Wife bringing it up over time

[Mumfred]

Has anyone every had their wife bring up hotwifing after you've dropped the subject for months? After saying months ago that she doesn't want to do it she is hinting at it. I would like to play but I just don't think I can take the lead on the conversation any more.

[Lucky Dog]

Has anyone every had their wife bring up hotwifing after you've dropped the subject for months? After saying months ago that she doesn't want to do it she is hinting at it. I would like to play but I just don't think I can take the lead on the conversation any more.

If you've tried hard and nothing has worked, give it a small break. One day you might show her a video or two, and then you could show one with a second man for the woman. You never know... sometimes, ideas percolate and come to fruition much later.

[Dream Weaver]

Has anyone every had their wife bring up hotwifing after you've dropped the subject for months? After saying months ago that she doesn't want to do it she is hinting at it. I would like to play but I just don't think I can take the lead on the conversation any more.

Yes. Wife wasn't interested until she was. That being said, pestering her int he bedroom was a no-no fairly quickly. But giving her positive signs when she brought it up? Absolutely fine in her mind.

[isinlarsa]

My wife was fairly promiscuous when we meet. She was very open about telling me about her sexual past, which included 24 previous sexual relationship ranging from one night stands to a relationship that lasted more than a year. She even continued to see another man for a few weeks when we started dating, which she told me about. However, she dropped him to concentrate on our relationship.

After we married she had no interest in extramarital sex. She was aware that my previous relationships had been open to one degree and another, and it excited me to think about her with other men. Never-the-less, she expressed no interest, and would shoot me down if I even alluded to her being with other men. She would get angry and say that she wouldn't be my "porn queen." As a consequence I gave up even mentioning it or in trying to bring it up as a fantasy during sex.

However, when she was 44 and after 16 years of marriage and one child, things changed. Much to my surprise she came to me and told me she wanted to date other men. She said she wanted that feeling of being desired again, and she didn't want to go through the rest of her life only having sex with me. I guess entering middle age changed her perspective.

With my enthusiasic agreement and assistance she placed an ad on an internet site as a married woman looking to date and perhaps more.

The rest is history.

[Mumfred]

If you've tried hard and nothing has worked, give it a small break. One day you might show her a video or two, and then you could show one with a second man for the woman. You never know... sometimes, ideas percolate and come to fruition much later.

Thanks Lucky Dog

[Mumfred]

Yes. Wife wasn't interested until she was. That being said, pestering her int he bedroom was a no-no fairly quickly. But giving her positive signs when she brought it up? Absolutely fine in her mind.

Thanks Dream Weaver. Some solid advice.

[Mumfred]

My wife was fairly promiscuous when we meet. She was very open about telling me about her sexual past, which included 24 previous sexual relationship ranging from one night stands to a relationship that lasted more than a year. She even continued to see another man for a few weeks when we started dating, which she told me about. However, she dropped him to concentrate on our relationship.

After we married she had no interest in extramarital sex. She was aware that my previous relationships had been open to one degree and another, and it excited me to think about her with other men. Never-the-less, she expressed no interest, and would shoot me down if I even alluded to her being with other men. She would get angry and say that she wouldn't be my "porn queen." As a consequence I gave up even mentioning it or in trying to bring it up as a fantasy during sex.

However, when she was 44 and after 16 years of marriage and one child, things changed. Much to my surprise she came to me and told me she wanted to date other men. She said she wanted that feeling of being desired again, and she didn't want to go through the rest of her life only having sex with me. I guess entering middle age changed her perspective.

With my enthusiasic agreement and assistance she placed an ad on an internet site as a married woman looking to date and perhaps more.

The rest is history.

Thanks for this isinlarsa. I like the thought of just leaving the ball in her court and, who knows, maybe one day it may happen.

[Small]

It's always a good sign when she suddenly starts talking about it again, and especially if it wasn't based on you hinting at it. That shows that she has actually been thinking about it and in all likelihood she is much more interested in it than she openly admits to be. Most women at that point are a bit ashamed to admit these desires. What or how exactly is she saying or doing and in what circumstances has she brought it up?

[Bent_n_Twisted]

Has anyone every had their wife bring up hotwifing after you've dropped the subject for months? After saying months ago that she doesn't want to do it she is hinting at it. I would like to play but I just don't think I can take the lead on the conversation any more.

My wife brings it up from time to time, months can pass without any mention and then she will say something out of the blue that lets me know that she is still thinking about it.

It started as a chance remark that *she* made when we were having 'hotel sex'* after a company event (for my job) that we had to travel to attend. I had been locked in a chastity cage for quite a number of months, we were in a '69', she was squeezing and slapping my balls, and teasing my caged cock while I was licking her clit and fucking her with a large vibrator. All of a sudden she said "You like watching me get fucked, don't you."

