Pathway to the lifestyle

[fntimes11972]

I'm curious what lead married couples to initiate and begin a path towards this lifestyle of wife-sharing or swinging? Was it an occurrence or life event that prompted the initial fantasy? For those just in the fantasy phase, do you want to progress to reality, or are you comfortable keeping it as a fantasy only?

[Littlehotthai]

For me, I was involved in a swinging/swapping/threesome/foursome lifestyle and had a great time! When I married my wife, she was very vanilla and it has grown from a silent fantasy to gradually bringing out a kinkier side of her that I suspected was hidden. It seems like I was correct as she’s slowly finding her feet and involving herself into the fantasy and more lately, some hot behaviour with a massage client of hers (see other thread - 1st time broaching).

[Bent_n_Twisted]

I'm curious what lead married couples to initiate and begin a path towards this lifestyle of wife-sharing or swinging? Was it an occurrence or life event that prompted the initial fantasy? For those just in the fantasy phase, do you want to progress to reality, or are you comfortable keeping it as a fantasy only?

Way back in the beginning, she 'broke up' with me about 3 times so that she could mess around with other guys. At that time, I was not 'turned on', just sad and angry. We got back together each time. I had to rescue her from the last guy, he was stalking her, had a gun and was looking to kill her. He had her trapped in a building we worked at and didn't have her own gun with her, so she called (actually, paged) me to ask me to help. I took care of the problem and we ended up getting back together again.

A few years later, I discovered kink, and FemDom in particular, and that it turned me on. Up to that point I had always been the dominant one. Some time later we discovered [device] enforced male chastity and began experimenting with that and some light FemDom. Our first real go at it, she kept me locked for a month. At the end of the month she insisted on tying me to the bed before she would remove the device and let me cum. I really, REALLY wanted to cum so I let her do it...and then she blew my mind by sitting on my cock and threatening to make me lick my cum out of her pussy if I blew my load. I never expected to hear anything that nasty come out of her mouth and I shot my wad almost immediately. I didn't really think she'd actually go through with it, but she did, demanding that I lick her nasty cum-filled pussy and pulling my hair so hard that I did it in order to get the pain to stop. We had never discussed the idea of a 'safeword' so I really had no choice but to do as she demanded since I had no other way to get her to stop. Licking cum out of her pussy was completely disgusting...but being literally *forced* to do it with no way to get out of it was one of the hottest things ever (and still is).

She discovered that she really, *really* liked it, both the act *and* being able to force me to do such a nasty thing. Fast-forward some years...we were having hotel sex after my company Xmas party, I had been locked for a rather long time and I was plunging a large vibrator in her pussy while she teased my caged cock (which was super hard, well as hard as it could get in the cage). All of a sudden, she said "You really like watching me get fucked, don't you", it was more of a statement than a question.

Bam, new fantasy unlocked. Instead of making me sad and angry, the idea of her making me watch her while someone else fucked her made my cock even harder.

It hasn't happened yet, but it is currently looking like it might.

[hubudig2]

Hot story!
Was getting into femdom and chastity a gradual process?
Who's idea was it to try it?

[annsman]

We enjoyed reading my men’s magazines together and soon realised we were both turned on by the wife sharing letters. That progressed to talking about her past boyfriends then who she currently fancied until we talked seriously about us doing it.

Once we agreed we both wanted it Ann said she would do it with the right guy in the right circumstances and that happened about a year later.
The first time was exciting at the time, but also disappointing, but we worked out what we both wanted and it’s been great ever since.

[Bent_n_Twisted]

Hot story!
Was getting into femdom and chastity a gradual process?
Who's idea was it to try it?

Yes, it was a very gradual process, over a period of years. It was a sort of mutual thing, we started with a 'gates of hell' gizmo and that was interesting, so then we got a 'stallion guard'. The stallion guard was only good for short-term play, but she discovered that she liked being able to tease me, have me pleasure her but not let me do anything with my dick unless she unlocked it...and that me not being able use my dick made me even hornier. Of course, the first time she got her jollies and decided to just roll over and go to sleep without letting me get off too, we found out that after I went to sleep and [eventually] got soft the SG would almost be falling off, and then would get 'pinchy'.

