Should I reveal my fantasy?
Posted: Wed Aug 21, 2024 6:43 am
Hi all, as I'm sure it is for all of you, these questions of if/how/when to reveal my hotwife fantasy to my partner is driving me up a wall.
So I need your help and constructive opinions, as I have nowhere else to go for advice on this matter.
I'll try to keep this brief and well-organized, so please read the full story and then give your conclusion.
Thank you!
Background
I'm in my late 20s and my fiancee is 4 years younger than me. I'll call her Jane.
We met when she was still a virgin and have been together for 8 years.
I would say our relationship is incredibly strong and filled with love. We are crazier about each other than we were, say 5 years ago.
It doesn't hurt that she is gorgeous.
The biggest issue for us is that from about year 3 of our relationship to year 7, we had a huge issue with our sex life.
Sure, there was the pandemic and some stressful life events, but Jane's libido crashed to the point where we were lucky to have sex once a month.
It was the typical cycle of a dead bedroom. But through persistent talks and her own efforts through therapy, we are finally in a place where she takes initiative on a weekly basis.
One of the first signs that she may be receptive was that we were having a conversation a few months back about sexual fantasies.
Of course, I've been hiding the fact that I've had a hotwife fantasy for nearly a decade from her.
We were talking about fantasies that seem hot in theory / porn but we would never do in real life.
I mentioned an orgy, because it's hot in videos but it would be way too stressful and kind of gross.
We then got into talking about threesomes and I admitted (to no one's surprise) that a FMF threesome would be hot.
That's when she said "obviously" MFM threesomes are hot for women. "You just sort of lie there and get all the.. you know"
She asked me whether I would be open to either threesomes and when I said yes, she was very pleasantly surprised.
A few days later we tried talking dirty in bed about threesomes.
I asked her if we had a threesome with a guy what race she'd want. She said maybe a white or black guy cause she's never been with one (I'm latino).
I mentioned my favorite porn video was with an actress that looks like Jane and two guys. I said I imagined her sucking me while she was fucked from behind. To be fair, I was really nervous so I didn't speak so directly but that was the gist.
Jane played along very briefly, but she was uncomfortable. She's a shy, 'proper' girl so she quickly moved off the topic.
A few days later she told me she felt like though she may be open to a threesome at some point, she felt like we were making it too real too quickly.
So I backed off.
Fast forward a few months (present day), we started watching porn together in bed.
Knowing that she scares easy, I didn't want to click on anything that would make her feel uncomfortable.
There have been some data points that are very encouraging, but also a few that make me feel cautious.
First of all, one night she pointed out a video titled "Cuckold gone wrong - she got addicted to him". Jane said it looked hot.
Though we didn't watch it (I don't know why I didn't have the guts to click on it - just trying to act too cool), at the end of the night I told her I loved how honest she was and open in sharing what she found hot, like cuckold porn. She said she did hesitate.
A few weeks later, she had me click on a video titled "Busty British Wife Gifted BBC Fantasy For 5 Year Anniversary".
We watched the first few seconds, but then she sort of freaked out and said I don't like it.
It might be because of the odd racial dynamic in some of these videos.
We ended up playing a non-explicitly cuckold video while we had sex, but it was a video of a actress that Jane knows I think looks like her. It was that actress getting fucked by a hung black guy.
I recognize these are great signs, but yesterday during a handjob when I brought up to her that I had a dream recently about us in a threesome, she didn't really pursue the topic.
I would imagine if she was truly interested she would have asked me what kind of threesome or more details.
It seems like I'm getting conflicting signs from her.
What do ya'll think?
So I need your help and constructive opinions, as I have nowhere else to go for advice on this matter.
I'll try to keep this brief and well-organized, so please read the full story and then give your conclusion.
Thank you!
Background
I'm in my late 20s and my fiancee is 4 years younger than me. I'll call her Jane.
We met when she was still a virgin and have been together for 8 years.
I would say our relationship is incredibly strong and filled with love. We are crazier about each other than we were, say 5 years ago.
It doesn't hurt that she is gorgeous.
The biggest issue for us is that from about year 3 of our relationship to year 7, we had a huge issue with our sex life.
Sure, there was the pandemic and some stressful life events, but Jane's libido crashed to the point where we were lucky to have sex once a month.
It was the typical cycle of a dead bedroom. But through persistent talks and her own efforts through therapy, we are finally in a place where she takes initiative on a weekly basis.
One of the first signs that she may be receptive was that we were having a conversation a few months back about sexual fantasies.
Of course, I've been hiding the fact that I've had a hotwife fantasy for nearly a decade from her.
We were talking about fantasies that seem hot in theory / porn but we would never do in real life.
I mentioned an orgy, because it's hot in videos but it would be way too stressful and kind of gross.
We then got into talking about threesomes and I admitted (to no one's surprise) that a FMF threesome would be hot.
That's when she said "obviously" MFM threesomes are hot for women. "You just sort of lie there and get all the.. you know"
She asked me whether I would be open to either threesomes and when I said yes, she was very pleasantly surprised.
A few days later we tried talking dirty in bed about threesomes.
I asked her if we had a threesome with a guy what race she'd want. She said maybe a white or black guy cause she's never been with one (I'm latino).
I mentioned my favorite porn video was with an actress that looks like Jane and two guys. I said I imagined her sucking me while she was fucked from behind. To be fair, I was really nervous so I didn't speak so directly but that was the gist.
Jane played along very briefly, but she was uncomfortable. She's a shy, 'proper' girl so she quickly moved off the topic.
A few days later she told me she felt like though she may be open to a threesome at some point, she felt like we were making it too real too quickly.
So I backed off.
Fast forward a few months (present day), we started watching porn together in bed.
Knowing that she scares easy, I didn't want to click on anything that would make her feel uncomfortable.
There have been some data points that are very encouraging, but also a few that make me feel cautious.
First of all, one night she pointed out a video titled "Cuckold gone wrong - she got addicted to him". Jane said it looked hot.
Though we didn't watch it (I don't know why I didn't have the guts to click on it - just trying to act too cool), at the end of the night I told her I loved how honest she was and open in sharing what she found hot, like cuckold porn. She said she did hesitate.
A few weeks later, she had me click on a video titled "Busty British Wife Gifted BBC Fantasy For 5 Year Anniversary".
We watched the first few seconds, but then she sort of freaked out and said I don't like it.
It might be because of the odd racial dynamic in some of these videos.
We ended up playing a non-explicitly cuckold video while we had sex, but it was a video of a actress that Jane knows I think looks like her. It was that actress getting fucked by a hung black guy.
I recognize these are great signs, but yesterday during a handjob when I brought up to her that I had a dream recently about us in a threesome, she didn't really pursue the topic.
I would imagine if she was truly interested she would have asked me what kind of threesome or more details.
It seems like I'm getting conflicting signs from her.
What do ya'll think?