It was more of a statement than a question. Without thinking, I said "Yes" while watching the vibrator going in and out of her pussy, groaned and almost shot a load. After that, she would bring it up from time to time, and eventually she started building on the idea until it involved her having several 'boyfriends' that I would have to watch fucking her (while I remained caged) and have to lick her pussy after they finished. She would even dream about it sometimes, which told me that it was something that she really wanted to do.

At first, I didn't specifically encourage her except for her being able to observe that when she talked about it I became clearly and obviously extremely aroused, with a little moaning and groaning thrown it. After a few years of this I wrote her a note letting her know that *I* knew how hot she was for it, and made up an 'official' 'Hall Pass' which clearly indicated that as long as she was playing 'Mistress'** she could do anything she wanted with anyone she wanted, including fucking and sucking.

She brought it up more after that, and I think that if Covid hadn't fucked everything up we'd be well into it by now.

*(For some reason, sex in a hotel always seems to be wilder than sex at home.)

**(We started out with her caging me and her being 'Mistress' while I was her 'sex slave'. The idea of her fucking others wasn't even involved at that time, it was just something that developed out of the Mistress/slave power exchange.)

[Mumfred]

**(We started out with her caging me and her being 'Mistress' while I was her 'sex slave'. The idea of her fucking others wasn't even involved at that time, it was just something that developed out of the Mistress/slave power exchange.)

Was this a fantasy you had before she brought it up?

[Bent_n_Twisted]

**(We started out with her caging me and her being 'Mistress' while I was her 'sex slave'. The idea of her fucking others wasn't even involved at that time, it was just something that developed out of the Mistress/slave power exchange.)

Was this a fantasy you had before she brought it up?

No. But the remark of "You like watching me get fucked..." hit hard. It was like an instantaneous flash, in my mind the vibrator turned into a real cock and I said "Yes" without thinking. I didn't understand it, but the idea of seeing someone else fucking her was suddenly arousing. It was very strange, because when she had been fucking others previously I was a combination of sad and angry, but suddenly I was aroused by it.

[bbarnsworth]

I think it is important that a wife becoming a hotwife is something that feels to her as her fantasy coming to reality, not her husband's. That can take time. You've opened the door, you've let her know that you are interested in her having sex with other men. You can be supportive, and allow her to explore the idea in a way that isn't suggesting any idea of pushing her, but rather one of accepting her desires as normal and her own. Let her grow into it.

For my wife and I, the idea of being non-monogamous came up early on when we were dating. I'd been briefly involved in a poly triad, where I was the extra guy having a relationship with a married woman, fully with her husband's knowledge and consent. My wife couldn't accept it. She insisted that this other woman was cheating on her husband. I noted, "How can it be cheating if they both agree and want it?" She'd reply, "Their marital vows were broken". I noted, "If a couple mutually and agreeably decide to change their vows, how is it wrong?" We never got anywhere with those discussions. It wasn't about trying to convince her to do the same, but just philosophical discussion. She never agreed it was ok. But, it was the past, and the past was the past. I made no mention of it ever being something we'd do, or something I wanted, or anything like that. I presumed I'd be monogamous and so would she, and once married that would be the way it would be for the rest of our lives; just us.

Fast forward six years into our marriage. I'd never mentioned peep about non-monogamy in any form, whether it be swinging, open marriage, hot wifing, etc. Nothing. Not a word. One night in bed my wife (who loves massage) says "I think it would be fun to have two men massaging me at once". It was like 100 bolts of lightning all struck at once. I simply could not believe my ears. Who was this woman? Was this my wife talking? Who are you, where is my wife, and what did you do with her?

Short story wrap up; eight months later she was happily having sex with another man while I had the enormous pleasure of watching her sexual ecstasy.

So yeah sometimes it can take a long time. For us, it was six years after getting married. For insinlarsa, it was 16 years. Your mileage may vary. Hopefully it goes quicker than years

[Mumfred]

I think it is important that a wife becoming a hotwife is something that feels to her as her fantasy coming to reality, not her husband's. That can take time. You've opened the door, you've let her know that you are interested in her having sex with other men. You can be supportive, and allow her to explore the idea in a way that isn't suggesting any idea of pushing her, but rather one of accepting her desires as normal and her own. Let her grow into it.

That's a great way of looking at it. I sometimes wonder if she is waiting for me to say the thing she wants to hear when she wants to hear it but if that is the case I don't think I'm astute enough to pick up on it. I think it is best if I wait and see if anything materializes.

