May never happen :(

[upskirtsplease]

Been with my wife over 10 years now and have talked about the subject of sharing her a few times, recently I asked about it again but got a 'No" this time. She said she needs an emotional attachment to have sex with someone else, I said we can build to that but she wasn't interested. (A risk she builds too much emotional attachment crossed my mind).

This sucks cos I've always wanted to share her, and made it clear I never want to fuck another women (to put her at ease) and she sort seemed on board but not anymore. I love seeing other peoples wives shared and always wanted to do it too.

Should I just give up on the dream?

[vrmtr]

Don't give up. I've been wannabe for 15+ yrs, have yet to share my wife...but since telling her, we have gone to nude beaches and LS resort...we started role-playing and getting more adventurous....I hope it'll happen, but the journey has been fun!

[upskirtsplease]

Thanks, guess no harm in playing a long game

[philxxo]

That's most of us. Asking our wives to be slutty and then let us in on it too is not for every woman. Most won't do it for various reasons. Not all of them like sex as much as we do for one thing. But, having an open discussion with your wife about it is best. The journey itself can be fun even if you never get there. My wife does a few racy things to pique my interest from time to time just to excite me.

[Statein88]

Sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality. Not trying to discourage you at all. She may just not be cut out for it. Or it may just not be the right time.

Do you guys do fantasy play together? Toys, hot talk, etc.? How does she respond to that?

[Statein88]

That's most of us. Asking our wives to be slutty and then let us in on it too is not for every woman. Most won't do it for various reasons. Not all of them like sex as much as we do for one thing. But, having an open discussion with your wife about it is best. The journey itself can be fun even if you never get there. My wife does a few racy things to pique my interest from time to time just to excite me.

Absolutely. I don’t think we’ll ever do anything, but the discussion and exploration has led to some awesome times. We’ve both had a lot of growth.

[upskirtsplease]

Sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality. Not trying to discourage you at all. She may just not be cut out for it. Or it may just not be the right time.

Do you guys do fantasy play together? Toys, hot talk, etc.? How does she respond to that?

Yeah I get the feeling she probably isn't. But happy to continue playing the game so to speak.
No fantasy play - I sort of tried, we have toys but she doesn't use them (usually no time in her words), some hot talk but and she does it for me which is nice.

[upskirtsplease]

That's most of us. Asking our wives to be slutty and then let us in on it too is not for every woman. Most won't do it for various reasons. Not all of them like sex as much as we do for one thing. But, having an open discussion with your wife about it is best. The journey itself can be fun even if you never get there. My wife does a few racy things to pique my interest from time to time just to excite me.

Yeah I'm always honest and would never want her to do something she doesn't want to do. I just think (probably falsely hope) deep down there may be something in her.