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My wife would do it in the right circumstances

When I first hesitantly mentioned it to my wife, she was shocked, but not angry and said it wasn't going to happen. Then there was a fairly short period when she said she might if all the pieces fell into place. So I guess during that period her response was "She's open to trying it if the right person comes along but she doesn't want to actively look for someone".
For a while now her view has been that it's not going to happen and I've had to accept that. She will indulge me with a bit of role playing (e.g. pretending she's returning from a girls night out having been fucked by a handsome guy), but over time she has become less willing to do that. So the answer I put was "She will tease/play with my fantasies but she doesn't find it a turn on".
Interestingly a couple of years ago she said she wasn't going to do it, but if she ever did, she would chose to be in her forties or perhaps early fifties. Her reasoning being that at that age she knew what she wanted.
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Tony

My wife has known about my fantasy for two years.
She is willing to indulge but only if we found the right person.
We were close with one guy but that couple was overwhelming with constant messages, wanting to hang out and also flaky and late to everything. They annoyed me too much that it killed the vibe. My wife was upset when I said I couldn’t be friends with them. The NRE was piping hot! But she saw the reality of their ‘crazy’ when she took a step back.
So now, in this time I am trying to get her to join or at least read this web site. She always says she’s too busy.
Without any NRE for anyone, she is checking out of the fantasy.
But I openly talk about it with her. She does not have the ability to openly talk about it.
If I mention to her that she must use condoms, she shutters. Almost like she’ll never become a hotwife and it was never in the table. But it was!
I even offered for her to have sex with the guys he had NRE for but just don’t expect me to be friends with them.
I even laid out lingerie for her to wear on the bed knowing he was going to stop by.
So at the moment we are in the, I will try not to bring it up too often phase, and even consider it will never happen.

I think she would if it happened organically, or at least be very turned on if a guy hit on her. It might make her consider doing it if a hot guy hit on her. I think that’s the issue-no one has tried. That I’m aware of anyway.

My wife has been hit on but wasn’t interested.
She has also been hit on by people who turn her on who bring unwanted baggage into my world so I’m not interested and she gets it.

Hello, I'm brand new to this site, so my first post.

My wife and I have discussed this for years, but are still at the "Turn on but won't do it for real"

She was hit on by a stranger on holiday a few years ago, but was scared to do anything in case I hadn't thought it through. I'd have loved her to do it. We're now at a stage where I feel that she likes the idea, but is nervous about the potential fallout. She also keeps saying that nobody else will want her, so it won't happen. This isn't true, but she doesn't like her body shape. I'm 53, she is 47.

Welcome to the forum Harrymonk36.

She f54 wants to go ahead with finding someone and do it via bumble. She said we will make her profile this week. Here's hoping normal family life issues don't delay it too much.

I told her September 2023. I gave her time and space and in summer she said she would probably like to do it.

A big step a few weeks ago is she told a slutty single friend that lives nearby about it. The friend is successfully fucking loads of men vi bumble. Even better, she told the friend that the reason was my PE lol.

Normally she said she wants to do the flirting in bar game this Sunday. Again, I won't push her about it.

My wife and I share this fantasy, and have for many years, but will probably never do it for real.

There are a lot of reasons for that. One is geography: we live in a bedroom community where we are both well known, and work in cities where we are public figures. This makes us very unlikely to play at home. My wife finds the internet, forums, message boards like this, etc. to be a turn-off in terms of finding a partner to play with. Similarly with dating apps, which feel like too much exposure. We would have to meet someone on one of our infrequent vacations without our children, and it would have to be just the right sort of guy, and he would have to make the first move. And probably the second one and the third one, too. My wife has a potential change in her work situation coming up that would mean more long-term solo travel, and that could potentially be an avenue to getting this to reality too, but it remains unlikely.

Then there's the reality of other guys. A big barrier for us has sadly been that we just don't find many guys that we both approve of. Maybe we're just snobs or assholes, I don't know. But she doesn't meet many men she crushes on; in fact, in our many years of this fantasy, she has had only one guy that she has extensively flirted with and fantasized about and maybe would have done something with. And though I enjoy imagining her getting gangbanged by a group of my friends, the real-life fallout of all of that (their own relationships with their significant others, the changed dynamics in our friendships, etc.) certainly doesn't seem worth it to me, to say nothing of my wife. When we fantasize, the guy can look perfect, with perfect hygiene, sensitive and masculine and thoughtful, be content to do exactly what we want him to do, etc. The reality could never live up to it!

And honestly, if it never happens, that's perfectly OK with me. What I love most is whispering the most filthy shit imaginable in my wife's ear and having her somehow say something even dirtier into mine. I love when she surprises me by bringing up something naughty out of nowhere. I love watching her get flushed while she is reading something smutty about a woman with multiple men. I love fucking her with her big black dildo while she sucks my cock. I love talking about our fantasies and sexual pasts together and imagining hot scenarios and watching movies and talking about the actors. It's all not only made for a lot of great sex, but it's brought us closer together as a couple, too, and kept the sexual part of our relationship active and healthy as we are aging.

Shantideva wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 02, 2024 6:29 am

What I love most is whispering the most filthy shit imaginable in my wife's ear and having her somehow say something even dirtier into mine.

