke me I asked if she was attracted to him and to be honest with me. Her response was “yeah he’s a nice guy”. Her way of saying yes. I said that’s such a turn on and I came just seconds after that so she definitely knows I’m ok with her being his friend if he would.

I think she’s waiting for another opportunity to arise with him somehow some way. He only lives 5 miles from us so the chances of running into him in public could be good if we’d frequent the little town he lives in.

If he’s game I’m 99 percent sure she is!

[belvedere]

She found him on Instagram and I told her to follow him but she said she thought he might think she’s stalking him. I told her guys don’t think that way. Then yesterday she brought that after we had been talking about him she saw him on the hiway heading home that afternoon.

Last night while laying in bed having stroke me I asked if she was attracted to him and to be honest with me. Her response was “yeah he’s a nice guy”. Her way of saying yes. I said that’s such a turn on and I came just seconds after that so she definitely knows I’m ok with her being his friend if he would.

I think she’s waiting for another opportunity to arise with him somehow some way. He only lives 5 miles from us so the chances of running into him in public could be good if we’d frequent the little town he lives in.

If he’s game I’m 99 percent sure she is!

I would love to hear more...

[trecital]

....she may begin to play around with the idea of pushing her boundaries. But pushing those boundaries for her is only going to backfire on you.

I'd second that. She will have a more confident response if she feels that it's her idea to move ahead, her decision to make.
If you push her to do it because you want it, she might feel less invested, and might bail out sooner.
You've opened the door. Let her choose whether or not to go through it.

[JR1966]

We talked about lots of things this morning in bed to include a big black cock fucking her. This evening I went to bed and found her pussy shaved smooth and her extremely horny. She got her black dildo this evening. I fucked her with it while I sucked her toes. A fantasy I told her I’d like to do while another man is fucking her.

[BBCfan]

We talked about lots of things this morning in bed to include a big black cock fucking her. This evening I went to bed and found her pussy shaved smooth and her extremely horny. She got her black dildo this evening. I fucked her with it while I sucked her toes. A fantasy I told her I’d like to do while another man is fucking her.

Wow! That's pretty hot. Has it happened again?

[Bull4Oldrwives]

The really great thing here is that she has to some degree reached a point where she can see herself with another man. There is a complicating factor in terms of this guy in that if he is interested in your wife that is a whole set of professional and legal complications to him pursuing her. So, it is possible that now that the professional relationship has ended nature can take its course. That said, I don't think you want to encourage her to pursue him because if she gets rebuffed it could shut her down.
I am a believer in husbands doing the vetting of potential lovers, especially when it is a first time situation for a mature wife. A husband can really help the wife avoid disappointing experiences. While this case is a little different I still think you can make a contribution here by reaching out to the PT guy and telling him your wife is interested in him. I would not do it via his workplace but if he has a presence on the net then you can try reaching out to him. But do some research before you do to ascertain if he is into mature women, seeing his Facebook and Twitter likes, etc.
You should also not discount the fact that there are many Bulls who are interested in mature wives and will put the time and effort into introducing a wife into the lifestyle. Working with a prospective lover is a great chance to get an idea of your own hopes and aspirations for the lifestyle. As I have always viewed my relationship with husbands as a partnership it is a great way to create the path for everyone to experience the unique opportunity for pleasure, excitement, and romance that only the wife-lover relationship can offer especially within the triad of the wife-lover-husband relationship that allows the lover to become a dynamic and exciting presence in the marriage.