[BallSpanking]

I don't know, Mumfred ... I think by bringing up the topic on her own initiative (even just hinting at it), your wife is opening the door, inviting further discussion on the topic. If you have a tough time bringing it up yourself (and men are usually much more comfortable with dirty talk than women), I can imagine your wife might also feel awkward by leading a conversation with you on that topic. I think it is her way of telling you she is considering it, and needs your support and understanding. But I do not know your wife, maybe I am reading between the lines and not reaching a correct conclusion ... But if what I said makes any sense to you, ask her if she would like to talk about it at an appropriate time that is conducive to such a communication.

[zorro]

Mumfred, you may have some exciting possibilities arising there, but we might have additional thoughts from the experienced members here if yoju could share specifically what makes you think you wife is "hinting" at it. I have read this thread 3 times and can't discern what she is telling you for you to base any speculations on.

Kindly, do share more.

[athlete915]

No one knows you, your wife, and your marriage better than you, so take all of our advice with a grain of salt. With that said, my recommendation is find a balance between being pushy and completely passive. Being pushy is annoying and can turn your wife off. It will quickly seem like this is all about you and not her needs, wants, desire, etc. Being passive though can make her question whether you still want this.

My advice is when she brings it up, be very enthusiastic and thankful. Let her know that it excited you and you appreciate her bring it up. Also, you need to find appropriate times to bring it up yourself. No, “how was your day, I want you to get banged by a bing dude”… Rather, be subtle and do things like point out how beautiful she looks and how much attention she’s getting… and how you love it.

Obviously none of that is very specific, but you definitely can’t just be passive. Just don’t get pushy and annoying.

Good luck

[BallSpanking]

Sorry to say this Mumfred, but if you have no desire to engage your wife in pillow talk now she has finally expressed an interest in exploring that possibility, your window of opportunity will close, and that will be that.

[Mumfred]

My advice is when she brings it up, be very enthusiastic and thankful. Let her know that it excited you and you appreciate her bring it up. Also, you need to find appropriate times to bring it up yourself. No, “how was your day, I want you to get banged by a bing dude”… Rather, be subtle and do things like point out how beautiful she looks and how much attention she’s getting… and how you love it.

I do wonder if I have reacted so far in the other direction that I have become too passive. I have to come up with new ways to discuss.

[Mumfred]

Sorry to say this Mumfred, but if you have no desire to engage your wife in pillow talk now she has finally expressed an interest in exploring that possibility, your window of opportunity will close, and that will be that.

That is the thing. I’m not sure she is expressing interest.

[Freddy314]

Seems to me you planted the seed, and now it might be starting to germinate If she was truly not interested, as she said, I don't think she would be broaching the subject now. It's very possible the idea has been ruminating in her mind, and has become more appealing to her. You did the right thing by not beating her over the head with your fantasy. I would suggest the next time she brings it up, let her know you still have interest, and subtley try to find out what's going on in her head.

[BallSpanking]

That is the thing. I’m not sure she is expressing interest.

If she is bringing it up, it is because she has been thinking about it. A good time to engage her in an exchange of views.

[Cuckhub91]

Has anyone every had their wife bring up hotwifing after you've dropped the subject for months? After saying months ago that she doesn't want to do it she is hinting at it. I would like to play but I just don't think I can take the lead on the conversation any more.

I first told my wife about my thoughts on it all a few years ago. It takes time, but her bringing it up occasionally is definitely a few steps closer.

[Colliercuck]

So with my wife, I brought it up , it was in our 10th year of marriage give or take.
She had already told me her ex was bigger and that I was small.
I fantasized about her getting fucked for our entire marriage and while dating, but I thought I was some freak or weirdo, what would other people think! I thought I was the only one with these thoughts.
I found cuckolding on the computer while looking up “fuck my wife”, the flood doors opened and I felt this weight lifted………she found my computer history and confronted me, she thought I wanted to fuck other women, I explained that that isn’t even a thought, that I fantasize about her with another man, she was pissed and in disbelief.
Then wanted to know who I fantasized about her with (the list was long) she was pissed
Then I started telling her that other men were inside of her while making love, telling her they were filling her pussy with there big cocks and cumming inside of her……she had amazing orgasms, sucked my cock and we were fucking ALL THE TIME, I thought I was in heaven!!!
Then one day she said I hurt her heart and that she never wanted to hear it EVER again.
I took her at her word (dumb man I guess) a couple months passed, she tells me that our son’s teacher is very handsome and she thinks he is sexy
Then a week later tells me that her friend at work told her a cuckold joke, do I want to hear it (of course)

I’ll continue later if you’d like, gotta step out

[hwlurker88]

