In early stages so far - need help

[ozcuck]

Such a great forum. My wife is 40 and I am 42.
She’s quite attractive and was sexually active before marriage.
I would like my wife to be a little intimate with my best mate. It turns me on. Not to the stage of wanting her having sex with him and not with strangers so maybe I am not a cuckold. I know there is a fine line here in terms of how far i can encourage her!
My best mate is single at the moment but has had some medium-term relationships but they do not seem to last – He is a fairly muscular good looking guy with a big thick penis ( compared with mine).
My wife and I are his best friends, and he often spends an evening with us. He and my wife ,with my encouragement, drink the most alcohol. We just play cards ,listen to music , talk and play pool . He’s a computer nerd and bit of a hard core religious freak.
I encourage my wife to expose her breasts and get moderately drunk when he is with us - I'm not sure if he realises she is flirting with him or being encouraged to flirt with him.
It has taken years for her to be prepared to show her cleavage (never nipples), but she’s still not comfortable about it sometimes.
She is sometimes happy to put her hand on his thigh and leave it there but not go any further - again I don’t think she is very comfortable doing this but does for me. Maybe the beer helps.
She told me he was looking at her breasts recently when we were playing pool when her buttons were undone.
I don't want her to do too much more, but I am really stimulated by the interaction and hope for it to go just a bit further.
It really makes our sex life so much more exciting.
It’s a big ask but how do you think can I encourage her to go just a bit further ?
Do you have suggestions how could I set up an intimate scenario?
Could I approach my mate and see if he could help out ?

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum ozcuck. If you are close enough to your friend to tell him it will surely help or kill the deal. I can't imagine your friend not wanting to go for it and help out.

[leggysman]

I propose talking to your wife first. She's your wife. The way this stuff works best is ideally through total honesty and strong communication with your partner.

Ask her how she feels about you suggesting to your mate that it's okay to raise the flirting temperature. Then it's an open conspiracy - almost like a dare to the two of them.