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For those of you with reluctant partners who are on the fence about it, have you tried visiting a swingers club to spectate and get them more curious about it?

Where I live there’s a swingers club that does a newbie night and doesn’t require you to do anything and are happy for couples to just watch. Once I convinced my wife it wasn’t about me trying anything with another women, she became more open to the idea of going to check it out as I said it may be a way for her to try find someone or be more interested.

So the question stands, has this worked for anyone else?

We’ve discussed it but not sure if we’ll ever be taking that approach. I think we both like the idea of checking out that type of environment, but at the same time, not actually knowing anyone beforehand seems pretty off-putting.

I let my wife chose out of different possibilities (read evenings).
But it was not a swingers evening.
I let my wife choose from several clubs. Some with multiple types of nights.
I think she thought the swingers evening (couples only) would hide her jealous side badly.
I never asked her because the choice she made, the nudist evening, suited me best too.
"No problems choosing what to wear but also no fussing with clothes at all" was her reasoning.

Beforehand, we did share our fantasies of such an evening several times. What if, was a regular topic.
When we arrived, she was severely shocked: only men and so she asked at the entrance if there were any other couples present. She got an affirmative answer (thankfully).

Later in the evening, I asked the management how many people were present and how many of them were men alone. The answer did not actually surprise me because the park area was almost completely occupied. On such an evening, between 150 and 200 people were always present. That night, they said, the number was just over 200 of which about 40 were couples. A simple calculation shows that 120 men were alone. So about 30 men per couple. Not counting the partner, of course.

Needless to say, it became her night. A HW was born.
In fact, it became ‘our’ club.

One of the swingers' clubs in Vegas hosts a Hot Wives night a couple times a month. HW couples, single women and single men attend. I understand that the couple who run the Front Porch Swingers podcast host those events at several cities frequently.

We went to a swingers resort. We have been getting into being nude at the house. I then had my wife comfortable of going to local nudist rv parks. I was then going to travel for work and asked my wife if she'd like to join and go to nudist resort in other state. We did not want younger kids around so I found the swingers resort. she said yes, so we tried it out. First day I inadvertently walked into the playroom alone...needless to say, I got yelled at!! by the person who was supposed to be Wtching the door!...we came back the second day and we tried out the playroom. there were two other couples in there...the wife of one couple was getting it by the husband of the other couple...the spouse looked on.

we played by ourselves..no one approached us which was fine.

we met alot of nice people there. I'm still a wannabe, but we do discuss playing..just no steps are being taken

We found a swingers club was a bit too much of mental stimulation for my wife. Meaning a lot was happening and overwhelmed her. Maybe see if she would go on a date with a guy from an app?

Only my opinion, but if she has never done anything hotwife related, I’m not so sure a swinger club is the way to start. It definitely could be overwhelming and depending on the night you go, as in couples only night or one that allows single men, this could change the dynamic also. If it’s a couples night, there can be jealousy issues for the other woman of the couple if her husband plays with your wife and she doesn’t participate. My advice, if you want it, is to vet a man, meet for a drink and take it from there. A swing club for newbies can be mind boggling.