Share these thoughts with "someday maybe" hotwives...what I get out of it

[money_for_nothin23]

I am the husband. This topic describes why I find it to be such a turn on for my wife to be sexual with other men (and even women) other than me.

First off, I LOVE my wife of 12+ years, together more than 14 years. We have a GREAT sex life, playing with each other 3 to 4 times a week. We are in our 60s, 2nd marriages for both of us. We have both "been around the block" a few times when dating before we met.

When we have sex together, there is no greater turn on than that moment, that point of no return, just prior to her orgasm, as the waves of pleasure become imminent and begin pulsing uncontrollably through her body. I feel her pussy get sopping wet as the truth of her pleasure is fully exposed with her sharing that experience with me. It's like there is no greater expression of love than for her to openly share this feeling with me, raw and uninhibited. The more pleasure she has, and the more open with me she is with it, the more love and connectedness I feel with her. In this moment, I don't want, shy, coy, proper, or appropriate. I want a raw, carnal, uninhibited, out of control slut who craves the intense pleasure at all costs! This is the most beautiful woman imaginable, the one I would die for, and give her anything she wanted so that I could share that experience with her again and again. Such a woman gets me as hard as a rock!

Add to that woman the self control and loyalty to know she really is mine, and I hers, in a sure trusting relationship....a marriage...and I have my dream girl to whom I want to give the world. I want nothing more than her complete pleasure, so intense she cannot resist. Our communication is honest, open, and direct, so we can discuss these inner thoughts of desire without fear, without shame, and without guilt. The life of silent agony with our closest partner is a thing of the past...and our fantasies are openly discussed without judgement, and we accept each other for who we really are, not the ideal husband/wife roles we once pretended to be.

And that brings us to the hotwife lifestyle. Nearly every woman has a secret fantasy of sex/attraction with different men....and for multiple reasons. He makes her laugh. He has nice hair. His cock is thick. He smells good. He has a nice smile. He makes her feel safe. He's rich. He is attentive. He listens. Whatever the reason is, every woman is different, and at different times, different things will turn her on. The hotwife, that irresistible attractive wife we will do anything for, is the one who openly shares these inner thoughts with her husband. Her sharing of these thoughts of what turns her on, what gives her sexual pleasue, is an honest act of openness and trust in our relationship, and an act of love. Most other women will hide such thoughts keeping them to herself.....which is what society trains her to do, but is really a selfish act of hiding from the man who has given you his life.

When my level of trust, intimacy, and communication in my relationship is super high, I want my wife to experience an overload of pleasure, exploring every fantasy to the n'th degree. I want her to experience the comedian, the good looking guy, the guy with the thick cock, the sensitive guy, the woman with the soft sensual touch, the guy who knows just how to passionately kiss, or all of the above concurrently. I want to experience that very moment with her just as the pleasure becomes imminent, where she loses all control and caves to the carnal desires. I don't want her feeling guilty or shameful in this. Instead I want her to know that her openly sharing of that pleasure with me shows no greater love.

Now, when my wife is willing to do this at a cost, or the risk of a cost, it shows me she is even more dedicated and loyal to me, and proves beyond a doubt her love for me. Would she expose herself in public for me....risking social shame from society? Or does she say screw them, my husband matters more? Is she willing to perform pleasurable sexual acts that push her boundaries because she knows I might enjoy them...because she enjoys them?

These acts of love of course turn me on like no tomorrow, getting me as hard as a rock. The pleasure I then feel is returned, making me want even more for her. It makes me want to buy her things, things that make her feel more attractive, more desired, more sexual. A new car, lingerie, jewelry, etc. It makes me want to help out around the house or with kids (who are now grown)....to lower her stress so that she can better relax to enjoy the fantasies. It makes me want to better listen to her....as she tells me what it is that turns her on. And finally, it makes me want to set her free.....to live life on her own terms.

The only thing I need in return is to know that she is always with me, at my side as her first love, fully committed to our relationship above all else. The word "slut" is not a negative thing, but rather the essence of the most beautiful woman imaginable. And this might explain why seemingly rational men will risk thousands of dollars or even important careers on affairs with hookers, dancers, or flings....in spite of that fact that these women will fake the pleasure.

Your husband craves this love from you....the woman who would genuinely care for him. The best thing you can do is have the hotwife conversation without judgement to understand him and his needs. This is not the time to be shy or proper. I don't care what you were trained to do, or what you believe is the right thing to do....per someone else's opinion. I only care about what works best. Your husband wants nothing more than for you to experience intense sexual pleasure and openly share that with him. As he learns to trust your commitment and loyalty to your relationship, he will want (and beg) for you to have that pleasure any way and from anyone you can get it.

Hopefully this makes sense. Try it, and your sex life and relationship will be more fulfilling than you can imagine!

Work on it with each other first, and when you are both ready to open further you will know. Work through your jealousy and fears. Your communication will be brutally honest and raw. No hiding. Just the desire for her pleasure. Be open to the possibilities and explore together. Becoming a hotwife is a matter of letting yourself as a wife feel pleasure to the point of losing your senses and knowing it's okay.... it is the most loving act you can perform for yourself and your husband. The pleasure and desire you feel must be real, and the sharing of that intensity with him tells him you love him and you are his. He will in turn respond uncontrollably ensuring you have everything you need and desire to continue your fulfilling journey. Just ask and he will get you anything you want! You are not "using" him for this, as it will be rewarding for him. It is a joy, so don't feel guilty.