I had a hotwife who slept with six men and the last guy was boyfriend material. He ended up being a flaky liar so she quit being a hotwife although it came up often during our foreplay. She just didn’t find the right guy for what she wanted. Our relationship turned south a couple years later and she divorced me, unrelated to the hot wife lifestyle.

I’m now remarried and I told her I wanted to “share” her and she freaked out. Not interested at all.

She doesn’t like spicy food (I do) and she’ll often say, why would anyone want anything that causes pain in your mouth? So I reason by analogy that she so wouldn’t want me to sleep with other women that she can’t understand why u would want her to enjoy other men. Seems kinda hopeless but it’s a hard fantasy to put away.

None of the options in the poll or survey fit my situation, which is not having a wife or GF, but looking. I just ticked on the "other" box.

TomG wrote: ↑

Sun Dec 15, 2024 2:28 pm

None of the options in the poll or survey fit my situation, which is not having a wife or GF, but looking. I just ticked on the "other" box.

"Currently single" not accurate enough?

hubudig2 wrote: ↑

Sun Dec 15, 2024 3:38 pm

"Currently single" not accurate enough?

Well, I suppose I'm the redfaced one now - I completely missed that one, hubudig2!

Just wrote up my situation - dropped hints but she doesn't know yet, although she does play along and tease about other guys so maybe at some level the hints have had an effect...

Drakebelg wrote: ↑

Fri Nov 29, 2024 2:04 am

She f54 wants to go ahead with finding someone and do it via bumble. She said we will make her profile this week. Here's hoping normal family life issues don't delay it too much.

I told her September 2023. I gave her time and space and in summer she said she would probably like to do it.

A big step a few weeks ago is she told a slutty single friend that lives nearby about it. The friend is successfully fucking loads of men vi bumble. Even better, she told the friend that the reason was my PE lol.

Normally she said she wants to do the flirting in bar game this Sunday. Again, I won't push her about it.

Nice progress happening here.
I wrote her a fantasy (from her POV) about her going to Brussels for a solonight in a hotel with her first bull after a coffee date. She loved it and said it's exactly what she hopes for and loves that i have a very clear idea of her wishes for her first dates. She said it's absolutely a new years resolution for her for the start of 2025.

For info it included this: a coffee date a few weeks earlier, me serving and prepping her getting dressed, her going alone to Brussels, them meeting for a drink but very quickly going to the hotel room, her getting fucked all night by a an assertive/dominant lover with good stamina(not like me), her returning happy and me licking her clean and serving her in any way she wants.

Drakebelg wrote: ↑

Thu Dec 19, 2024 1:01 am

Nice progress happening here.
I wrote her a fantasy (from her POV) about her going to Brussels for a solonight in a hotel with her first bull after a coffee date. She loved it and said it's exactly what she hopes for and loves that i have a very clear idea of her wishes for her first dates. She said it's absolutely a new years resolution for her for the start of 2025.

Nice idea.
It allows her to soak in your fantasies at her own pace, without any pressure of you being there and with her own imagination.

Currently, after years of communication. My wife and I trying to figure out how to vet possible bbc’s to have a threesome or hotwife encounter with. She is eagerly on board with living out our fantasies. She will check in to see if anyone has responded to out threads lol. We live in rural area and don’t get out to the clubs much. Stuck in neutral at the moment.

I told my wife about my fantasy four years ago and she's been hot and cold on it ever since. She has said that she's open to it with the right person, but it would have to fall in her lap. She has no interest in online dating and besides that we live in an ugly town, so there's barely anyone worth fucking. We also don't get out much, so we would never meet anyone out in the real world.

She did say that she would be willing to get a male escort in Vegas. I may take her up on that offer. I think that the first experience is probably the hardest one to do. After you see that the sky isn't going to fall and that it was enjoyable, you're good with doing more in the future.

It's the hot and cold thing that kills me. Some weeks she'll go shopping by herself and will tell me the filthiest stuff she did with Tristan, her imaginary guy. And then other weeks she won't be in the mood at all, so I have to roll with it. It's annoying, though. If she's in the mood, it's great, but when she isn't I feel like there's something wrong with me and feel a bit ashamed.

My wife says it will never happen, but will initiate role playing if she's in the right mood. She has known of my fantasy since before we were married and enjoyed a brief 'soft' threesome while we were dating, even though she felt a little guilty afterwards.

My wife f54 just created her bumble premium account and was looking through it in bed. My caged dick is throbbing from 10 days and only one ruined orgasm.

We are busy doing her dating sexy clothes shopping which she finds "very exciting". Next week we are going looking for sexy lingerie and some sexy tops.

It's so exciting now. Nothing might happen, lots might happen quickly or it could take months. Whatever it is I just want her to have a good time.

Hi
I been with my wonderful sexy wife for over 20 years and for most of that period she’s known I’d love her to have one or more regular lovers. The thought of being in a cuckold relationship is an ever present fantasy, but after 20+ years of open discussion and occasional role play I know that this will sadly never happen. The best that happened was a threesome with another guy, which ended with both of us sucking him off!
I take solace in great 1-2-1 sex (with occasional humiliation) and regular solo wank sessions.

We used to play but then life got hectic with family and we just found we didn't have the time to relax and date. But she talks about "when the little ones move out" which isn't so far off now, so I think we'll start again reasonably soon. I don't know how we'd do things differently this time. She always loved the social side so I think finding some social activities or clubs will be the way to go.