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Hello fellas,
Sorry for the long post, but I feel all details are important.
My wife and I have known each other for 8 years. We had dated for a year, split up and then got back together for a year, then got married and have been married just over a year.
She is an extremely attractive blond with perfect ass, 30 years old now.
Like most hot young women, she has had quite a few more sexual partners than I have. I only ever had sex with women while in a serious relationship.
Our sex life is good. Some nights are very passionate and get a little kinky but most times it’s her letting me relieve myself and fill her with cum as I have a high sex drive.
During a more passionate night, I couldn’t help myself and asked her some questions. Thinking about her past turns me on beyond belief. I asked if she let guys cum in her as that thought is peak exciting for me, and she said all her partners came inside her.

I asked if she’s ever had a threesome. She revealed that she was with a friend and his friend once out camping, all drunk. Her friend began having sex with her in front of the other friend, and after he came in her as he always did, his friend had a turn. Now remember they were all drunk and she didn’t invite the friend to have a turn, but I don’t believe she tried to stop him either. Nevertheless I don’t see this as a voluntary threesome and therefore void in that it doesn’t suggest her desire for threesomes.
The thought of two guys unloading in her has absolutely driven me sexually crazy. Partly because I feel as if I never did anything other than boring bed sex within serious relationships, and wish I had more fun before settling down.

I asked her if she would do a threesome to help me feel like i had a little fun in my life. I explained It could be either her and another woman and myself or another guy and myself. She said she would never be able to handle seeing me inside another woman regardless if it was a stranger or a friend. Which Is fine, because she herself is very attractive and I’m more looking to see her have sex, and also wouldn’t want to worry about her regretting seeing me inside another woman. Who knows, this could always change too.
Then she really took me off guard and said “I would rather you get your sexual desires to have casual sex out of your system without me knowing so I don’t have to think about you having sex with another girl”
Now I’m not sure if that was permission for me to go have sex without her knowing or not. I mean she said it but it just sounds like cheating and that’s really not what I’m after anyways.

I have developed a strong desire the past several months to see another guy having sex with her, preferably raw and preferably filling her up. I would certainly settle for condom, pullout or oral if needed but sex without internal fluids mixing is what makes it such a special event.
We are 4 months into trying to get her pregnant, me filling her every other night with no luck. However if she gets pregnant, I’d love to use the opportunity to have someone fill her with cum as pregnancy risk won’t be an issue.
I am 100% straight but I drool over the thought of sharing her and seeing someone pump her perfect naked body full of cum.

So anyways I asked if she would be interested in having another guy join.
To my surprise. She didn’t give a firm no and said “I’ll think about it but i don’t know”
Then we briefly discussed how would we find the right guy, whether online, locally , or someone she knows.
It would need to be an attractive young male with preferable a large penis as she’s used to mine. Finding a male has to be easier than finding a female because what male doesn’t want to have sex with a very attractive blond and likely cum inside. However he must be very clean and safe and hopefully know how to teams her orgasm. We’re not the type to go to clubs or anything and it would need to be discrete. I’d love to see her find a guy she knows so it’s not a total stranger but then word could get out.
I’d love for one of my friends to climb on top of her and fill her up but how the hell do you ask a friend if they want to have sex with your wife. I guarantee they all would but wild they ever admit it or not think it’s a trap? If that goes south, I could only imagine the awkwardness.

Another reason I would like this to happen is she told me no guy has ever made her orgasm. She’s never had an orgasm during sex, not even with us using toys, and that is truly sad to me. The best part about sex is climaxing and letting it all go. I have not had an issue making other women have an orgasm. My penis is quite big and most women can’t even take it all, however my wife can take the entire thing which is extremely hot and orgasmic. I like to think this is because other large penis guys (she said another guy was almost as big as me) have wallowed her out for me.

I believe with the right guy that she’s attracted to being deep inside her with me simultaneously passionately kissing her to reassure my approval, she could hopefully enjoy her first orgasm. The thought of another man making her orgasm doesn’t bother me at all, I just want to see her have rewarding sex for once. After all I’m the one that gets to share a love connection during sex and cum in her perfect body for the rest of time.

At this point, that dirty sex talk is as far as it’s gone. I don’t want to push too hard. But I am in awe and very hopeful after she said she would think about it. Anything other than a hard no seems like a “yes but is this for real”.
What married woman wouldn’t want to have passionate clean sex with other hot men and not get in trouble for it?

I did purchase a large dildo, that’s actually even longer than my penis , which she makes disappear too. The idea is to give her a taste of a two penises inside of her at the same time and hope she wants the real thing.

Ok first and foremost; if you do get her pregnant, and then she plays unprotected with a bull, there is a serious risk of harming the fetus with an STD. If you care about your child, you WILL get the bull to provide a clean STD report.