A couple of years later the CB-3000 came out and we decided to try it. She hadn't really been into the FemDom thing at first, but started getting a little more into it when she discovered that sitting on my face with a cum-filled pussy and me not able to stop her gave her screaming orgasms. And that's when I discovered that non-consent, being literally *forced* to do something 'nasty' and 'wrong' that I really didn't want to do (and would *not* do if I had a choice in the matter) was hot as fuck.

She wasn't into it as a full-time thing so we made some rules that basically give her the power to 'lock it up' any time she wants. Playing into the non-consent angle that I find arousing, the 'rules' stipulate that if I refuse she can do anything that it takes to get me locked up, which could be anything from waiting until I fall asleep and tying/cuffing me (we both have have genuine police handcuffs from our previous careers) and putting the device on me herself to getting a few friends to help her.

Over time, she went from that initial month long lock-up to a few months, then to a year and longer. She has occasionally made suggestions/hints that she has considered making it permanent, but (so far) that hasn't happened [yet].

[fntimes11972]

thanks for the responses!

[jrobb]

As mentioned in response to questions like this elsewhere...

How did we start? It was incredibly sexy, soooooo hottt, and suuuuuch a turn on!!! But our first time wasn't like a lot of the others. There wasn't any hinting or apprehension about what to say. It was more like lightning had struck that night...

For years I had searched for whatever it might be that my shy wife might enjoy in terms of sex. She was painfully withdrawn about such things. No talk of fantasies or other such openness. But one night, much to my surprise and joy, she was loosened up enough to reveal herself to me. From the start of that moment, to being shared, took only a couple hours for my hotwife to appear.

It was a regular week night. Me, my buddy, and my petite wife had all been in the living room listening to music and casually talking over a few beers and more in the late '80's. In the course of our conversation, he told a story about how he was involved in a threesome some years ago in college.

Later on that same evening, we went out to the hot tub. After a while, when he got out to get a drink and make a pit stop, she told me, "His story really turned me on." She was clearly loosened up, and I quickly responded with an approving "Mmmmmmmm!" In only a matter of seconds, I was slipping my hard dick into her and quickly gave her a good filling.

By the time my buddy came back to the tub, she was already filled with my cum. He had barely sat down and I lifted her bottom up to where her pussy was above water and said, "Ok, I just got done. Now it's your turn." She, somewhat shocked, asked, "Are you sure? Are you sure you want to do this?" I said, "Absolutely!".

I had her balanced in my hands, floating in the water with her pussy easily visible. Her arm around my neck, my left hand under her shoulders, my right hand under the small of her back. He got down in the water, positioned his face between her spread legs, and started to eat her as I held her in place. I cautioned him about her just being filled with my cum, but he continued to tease her clit and maybe even savor a bit of my remnant. She was cooing her pleasure when he stood up, positioned his hips between her legs, and slid into her VERY ready and willing pussy.

He didn't last long, and when he took his seat again, we all sat there, in a sort of pleasurable shock about how exciting the last couple of minutes actually were. Within 5 minutes, she said, "I want to do that again", and went over to stand next to him in the tub and asked, "How long has it been since you had a blow job?" Before he could even respond, she was already sucking on him as she leaned over, got him just a little hard, and moved her ass to press against him and reached down between her legs to stuff him into her pussy. Sadly, he couldn't muster the erection, and our evening came to a close shortly after.

And that's how it started, and why for us, it took only a couple of hours, if even that, to start our hotwife life.

JR

[hfinglas]

I'm curious what lead married couples to initiate and begin a path towards this lifestyle of wife-sharing or swinging? Was it an occurrence or life event that prompted the initial fantasy? For those just in the fantasy phase, do you want to progress to reality, or are you comfortable keeping it as a fantasy only?

