Unusual thing

[davidbrent5678]

Not really sure where to post this or if it is approporiate at all! But I sometimes fantasise about watching my wife being pleasured by a BBC, and she knows that I like to wank while thinking about this, which is what brought me to this forum a while ago.

However I had an an unusal experience at work recently that is regularly in my thoughts! In my company a consultant comes in a few times a year to help out with boring business things. I guess she is probably mid to late fifties (about 57) (I am 46) and tbh I quite fancy her and have wanked myself off many times fantasising about her. Now everything is professional but we laugh a fair bit, but I once asked if she had been anywhere nice on holiday this year, and she replied No, and that she and her husband don't have sex anymore. We then just carried on like normal! Now this keeps going through my head that did she really say that? Is she playing with me to see how I would react, or what?

But it is now for the start of my fantasies when I wank over her.

I would never cheat on my wife.

[weluvtoodoit]

In my opinion she is reaching out for some male companionship. She may have a husband at home that does not or can not meet her sexual needs. If she is mid 50's there is a good chance she is open to try new things and hubby can not provide that for her. My wife really opened up both verbally and sexually when she was nearing 50. Only speaking from our experience, I would tell my wife about her comments to you at work and see her reaction. We always thought we had good communication skills, but realized just how much better it got after we became older and understood the needs of each other. Your wife may surprise you with her response if you come clean to her about the situation at work. It could very easily be the catalyst for a whole new dynamic to your marriage. There is also nothing wrong with talking about it to spice up your own marriage, but never stepping over the line of actually seeking out another partner. Enjoy the fun times!

[frank12]

The world out there is *filled* with those who have thoughts of, and understand themselves enough to venture possible relationships with others outside of their more traditional relationships. When the situation is sufficiently comfortable and there is a sense of trust and safety, some will let their guard down for a few moments to allow one of those "trial balloons" escape into the conversation (or maybe its just a look in their eyes). Since one can never predict just what might constitute enough trust and comfort it isn't easy to maneuver precisely into those situations, but the gentle banter between colleagues that is akin to vague courtship is a part of it.

When this was pointed out to me many, many (sigh, many) years ago I was a bit surprised but soon recognized things that I had apparently ignored in my youth. The understanding of this - especially that environment of comfort and safety - has been valuable.

So I believe, and have seen much evidence, that this is not at all an unusual thing, simply new to your recognition. Once your eyes are open to this you may see it in others where you may not have expected, but note that some are more adventurous and less cautious than is good for them (and for you) so your own caution is advised. As noted above this could be a nice opening for you to tell your wife of the surprising mentions, and to see where her interests may be expressed - this also gives you the opportunity to re-confirm to her that you would never cheat on her.

Prof Wood