Wife opening up…how do I proceed?

[Stagdreams36]

I'm going to try and keep this as short as possible, summarizing history of the topic in our relationship.

We are a mid 30s couple. I'm 6ft 200 lbs, physically fit, don't really fit the cuck profile, so I'll say more of a "stag" if that matters. She's 5 ft 1, 125ish los, with an incredible ass, fair skin, spicy Latina, very pretty face.

We considered swinging back in 2018, created profile on kasidie and feeld. Matched, sexted, set up a date for full swap...couple flaked. Tried again with another couple... flaked. She became discouraged, we backed off and she soured on the idea. Later she asked what kind of porn I'm into..I showed her Reddit hotwife subs. She was turned on by the idea, but was a little bit hesitant. We ended up getting pregnant in 2019 and then again in early 2023. Lots of hot sex, innuendos and joking about it between each pregnancy but we didn't act on it.

Used her phone recently and noticed that she is watching hotwife, cuckold, Big Dick content which is something she did before the last pregnancy but now it's WAY more hotwife/big dick/rough sex focused. l've also noticed she has been more open to talk about it without immediately shooting down the idea.


Needless to say, I was extremely turned on by the discovery.
Anyone have any advice...real advice. Similar experiences or Swinger/hotwife Podcasts or resources that we could go through together?

Ps l've left a lot of detail out to keep this relatively short.

[hubudig2]

Sounds like a hot situation brewing.
What exactly are you looking for advice on?
I'm assuming you would like to keep trying to find another couple for swinging? But she still isn't onboard?
It sounds like you're both able to talk about it, are you able to discuss it fully or are there areas of awkwardness?
Do you know what her reasons are for shooting the idea down? Is it just because of the failed attempts in the past?
Are you able to discuss what she finds hot about hotwifing? If you can tap into that, you can use it to excite her about the subject. If the thought of making it a reality causes her to shoot it down, keep it in the bedroom as a fantasy for now. As she gets more comfortably into the idea, a desire to make it a reality might follow.
How do you feel about cuckolding compared to swinging?
Is it possible she thinks you wouldn't be up for it? Or feels bad about wanting a bigger cock?

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Praise her for her interest and willingness to try new sexual boundaries. Let her know it is common for most wives to dream of having sex with a well endowed man or men. Let her know if the two of you work together this could become reality, with numerous combinations and sexual adventures going forward.

[kort677]

first have a talk about boundaries, let her know what is ok and what isn't and let her tell you what she wants.
then sit back, don't interfere and let her take the lead
enjoy!

[BBCfan]

I'm going to try and keep this as short as possible, summarizing history of the topic in our relationship.

We are a mid 30s couple. I'm 6ft 200 lbs, physically fit, don't really fit the cuck profile, so I'll say more of a "stag" if that matters. She's 5 ft 1, 125ish los, with an incredible ass, fair skin, spicy Latina, very pretty face.

We considered swinging back in 2018, created profile on kasidie and feeld. Matched, sexted, set up a date for full swap...couple flaked. Tried again with another couple... flaked. She became discouraged, we backed off and she soured on the idea. Later she asked what kind of porn I'm into..I showed her Reddit hotwife subs. She was turned on by the idea, but was a little bit hesitant. We ended up getting pregnant in 2019 and then again in early 2023. Lots of hot sex, innuendos and joking about it between each pregnancy but we didn't act on it.

Used her phone recently and noticed that she is watching hotwife, cuckold, Big Dick content which is something she did before the last pregnancy but now it's WAY more hotwife/big dick/rough sex focused. l've also noticed she has been more open to talk about it without immediately shooting down the idea.


Needless to say, I was extremely turned on by the discovery.
Anyone have any advice...real advice. Similar experiences or Swinger/hotwife Podcasts or resources that we could go through together?

Ps l've left a lot of detail out to keep this relatively short.

Very hot! I'd be floored and beyond excited if I found out my wife was watching such porn.

[VwatchesK92]

Crazy how most guys would be all angry and confront their wives about it. If I found that type of stuff on my wife’s phone I’d think Christmas came early.

I don’t want to assume anything here, did your wife know you were on her phone? Would she feel like you invaded her privacy if you said “hey babe, I saw you’re watching big dick porn on your phone”? I might stay away from that coming out of your mouth if you think she’d react bad. However, it seems like it’s definitely a step in the right direction, and it’s on her own. I think that solidifies it so much more. She is at the very least turned on by it.

