SEDUCING LOVERS IN A CONSERVATIVE SOCIETY: HOPING TO MOVE FROM FANTASY TO REALITY
Posted: Mon Jan 13, 2025 4:44 am
Hello, I am Suvil (35) and my wife is Divya (33). I work in Indian Railways, and recently have been transferred to Eastern India. I am writing my past ventures into this lifestyle (2018-23; Honestly, I would not call it that as back then I did not know even the terms 'Hotwife' or 'Cuckold' etc. But what we did could be categorized similar to this) in Misc. Forum under the title "An eerie, convoluted and eccentric case: My past mistakes and future ahead". Well, things got quite diabolical, and I filed for divorce. We have reconciled and are on very good terms in our second innings together. We evolved into good communicators, and learnt many lessons from our naive dalliances. Divya has emerged into a confident and bold lady from a very conservative woman earlier. I have researched into this fetish a lot since then. Let's get to the points quickly:
Problems/Concerns:
1. Since, it is a tier II town in India, it is pretty conservative. There is no concept of open marriage, bull, hotwife, BDSM, etc. and everything falls under cheating. There are no bars, clubs or even online local groups for this or any sexual activity. In fact, even casual sex is just non-existent. For sex, either you need to have wife/girlfriend or you go to a prostitute, which is illegal, full of scams and risky as there are no health checkups involved.
2. From point 1, I assume whatever we do, if any, will be simply cheating by society standards. The problem is it is not taken well by society, and can quickly rise to a scandal (given the public administrative post I hold in Railways). Since, Divya would actually be doing sex, she may have to suffer wrath of moral mongers. The families of both sides would never understand. And to top the problems, we have a baby.
3. Our marriage has already reached to the brink of divorce. Families were not happy. Another scandal will basically throw us out of the family.
But I am an engineer. We solve problems. I am up for a challenge.
What have I and Divya discussed so far:
1. She is going to be a confident attractive lady in this new place. She will dress modern, slightly revealing by our standards. She is to join some society/volunteer group or NGO, and will be an outgoing personality. This will surely attract a lot of random stares, and potentially many perverts/predators. But along the way, some one can be a good man, who can fulfil/play the role of a bull. However, it would be extremely difficult to explain him such concept, and as people here are wired to do sex only after having feelings, it can get difficult for us/me.
2. She was a teacher in our previous location, but had to quit the job to be here. She is going to teach private tuition to 2 children (12 & 14) in our neighbourhood. Their mother runs a home kitchen/tiffin business, which feeds under-privileged school students of surrounding area. 3 boys volunteer for tiffin delivery, and few aunties help in making food. Divya is going to ask to volunteer for some help too. It is good work. But I have a hidden motive - One of the delivery boy looks decent, shy, and good-hearted person. May be he can be a good paramour. I talked to Divya about seducing him, and she brushed it off laughingly.
What have we not discussed so far:
1. Honestly speaking, I have not 'explicitly' asked/suggested Divya to have sex with some other person, or take a lover. We just talk about seducing a man or flirting as a play, and she likes that her boldness/promiscuous behaviour turns me on. She also likes that the new freedom and confidence to live increases her love for me (before marriage she says she lived like a caged parrot and was under-confident due to her skin color. She is slightly more darkish brown to her mother's likings).
2. I have not told her about such fetishes/terms/lifestyle concepts, and since there are no corresponding terms in Hindi, she does not know them. It would be hard for her to understand that I want to be in the same room while she is having sex with her new lover/friend. Especially since when at one time it almost came to that point, I exploded violently, and we almost got divorced. To my defence, it was "partial cheating". However, I think I have matured now (so has Divya - she is now more vigilant to predators/manipulators), having done counselling as well as studying in and outs of such lifestyle, I think I will handle it better. [Divya can read English, but is slow reader. It discourages her. I have told her about my writings on this website, and she has read just 2 updates of my Misc. forum post in 14 Days].
Earlier I was going to update about our new adventures (if any, but I will push for it certainly - that is my secret 2025 resolution) in my original post in the Misc. forum, but I think it will take time to complete that story till 2023 because there I am writing it detailed with dialogues.
Why I am starting this post now, and what I am going to do:
Tomorrow is a harvest festival "Lohiri/Makar Sankranti" in India. This marks the start of holy baths of Kumbh Mela at Sangam (confluence of rivers Ganges and Yamuna), Prayagraj (world's largest gathering - This year in 1.5 months, government expects 400 Million tourists/people at Prayagraj. Yes, 400 Million. Not a typo.) Anyways, Divya is going to start her volunteer work at kitchen from today evening as the mother (Pratibha is her name I believe. We call her aunty) requested all her workforce to prepare 500 tiffin in one night, and send it to Kumbh Mela for the under-privileged by train tomorrow. So, they are putting an all-nighter making delicious food. That young boy will also be there.
I have challenged Divya to initiate some small talk with him, and get his WhatsApp number. It is a challenge as there will be around 25 people, and technically Divya doesn't need to talk to him at all and cannot do so without people noticing. He will surely not initiate anything as it is not a party where you go for flirting and picking up a girl/boy. Let's see if she succeeds. She went pretty confidently that is for sure!
