Planted the seed, but need advice.

[BirdMan]

I have been dating a lady for about 3 months now.
She is sex positive and likes sex. Woo hoo!

So yesterday I had told her that I am interested in cuckolding. We were discussing what porn we both like, and I mentioned a guy that I follow on social media who happens to be a professional bull. She did her research and she asked me if it was the cuckolding that turned me on or if it was just his style. I answered both. The discussion kind of ended there. I didn’t want to push things too far too early.

But now that I have planted the seed, I am wondering what my next moves should be??? I’m trying to avoid as coming across as pushy when it comes to cuckolding as I believe it is the number 1 mistake for wannabes. Please share your thoughts/reccomendations?

[zorro]

Time for communication. What does she think about cuckolding? What issues does it raise for her? What would fire up her erotic flames? What would she like to see the two of you explore? What turns her on? How would having you a cuck affect the relationship?
You are both extremely fortunate to be able to talk about sex and desire. So few people can. So many questions that can be asked and answered in both directions. So far, you have only dipped one toe in the water.

[BallSpanking]

If she does not bring it up, I think perhaps you should back off ... If she is interested, you already told her quite directly, and she will follow up.

[Pufferfish]

People always like to bring up avoiding "being pushy". Pushy and talking... aren't the same thing. Where most men fail in the talking stages is they "reveal" their fantasy and then drop it. And that's a mistake. You have to explain what aspects you like and why you like them. Whether it's something you think about sometimes, or rarely, or always. Guys like to "plant the seed" and leave it be, thinking it's going to grow into something on it's own, it's not. If she wants to know what you are into, tell her what you are into and then tell her what about it you like so much, and why. Don't just drop it after revealing it, or there is where it's going to sit. When she knows enough that there's nothing else to talk about without repeating yourself or you are beginning to beg that she will... that's being pushy.

I'm certain there will be more sex conversations in the future. Just do better to dig into what she's into and show interest, and describe better what you are into and why. It'll go far better. Did you find out fantasies that she has or likes too? Or was this a one way revelation? If so, take some initiative and try some things and get the conversation rolling again.

[patw3268]

Does she like porn? Don’t sell your fantasy. Ask her questions. Ask a lot of questions

[BirdMan]

Some great advice here.

She does watch porn. And she does pole dancing classes for exercise every week. I’m trying to tap into her exhibitionist side.

[sandy691196]

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[sandy691196]

Some great advice here.

She does watch porn. And she does pole dancing classes for exercise every week. I’m trying to tap into her exhibitionist side.

Bringing it up frequently, so early in the relationship, may send signals to her that you don't wanna send. Even a sex positive woman, who might come around to doing other guys at a later date, may get the feeling that you aint the right kinda guy with whom a serious relationship can be considered. She might doubt your relationship agenda.

Let her bring it up during the porn watching. She certainly will.. soon.

[BirdMan]

Some great advice here.

She does watch porn. And she does pole dancing classes for exercise every week. I’m trying to tap into her exhibitionist side.

Bringing it up frequently, so early in the relationship, may send signals to her that you don't wanna send. Even a sex positive woman, who might come around to doing other guys at a later date, may get the feeling that you aint the right kinda guy with whom a serious relationship can be considered. She might doubt your relationship agenda.

Let her bring it up during the porn watching. She certainly will.. soon.

That’s great advice! Thank you!

[sandy691196]

Some great advice here.

She does watch porn. And she does pole dancing classes for exercise every week. I’m trying to tap into her exhibitionist side.

Bringing it up frequently, so early in the relationship, may send signals to her that you don't wanna send. Even a sex positive woman, who might come around to doing other guys at a later date, may get the feeling that you aint the right kinda guy with whom a serious relationship can be considered. She might doubt your relationship agenda.

Let her bring it up during the porn watching. She certainly will.. soon.

That’s great advice! Thank you!

Wishing you a great relationship.. in and outside the sack!