Confessed a little

[Marinecuckplease]

Last week i bought a dildo for my wife. Nothing crazy just lifelike. This weekend i used it on her. Afterward she asked if i got it for myself to experiment. I kinda let it slide and carried on what we were doing. Later i said im not gay and it wasnt for me more for you. And that i have a threesome fantasy but with another guy for her. She said YUCK lol. But shortly after asked if i wanted to see her get fucked while she sucked my cock. I played coy a little and said kinda yeah it sounds hot. She also asked if i wanted to name it. I said i didnt think that far ahead as i wanted to get her to enjoy the dildo before i brought up any roleplay. We bullshitted about some other stuff and i said i fantasize about her having a secret slutty past. She said all she did was makeout with guys. Overall a good conversation. Went home and her pussy was wettest ive ever seen before me touching her. Used the dildo but no roleplay. So i think planted the seed. Now do i wait for her to bring it back up or keep up this new potential roleplay without overdoing it of course.

[BallSpanking]

Very well done, tactfully and in the proper order.

[zorro]

Yes, you have definitely planted the seed. What next? You don't want to appear obsessed or pushy about your fantasy, so keeping initiation of discussion limited is in order. But she also set up a test for you when she declared the idea of sharing her with another guy in a threesome as "YUCK." Characterizing playing as yuck amounts to saying such behavior is shameful and disgusting. Implicitly, she is waiting to hear if you can be shamed by these thoughts. Until you can demonstrate that YOU do not regard sharing her as shameful or disgusting, you are on your back foot in this back and forth. And so far you do not describe responding to her challenge. Your silence could be construed by her that you are ashamed of this thought, giving her reason to not consider it more.

You might at some point soon ask her to explain further what about a threesome seems like yuck to HER, declaring that it doesn't sound like yuck at all to you and that in fact it sounds darn right yummy. That preserves differentiation between her and you: She might actually be turned off to the idea but that doesn't mean you need to be. And you can both be respectful of the difference. And you can still engage in a dialogue about the reasons for her judgment of YUCK. It may be nothing more than her testing you to see how strongly you embrace it; or she may have religious or other antisexual upbringing that contaminates it for her. But clarifying the reasons for her label can start a discussion and exploration of why she feels the way she does and why you feel the way you do. Asking her about her declaration of YUCK is responding to her step in the discussion as she replied with an implicit invitation for you to go further.

Another opportunity to continue the dialogue she sets up is to propose a name for the dildo. You could say, "Let's call this guy 'Bob,'" giving her a change to think about what guy she wants to name the dildo after. You don't (or I assume you don't) which real-life guys she has felt some lust for but has been to demure/repressed to tell you. The honesty of communication is not high enough in your relationship yet for that discussion, from the hints you give us. But what if she says, "Not 'Bob," "Frank." And you recognize who Frank is. She can dabble in your fantasy without confessing anything explicitly. She has some willingness to talk about her past sex life, perhaps, so who knows where all this might evolve.

See these exchanges as something like tennis, where you serve the ball, and she returns the serve. Now, how will you respond to her return?

Keep us informed. I don't think this is over. And what you are offering your wife is a loving gift, not YUCK.

[Marinecuckplease]

Yes our communication is good but our sexual commnication is a work in progress. Im trying to be delicate as to not push her too hard in any direction. Our conversation bled over into other sexual acts ex anal and i said its more that i want to experiment and find all the ways for us to experience pleasure. It was not directed at the theesome part of the conversation but loosly attributed.
Yes im going to ask her what to name it. I have a name in mind its not anyone we know but a tv character. Ill let her lead if she bites. Hopefully tonight when the kids go to bed we will have time to talk.
So how deep should i go into explaining myself? I should probably just hold off and hope she gets curious right?

[KevDi69]

Yes, the seed is planted and may be germinating! Her ‘yuck’ remark may be a reaction to the thought of you and another man interacting during a threesome since you were a little vague about whether the dildo was also for you.
Since she asked about naming it, she probably has one in mind, maybe someone she almost gave her virginity to. Or some other hot guy she knows. I agree with letting her choose the name. That will help advance any fantasies of sex with another man. Whatever you do, don’t get jealous (or let jealousy show) if she names it after an old boyfriend or someone you know.
Good luck!

[Marinecuckplease]

Little update but not much. We have a name for the dildo. I asked her if shed roleplay the threesome fantasy and had a confused look but also had a shit eating grin. Then i asked if she thought of a name. Then it clicked and she forgot about dildo. So last night we went for a ride and asked her if she thought of any names She said she dosent have time to think about that. So we talked some i asked if there was any hot guys she missed out on or thought was hot. She had a slight pause and said what if i dont want you to know. I said thats fine. We played with names some at some point i said its gotta be a name with some meaning so its more enjoyable for you. After a while talking movies lol we came up with a name. We used it later but i didnt dirty talk too much. Just used the name so she can get used to it. Any progress is progress so well take it month by month