Way back in the beginning, she 'broke up' with me about 3 times so that she could mess around with other guys.

I think it could be a good starter for cuckolds. Getting back to your ex. I have one that wanted to leave me and keep me as a friend. We meet regularly but there is nothing related to sex in our talks. I would love to have her a my ex-hotwife - she could do what she wants with guys and have me as cuckold. How could I introduce this idea ?

[fntimes11972]

It seems I've read in some other threads that an affair/cheating have at times been a pathway. That while painful at first, ultimately manifested in arousal in some degree. Have other's experienced this confusion?

[Colliercuck]

I had a girlfriend cheat on me, she actually asked my best friend and roommate to take her home and fuck her, and I was at the club also…….long before I knew about cuckolding.
He fucked her and gave her an orgasm, and she would sleep over at another guys house often
Then I met my wife, the first time we made love, I asked her how it was as we cuddled (I thought it was amazing and I thought I hit a home run) she replied without missing a beat and so sweet that “Jeff is Bigger “ I was hurt and hard
Took years to find out what cuckolding was, just thought I was a weird and the only one who could ever imagine his girlfriend or wife being fucked and licking the cum from her used pussy
So glad I ran into the rest of you!!!! Cool gang!!

[Bent_n_Twisted]

I'm curious what lead married couples to initiate and begin a path towards this lifestyle of wife-sharing or swinging? Was it an occurrence or life event that prompted the initial fantasy? For those just in the fantasy phase, do you want to progress to reality, or are you comfortable keeping it as a fantasy only?

Way back in the beginning, she 'broke up' with me about 3 times so that she could mess around with other guys.

..Getting back to your ex...

Ex? Actually, we've been married for 25 years, together for 40. The last guy she 'left' me for was a complete asshole, she left him when he tried to beat her. He came after her with a gun, looking to kill her. She called me and, ever her knight, I came on the run and got rid of him for her. I went home with her and never left, we've been together ever since.

As far as introducing *your* ex to this idea, I don't have a clue.

[zorro]

When we were younger, while married to another woman she was friends with, she heard from me that I had gone to a lifestyle party through the Sexual Freedom League in San Diego (with my wife's consent but without her attending). She told me she wished I had taken her because she wanted to go to a party and "fuck every man there." Sadly, we did not do that -- then.
After 35 years apart, we got together after she retired in Europe. I had spent about 6 years in the LS, doing swinging, being the extra guy for couples, and sharing girlfriends with other men and couples.

We talked about sharing her right from the start. She deferred, saying "Let's make it just us -- for now." She learned more about HW, especially liking David Ley's Insatiable Wives. While on a trip to Anchorage, we took advantage of being in a B&B right under an attorney's office next door. She spent about 45 minutes playing naked with the window open and vigorously fucking. A very attractive woman in her 30s in the office next door stood there through the whole thing, sipping a cup of coffee and enjoying watching us mate.

After about 4 months, we had a male friend I used to play with with one of my girlfriends over to take pictures of us. After 90 minutes of snapping pics of us naked, fucking, and seducing the camera, she asked him if he wanted "to come inside." He didn't hesitate to accept the invite. His clothes were off in minutes and we spent more time with her giving us a double blow job and then taking turns fucking. I still treasure the pics from that encounter.

About a month later, we went to our first party, a high-male ratio event with 4 women and 20 young men. "So much testo!" she said as walked in together. We watched people playing and fucking for a while until a young man came up behind her to put his arm around her waist. She turned to kiss him. I pulled off her sweatshirt while they kisIsed and asked if she wanted her bra off. She did not say "no," so I unhooked it. Naked from the waist up, she proceeded to kick down her sweatpants, not missing a beat to kiss her new friend. After a bit, she walked him over to a bed where she fucked him and then 6 other guys as well as myself during pauses in the train. She had more or less fulfilled her fantasy from years before.

We continued to explore sex clubs and small intimate get togethers.

It helps a lot when a woman has a template in her brain to have sex with many people.

A match made in heaven. We remain together and open after over 14 years.