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I have talked with my wife about her having sex with another man for last couple years. She gets excited when we talk about during sex,
but is hesitant to take the plunge because she is afraid she will like it to much and will ruin our marriage

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js6972 wrote: ↑

Thu Sep 12, 2024 4:40 am

She gets excited when we talk about during sex,
but is hesitant to take the plunge because she is afraid she will like it to much and will ruin our marriage

This is a very common thing that wives say. I’m confused by this. Why would they continue to do something like this if they preferred their marriage over the other relationship? Maybe it’s just the way it is said but they way they say it they have no control over the situation.

My wife said the same thing when I initially brought it up.
She was initially and probably still is a bit offended I would want to share her with someone else
I think in my case it was mostly to scare me out of the idea. The careful what you wish for kinda thing.
She pushed that angle quite hard, and told me he wanted her to spend multiple nights there to be his regular fuck toy going forward and I would likely take a back seat. I believe to see if I was willing to jeopardize our relationship over a kink.

I guess I passed her test as I said she is way more important than the kink. It was all a ruse but was also extremely arousing to consider.
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The guy I gave her a "hall pass" to reconnect with sounds like an absolute porn hung fuck machine so it also could be true and she would want his horse cock on a regular basis and make it a priority over our relationship but I doubt it.

I think most guys have the ability to fuck for pleasure without wanting a lasting relationship... we are dogs. But for some women they only become intimate with someone they have deep feelings for. So when the subject is first raised with a gal, her natural fear is that she may fall for this new guy who's fucking her brains out. It is a legitimate fear.

Treat yourself girl wrote: ↑

Sat Sep 14, 2024 2:29 pm

I think most guys have the ability to fuck for pleasure without wanting a lasting relationship... we are dogs.

Some women are also able to fuck for pleasure, and are perfectly capable of separating that from love (not to say they're totally immune from NRE).

The smart guys among us marry those women

Treat yourself girl wrote: ↑

Sat Sep 14, 2024 2:29 pm

I think most guys have the ability to fuck for pleasure without wanting a lasting relationship... we are dogs. But for some women they only become intimate with someone they have deep feelings for. So when the subject is first raised with a gal, her natural fear is that she may fall for this new guy who's fucking her brains out. It is a legitimate fear.

For a lot of girls this is a problem. We do tend to develop feeling during sex. It also depends on past relationships.

Ask her if she thinks all a relationship is made of is a good fuck? Everything you do a lot eventually gets monotonous. If a good fuck steals her away.. good riddance.
There have been a number of stories on this site where the wife left for the fb. Usually they find life isn't great when basing the relationship on sex only.
They often come back home and want their old life back.
There have been a number of ruined relationships caused by couples who were not properly prepared for this LS. Also a number who didnt communicate expectations and both had completely different ideas on what they expected.
I haven't read about many relationships that started as a marriage broken up by a HW lifestyle where the FB and the wife marry and lived happily everafter.