As to her saying you could have sex with another woman without her knowing; don't even go there without a LOT more discussion. From the sounds of it, she did NOT give you a hall pass. If she doesn't want to handle seeing you buried inside of another woman, she sure as heck will not want that thought being a question in her mind..."Did he do it? Did he really do it?" Don't go there. Do. Not. Go. There.

Ok so this is your fantasy. You've expressed this. Now, let it simmer. This can't be reality unless it is HER fantasy too. She knows it's your fantasy now. Give it time to become hers. If she's doing it only because it's your fantasy, chances are it won't go well, and even if it does go well, it's unlikely to ever repeat. Walk together in this. Talk openly, without judgment, let her grow into it. Let your communication become absolutely open, down into your deepest desires, deepest thoughts, deepest passions.

You asked what married woman wouldn't want to have sex with some hot men and not get in trouble for it? I'll tell you; THE VAST MAJORITY. This is different for women. Sorry to go into stereotypes, but men tend to separate sex and emotions more easily than women do.

Be patient. Be caring. Be loving. Be supportive. Be open. DO NOT PUSH.

In my opinion, you’re not really going too far with any fantasy until your wife discovers how to have an orgasm. Many wives, especially after becoming a mom, see their desire go way down. If she’s not having orgasms, a big part of why women have sex, then I question your long term sexual relationship. At some point, she’s bound to just not want to anymore. Trust me, her desire to just please you is going to tank when she’s caring for a child or children. Just ask any dads you know. It’s the part of kids nobody tells you about! Sure, there’s the rare wife that doesn’t lose that interest, but it’s got to be less than 5% of women.

You need to help your wife learn how to orgasm. Likely a trained professional is the only way for her to learn. Otherwise, she’d already know how.

bbarnsworth wrote: ↑

Sun Jul 14, 2024 6:53 pm

Ok first and foremost; if you do get her pregnant, and then she plays unprotected with a bull, there is a serious risk of harming the fetus with an STD. If you care about your child, you WILL get the bull to provide a clean STD report.

As to her saying you could have sex with another woman without her knowing; don't even go there without a LOT more discussion. From the sounds of it, she did NOT give you a hall pass. If she doesn't want to handle seeing you buried inside of another woman, she sure as heck will not want that thought being a question in her mind..."Did he do it? Did he really do it?" Don't go there. Do. Not. Go. There.

Ok so this is your fantasy. You've expressed this. Now, let it simmer. This can't be reality unless it is HER fantasy too. She knows it's your fantasy now. Give it time to become hers. If she's doing it only because it's your fantasy, chances are it won't go well, and even if it does go well, it's unlikely to ever repeat. Walk together in this. Talk openly, without judgment, let her grow into it. Let your communication become absolutely open, down into your deepest desires, deepest thoughts, deepest passions.

You asked what married woman wouldn't want to have sex with some hot men and not get in trouble for it? I'll tell you; THE VAST MAJORITY. This is different for women. Sorry to go into stereotypes, but men tend to separate sex and emotions more easily than women do.

Be patient. Be caring. Be loving. Be supportive. Be open. DO NOT PUSH.

Yes we would absolutely need a test report.
I did reach out to a very close friend last night that I trust very much, in regards to if he would be interested in having sex with my wife. He is far more wild in bed and I could see him making her have an orgasm. He said he would gladly have sex with her. I haven’t ran this by my wife yet, but I wanted to make sure I had a trusted candidate. I could see my wife being interested in having sex with him.
And yeah, I’m not too worried being with another woman as that’s not my desire and it’s not worth risking the relationship either, that’s for sure.
Thank you for your insight, that all makes perfect sense. I don’t expect this to happen overnight. It seems most women let it simmer for years before they themselves want to go for it. And I think you’re absolutely right about women not separating emotions. My wife’s sex drive seems to be entirely emotional based.

Tryn wrote: ↑

Mon Jul 15, 2024 9:29 am

In my opinion, you’re not really going too far with any fantasy until your wife discovers how to have an orgasm. Many wives, especially after becoming a mom, see their desire go way down. If she’s not having orgasms, a big part of why women have sex, then I question your long term sexual relationship. At some point, she’s bound to just not want to anymore. Trust me, her desire to just please you is going to tank when she’s caring for a child or children. Just ask any dads you know. It’s the part of kids nobody tells you about! Sure, there’s the rare wife that doesn’t lose that interest, but it’s got to be less than 5% of women.

You need to help your wife learn how to orgasm. Likely a trained professional is the only way for her to learn. Otherwise, she’d already know how.