So, this is what I was thinking I can do. I can put Divya in some increasing sensual tasks, and her new bold demeanor would take it as a challenge. Meanwhile I would be easing my fantasies to her. I know this may take months, but in real life I have to tread lightly (I will have to vet some person personally for her safety before challenging her for anything). I hope to get some creative suggestions and criticism of my plan (all are welcome).
Problems/Concerns:
1. Since, it is a tier II town in India, it is pretty conservative. There is no concept of open marriage, bull, hotwife, BDSM, etc. and everything falls under cheating. There are no bars, clubs or even online local groups for this or any sexual activity. In fact, even casual sex is just non-existent. For sex, either you need to have wife/girlfriend or you go to a prostitute, which is illegal, full of scams and risky as there are no health checkups involved.
2. From point 1, I assume whatever we do, if any, will be simply cheating by society standards. The problem is it is not taken well by society, and can quickly rise to a scandal (given the public administrative post I hold in Railways). Since, Divya would actually be doing sex, she may have to suffer wrath of moral mongers. The families of both sides would never understand. And to top the problems, we have a baby.
3. Our marriage has already reached to the brink of divorce. Families were not happy. Another scandal will basically throw us out of the family.
But I am an engineer. We solve problems. I am up for a challenge.
What have I and Divya discussed so far:
1. She is going to be a confident attractive lady in this new place. She will dress modern, slightly revealing by our standards. She is to join some society/volunteer group or NGO, and will be an outgoing personality. This will surely attract a lot of random stares, and potentially many perverts/predators. But along the way, some one can be a good man, who can fulfil/play the role of a bull. However, it would be extremely difficult to explain him such concept, and as people here are wired to do sex only after having feelings, it can get difficult for us/me.
2. She was a teacher in our previous location, but had to quit the job to be here. She is going to teach private tuition to 2 children (12 & 14) in our neighbourhood. Their mother runs a home kitchen/tiffin business, which feeds under-privileged school students of surrounding area. 3 boys volunteer for tiffin delivery, and few aunties help in making food. Divya is going to ask to volunteer for some help too. It is good work. But I have a hidden motive - One of the delivery boy looks decent, shy, and good-hearted person. May be he can be a good paramour. I talked to Divya about seducing him, and she brushed it off laughingly.
What have we not discussed so far:
1. Honestly speaking, I have not 'explicitly' asked/suggested Divya to have sex with some other person, or take a lover. We just talk about seducing a man or flirting as a play, and she likes that her boldness/promiscuous behaviour turns me on. She also likes that the new freedom and confidence to live increases her love for me (before marriage she says she lived like a caged parrot and was under-confident due to her skin color. She is slightly more darkish brown to her mother's likings).
2. I have not told her about such fetishes/terms/lifestyle concepts, and since there are no corresponding terms in Hindi, she does not know them. It would be hard for her to understand that I want to be in the same room while she is having sex with her new lover/friend. Especially since when at one time it almost came to that point, I exploded violently, and we almost got divorced. To my defence, it was "partial cheating". However, I think I have matured now (so has Divya - she is now more vigilant to predators/manipulators), having done counselling as well as studying in and outs of such lifestyle, I think I will handle it better. [Divya can read English, but is slow reader. It discourages her. I have told her about my writings on this website, and she has read just 2 updates of my Misc. forum post in 14 Days].
Earlier I was going to update about our new adventures (if any, but I will push for it certainly - that is my secret 2025 resolution) in my original post in the Misc. forum, but I think it will take time to complete that story till 2023 because there I am writing it detailed with dialogues.
Why I am starting this post now, and what I am going to do:
Tomorrow is a harvest festival "Lohiri/Makar Sankranti" in India. This marks the start of holy baths of Kumbh Mela at Sangam (confluence of rivers Ganges and Yamuna), Prayagraj (world's largest gathering - This year in 1.5 months, government expects 400 Million tourists/people at Prayagraj. Yes, 400 Million. Not a typo.) Anyways, Divya is going to start her volunteer work at kitchen from today evening as the mother (Pratibha is her name I believe. We call her aunty) requested all her workforce to prepare 500 tiffin in one night, and send it to Kumbh Mela for the under-privileged by train tomorrow. So, they are putting an all-nighter making delicious food. That young boy will also be there.
I have challenged Divya to initiate some small talk with him, and get his WhatsApp number. It is a challenge as there will be around 25 people, and technically Divya doesn't need to talk to him at all and cannot do so without people noticing. He will surely not initiate anything as it is not a party where you go for flirting and picking up a girl/boy. Let's see if she succeeds. She went pretty confidently that is for sure!
So, this is what I was thinking I can do. I can put Divya in some increasing sensual tasks, and her new bold demeanor would take it as a challenge. Meanwhile I would be easing my fantasies to her. I know this may take months, but in real life I have to tread lightly (I will have to vet some person personally for her safety before challenging her for anything). I hope to get some creative suggestions and criticism of my plan (all are welcome).