Good luck!

[Trevose]

My wife swung 20 years ago.
We use a toy when we're having fun, but I want her to ride it like a cock, rather than us making love and using the toy.
I want her to WANT IT!

[Rip_isback]

first have a talk about boundaries, let her know what is ok and what isn't and let her tell you what she wants.
then sit back, don't interfere and let her take the lead
enjoy!

I'm agreeing with kort677. I think it's also important to let her know what you want. For example, you may want to know about it before hand or you may want to be there some times. Include your needs so you don't get left behind.

[Shiphead]

There is always the "I had a dream scenario". Get yourself hard in the morning. Tell her you were having a threesome with her and another guy. Say it was so hot watching her with another guy that you woke up with a hard on.
Say it was strange but at one point in the dream, you sat back and watched her getting fucked by a guy with a huge dick. How hot it made you watching her cum over and over as that big dick disappeared into her.
You can then, or at any point, let her ask questions or make comments. Listen carefully to what she says. Does she add race, cock size, physical build, age, six pack, etc.
You can then tell her how surprised you were that you didn't feel jealous at all and how much you enjoyed watching the guy eat her pussy.
Anyway, see if you can get her to casually talk about it.
But before you let it happen, make sure she understands that you want to be included in every aspect of the situation.
Some interactions in the past, some guys let it get out of hand. She was doing everything in private with a guy and she ended up in a relationship with the other guy.

[Carrienlarry]

We always play together. Hubby is a former pro football player 6’1 250 and cut. Isn’t a cuck. But he does like watching me fuck and picks who what when how etc. usually as a couple with couples. He will put a cage on sometimes in a mmf so he won’t touch his cock because he cums quick. I unlock him to reclaim me and he will cum fast. Then back to normal

[sixpack]

Used her phone recently and noticed that she is watching hotwife, cuckold, Big Dick content which is something she did before the last pregnancy but now it's WAY more hotwife/big dick/rough sex focused. l've also noticed she has been more open to talk about it without immediately shooting down the idea.

That’s a really great sign for her to be independently turned on by this kind of porn.

Have you considered watching this together while you go down on her to show you’re OK with it and even turned on by it?

[BritishCuckCpl]

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[sandy691196]

I'm going to try and keep this as short as possible, summarizing history of the topic in our relationship.

We are a mid 30s couple. I'm 6ft 200 lbs, physically fit, don't really fit the cuck profile, so I'll say more of a "stag" if that matters. She's 5 ft 1, 125ish los, with an incredible ass, fair skin, spicy Latina, very pretty face.

We considered swinging back in 2018, created profile on kasidie and feeld. Matched, sexted, set up a date for full swap...couple flaked. Tried again with another couple... flaked. She became discouraged, we backed off and she soured on the idea. Later she asked what kind of porn I'm into..I showed her Reddit hotwife subs. She was turned on by the idea, but was a little bit hesitant. We ended up getting pregnant in 2019 and then again in early 2023. Lots of hot sex, innuendos and joking about it between each pregnancy but we didn't act on it.

Used her phone recently and noticed that she is watching hotwife, cuckold, Big Dick content which is something she did before the last pregnancy but now it's WAY more hotwife/big dick/rough sex focused. l've also noticed she has been more open to talk about it without immediately shooting down the idea.


Needless to say, I was extremely turned on by the discovery.
Anyone have any advice...real advice. Similar experiences or Swinger/hotwife Podcasts or resources that we could go through together?

Ps l've left a lot of detail out to keep this relatively short.

The way you describe it.. to me it's seems it's pretty close to becoming a reality.

My bet would be on watching hotwife porn together and ask her to choose the particular episode. Then you can explicitly ask her which of those guys she would like to fuck..

There are hotwife / cuck guidance & training videos too. Those somehow make the whole thing kinda real for a couple like you who are on the threshold.

Make those images and fantasies a part of daily sex. Next step would depend on how she responds

[Littlehotthai]

My wife swung 20 years ago.
We use a toy when we're having fun, but I want her to ride it like a cock, rather than us making love and using the toy.
I want her to WANT IT!

Before LHT and I graduated from wannabe’s, we used to get into 69 position and I’d fuck her from behind with our fairly large real-feel vibrator while licking her pussy from underneath…At the time, it was SO hot! There’s loads of fun to be had on your journey!