So with my wife, I brought it up , it was in our 10th year of marriage give or take.
She had already told me her ex was bigger and that I was small.
I fantasized about her getting fucked for our entire marriage and while dating, but I thought I was some freak or weirdo, what would other people think! I thought I was the only one with these thoughts.
I found cuckolding on the computer while looking up “fuck my wife”, the flood doors opened and I felt this weight lifted………she found my computer history and confronted me, she thought I wanted to fuck other women, I explained that that isn’t even a thought, that I fantasize about her with another man, she was pissed and in disbelief.
Then wanted to know who I fantasized about her with (the list was long) she was pissed
Then I started telling her that other men were inside of her while making love, telling her they were filling her pussy with there big cocks and cumming inside of her……she had amazing orgasms, sucked my cock and we were fucking ALL THE TIME, I thought I was in heaven!!!
Then one day she said I hurt her heart and that she never wanted to hear it EVER again.
I took her at her word (dumb man I guess) a couple months passed, she tells me that our son’s teacher is very handsome and she thinks he is sexy
Then a week later tells me that her friend at work told her a cuckold joke, do I want to hear it (of course)

I’ll continue later if you’d like, gotta step out

Yes. More of this please!

[Colliercuck]

So with my wife, I brought it up , it was in our 10th year of marriage give or take.
She had already told me her ex was bigger and that I was small.
I fantasized about her getting fucked for our entire marriage and while dating, but I thought I was some freak or weirdo, what would other people think! I thought I was the only one with these thoughts.
I found cuckolding on the computer while looking up “fuck my wife”, the flood doors opened and I felt this weight lifted………she found my computer history and confronted me, she thought I wanted to fuck other women, I explained that that isn’t even a thought, that I fantasize about her with another man, she was pissed and in disbelief.
Then wanted to know who I fantasized about her with (the list was long) she was pissed
Then I started telling her that other men were inside of her while making love, telling her they were filling her pussy with there big cocks and cumming inside of her……she had amazing orgasms, sucked my cock and we were fucking ALL THE TIME, I thought I was in heaven!!!
Then one day she said I hurt her heart and that she never wanted to hear it EVER again.
I took her at her word (dumb man I guess) a couple months passed, she tells me that our son’s teacher is very handsome and she thinks he is sexy
Then a week later tells me that her friend at work told her a cuckold joke, do I want to hear it (of course)

I’ll continue later if you’d like, gotta step out

Yes. More of this please!

So she was working at the Ritz, and won 5 star employee of the year, we went to the awards thing at the ritz and then out with her co-workers to blue martini, she was looking sexy!!! And drinking, we were sitting with her friend/coworker (the one that told her the cuckold joke), and this guy walks up starts talking to my wife, she turns towards him and they are now face to face talking , really close and I’d say she totally forgot about me…..(I’m turned on, I mean all I want is to be a total cuckold).
So her friend leans across the table and tells me not quietly either) “that guy is hitting on your wife”, I told her that I’m okay with that, she says “you’re ok with guys trying to pick up on your wife “, I said yes, she deserves that. She gets a big shit eating grin on her face, and turns to her husband and says something in his ear, and then they both look at me giggling.
My wife and this guy quit talking and we leave, on the way home, I find a place just off the road, not obvious, but you can be seen by passing cars……..we start making out and we get in the back seat, I take her panties off and start eating her pussy, and she is soaking wet!!!! I enter her and am feeling good about shoving my dick deep inside of her, and she says, “tell me when your inside of me”, I said, I’m inside of you, she the says “I wonder why I can’t feel you at all!”, I said because your husband has a small dick, and she starts giggling.
Over the next couple months, she would tease me about needing a boyfriend, sometimes teasing me right in front of our kids or other people.
I was timid about bringing it up, because she told me how it hurt her to the core, so I want te respect my beautiful wife’s feelings.
Life goes by and periodically I would bring it up, and she would tell me , I don’t want to hear it.
I played with her panties for awhile, I would imagine her being fucked and I would cum in the crotch of her panties, sometimes putting them back (and I want to add that a couple times I found Huge creampies in her panties, I’m talking HUGE. THICK musky smelling, and she usually had them hidden) so anyway, one weekend, we go to the Marriott on Marco Island, we are sitting by the pool on lounge chairs (and it is packed!!! Everyone is crowded in, so conversation is not private if you know what I mean) out of the blue, she looks up at me , and says “have you been playing with my panties????”, I’m caught of guard, and several shades of red as people have obviously heard her, I sheepishly answered yes, she continues to look at me, and loud voice “ well when you beat of in my panties, put them in the dirty laundry, I don’t want to get a yeast infection because you got my panties dirty, ok”, I was so embarrassed and humiliated, but damn, this is what I want….is she doing it knowing that

More later, sorry