We do have a two year old. Lucky for me we still have sex every other night or atleast a few times a week.
But I think you’re absolutely right, she needs to enjoy orgasms during sex to keep her drive up. Like I told her, I can’t imagine having sex and not cumming. That would be miserable! She enjoys the “love” of sex and knowing I’m pumping my fluid in her as a sign of the deepest level of love, but I can’t imagine the physical feeling is all that great without a climax.

I’m hopeful that the thoughts and hopeful acts of being shared will drive her emotions through the roof. Perhaps also developing a much dirtier and kinkier sex life that could possibly lead to orgasm without a second person as well.

Have you watched some porn together? Have her relax and give her a nice massage. (Learn the right way from YouTube), get some scented oil. Let her relax and watch something she might be into. Spread her legs, you can put a pillow under her to raise her ass a little if you want. Eat her pussy and ass while she's on her stomach. Then have sex when shes ready. Take charge and move her into different positions. Doggie, cowboy, reverse, make sure your in charge and just roll her into position. Don't forget to smack her ass. Just suggestions. Or do the opposite if that is what you already do. Tantric music, massage, work on her. You should be able to tell what she likes. Tell her to talk to you and tell you what she likes while shes relaxed. Just change up and don't be fucking vanilla! To be blunt!!

Tallman wrote: ↑

Sun Jul 14, 2024 4:41 pm

she told me no guy has ever made her orgasm. She’s never had an orgasm during sex, not even with us using toys

A significant minority of women (something like 25%?) can't orgasm from penetration alone. None of my three long-term partners have been able to it's just biological.

Luckily, licking pussy is like a hobby of mine.

With my wife leggysandy, it's even trickier. She has to clench her thighs together while stimulating her clitoris, and have something that sounds similar to a "coregasm". She has come to love receiving oral - although I had to bring her along with the specific techniques she liked, and then expand the envelope - but making her come that way just isn't a realistic option (see clenched thighs, above, although I will keep happily trying regardless!) We've had to get creative to incorporate her orgasms into our sex. I even wrote up a user manual for her other fellas

Why not start with a way she knows she can orgasm, and work out a way for you to help? Even if it's just kissing or touching, stimulating her other erogenous zones, talking dirty, or possibly finding a way that you can penetrate her at the same time. Better to first work together with what she's got, than to hope that a hypothetical lover with a magic penis can 'fix' her.

Well, I let her know my thoughts!
I told her I wanted to see her have sex with another man, and that i wanted to see her cum on someone while they cum in her.
She took the whole reveal very well, no awkward feelings or negative thoughts whatsoever, so that’s great. She said “I don’t know if I can ever do that”. The expected response for the initial reveal no doubt.
I asked if she had ever thought about a threesome with two guys and she said no.
I talked to one of my closest friends prior and he is entirely up for having sex with her, trying his hand at making her cum and ultimately filling her with his cum.
I told her this as well. She didn’t have much of a comment. I asked if it’s awkward knowing my friend would gladly have sex with her and she said no not at all. I asked if she would hypothetically have sex with him and she said I don’t see myself having sex with anyone.

At this point, She knows the full extent of my fantasy and knows she can have sex with someone. Maybe she will see attractive guys and the thoughts will start rolling?
It currently lies at a pretty hard no. I will see how dirty talk and possibly role play plays out while we have sex. Maybe a fantasy will develop for her.

I won’t push it, we will see how it goes with time.

Tallman wrote: ↑

Sun Jul 14, 2024 4:41 pm

...I have not had an issue making other women have an orgasm. My penis is quite big and most women can’t even take it all, however my wife can take the entire thing which is extremely hot and orgasmic.

A thought- sometimes, with some women, you need to use more than your dick to cause her to orgasm. Use your mouth, tongue, fingers...and on more than just her pussy. When I was much younger I was concerned about not being able to 'last' long enough, so I developed the habit of finding other ways to make women cum at least once before even getting to fucking. I had one woman that I learned to make cum just by kissing, nibbling, licking and sucking her earlobes. You need to find out what makes *her* cum, it's rare that there isn't *something*.

Sometimes, you need to be patient. Find out what she likes, what makes her feel good. Sometimes, you need to tease, a lot, and not be focused on getting her to cum (because it can seem like a chore). Maybe she needs to be tied and teased- she might be uptight and have some kind of mental block that prevents her from reaching orgasm, and a little bondage might allow her to enjoy more fully because she 'isn't responsible'. I did this a lot with my wife, tying her up and then teasing her for so long that it became impossible for her *not* to orgasm when I stopped teasing and went for it.

With my wife, I have found that if I make her cum at least once *before* fucking, she will cum again at least once during fucking.

Use your head, not just your dick. Pay attention to what gives her pleasure- see what she responds to and give her more of that. I have found that, with patience, I can turn almost any part of her body into an erogenous zone, and by the time I get to her pussy she is primed and ready to blast off.