First post from me!!

[Jelz]

Been lurking for several years. Thought I’d tell you my (our) story by way of introduction.

We are late 40s – been together for over 28 years, happily married for almost 20 of those. Couple of teenage children. She’s very beautiful and we’re both in pretty good shape, running/cycling in home gym almost every day.

The fantasy origin

Sex life has always been good and having been together for so long, we’ve sort of grown together in that respect. From pretty vanilla starting out, to trying things, from porn (VHS back then lol), to toys, to taking pictures & videos. Doing stuff outside on holiday. My god the balconies the balconies!

Guess much of that is pretty standard progress?

I’d say about 20 or so years ago a bit of dirty talk crept in. We always liked the idea of a female 3rd – like a lot of women, wifey was very into the idea and often picked girl on girl porn to watch. It really got her going! So a bit of dirty talk. Sometimes even suggesting her best friend (both of us). But just fantasy.

So I remember about 10 years ago (have kids by this point), in one dirty talk session we were fantasising about going to a sex party or club or something, and she said something that probably sowed the scene for this itch. All that time ago.

What she said was basically along the lines of once we’d had a threesome with another woman, I could sit back on the sofa with a glass of wine and watch her getting fucked.

Until this point, in almost 20 years, I had never EVER entertained that thought. In fact I’m sure I would have her being fucked by someone else repulsed me. In a lot of ways I would have said I was quite alpha like that. In earlier days I didn’t even really like people looking at her. Where I came from, your Mrs getting fucked by someone else would be humiliating.

Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t some jealous controlling moron, just trying to illustrate that this scenario couldn’t have been further from my mind.

Anyway, that comment sowed a little seed though and that specific fantasy began to come into things more. Both dirty talk between us and in my own head.

It was taboo and I think I liked that.

I’ve always chased a new buzz in things. I like new music, trying new food I haven’t had before, going to new places etc. So maybe that was an element of it.

For a long time the fantasy has been about maybe swapping with another couple, she wants to see me with someone else as well. But as time as gone on, my part of it has been of much less concern to me. To the point I don’t actually care about it.

Anyway I quite liked writing erotic stories – posted some on Literotica actually – often featuring a hot wife type scenario. She liked them and great sex always followed (after she read them she was always soaked).

So… I guess that’s kind of the – the fantasy?

The Reality

So what have we actually done about it?

Around the pandemic time we decided to sign up to a couple of swinger sites and met a couple there. In times of the pandemic nobody was meeting up so we had a couple of video sessions with them. Was pretty hot and wifey really liked. In fact I couldn’t believe how she was completely into it and expressing what she wanted us – and them – to do. She was totally comfortable getting naked and fucked in front of others.

After we agreed we enjoyed it and would do it again.

But we often have these periods when things go a bit quiet and rubbish frankly. I don’t know why. Sometimes I get tired being the one initiating the more exciting stuff and fall right off. I think it will often relate to what’s going on in our lives as well, we are both very busy people.

Anyways – about a year later that best friend I told you about earlier? Well… she stayed over one night. They got very drunk and I walked in to find them completely naked and going at each other. Incredible!

I was invited to join in and tried to – did for a bit (technically did fuck both of them) – but unfortunately, I had been drinking for 10 hours (had been out at football all day) and the whisky dick was real. Am still gutted about that to this day. What a chance blown. Had I known what was going to happen that night I wouldn’t have drunk so much 

Anyway no big deal, was still a very exciting experience and when I left them to it they went on for another couple of hours! It also fuelled great sex and dirty talk between us for weeks & months to come as I got her to regale every detail back to me of what they to each other when I wasn’t there. Girls can be pretty hardcore when drunk and left to it!!

Following that we carried on with the dirty talk, did have hopes of another round with the friend but it never materialised. Partly through guilt on her part I think (the friend, not my wife, she definitely wanted to do it again and had very specific ideas about my involvement which she enjoyed describing to me).

Anyway – over the next 12 months we tried to plan a visit to a ‘lifestyle’ club but never manged it, before finally in the summer of 23 we did.

That was a really good, exciting, experience. The build-up in the weeks leading up to it. The talk about boundaries etc, what we wanted to happen. Seeing your wife in your hotel room get dressed into sexy underwear, put make-up on, do her hair really nice, put condoms into her clutch bag which we had acknowledged might be used later by someone else fucking her. And she was totally up for it.

I should say, at this point I think her preference was still for a couple swap thing – but feel if the situation was right, she might fuck someone in front of me. She knows I would like it and we’ve fantasised about it.

Anyway – we went – and had a great time. But we didn’t meet anyone unfortunately. It wasn’t a really busy night and a touch cliquey.

There was also some etiquette we weren’t aware of that reflecting back, may have limited our chances.

Nonetheless we had lots of sex, in front of others doing it etc, she almost squirted – or was certainly gushing more than I had seen in years and very turned on. She even had a look in the gloryhole!

And in subsequent conversations she talked about it being shame we didn’t get lucky in that respect and we’d try again.

However we’ve really fallen off a cliff in the last 6 months. Sex once a month, memberships to swinging sites I’ve let lapse.

I think there’s a number of reasons for that.

As our kids get older they go to bed later and our chance to get down to things diminishes massively. By midnight I’m almost falling asleep and she says something like “shall we?” – I just can’t be arsed.

There’s also no build-up or talk anymore. If we ever talk about “that” side of things – it is always me initiating it. And frankly I’m sick of it. After a while you feel like a perv.

I know as men get older our sex drive does fall off so that probably is why I look for something a bit more… well spicy.

As time goes on though I flip between being annoyed about it and not giving a shit.

So it’s a real shame. It feels like in 18 months we’ve gone from the very height of our sexual journey and enlightenment, to the worst it’s been. Ever.

I think there’s lots we could do to reignite things. Bringing back the talk, the teasing. We even work at home 2-3 days per week when there are no children about. Perfect you would think.

But yeah, I have a bit of a sulk on I guess. Perhaps this introduction is cathartic!

So that’s it really. Plenty of other context I expect.

Anyone got any good Korean recipes?

[armyguyot1]

As the kids get older they develop their own lives and eventually leave. For us going empty nest was soo good for us. She said she no longer needed to be a Mommie and could play and let herself really enjoy the sex. It will be good for you.

[wulfenus]

A helluva story!

[Jelz]

Ok. A bit of an update.

Having not done so for a couple of years I wrote up a 'story' the other night, something on my mind of late. Gave it to her to read once the kids had turned in.

Basically involved us going back to the lifestyle club but a scenario developed where she end up being fucked by not one, but two guys as I watched on. Spit-roasted, the lot.

When I came back and before I'd had a chance to ask about what she thought, she said "I LOVED that" and gave me a kiss.

Then getting down to things, she was soaked and talked about how well I described it, how should could see that happening, and then that she would actually like that to happen. Told me she liked it A LOT. She even initiated some of the things I'd described and told me she was doing that.

We've even got down to looking at dates for our next trip to the club - easier said that done as we are crazy busy - but feel like it's out of the doldrums and a live thing once again.

[aztd]

Ok. A bit of an update.

Having not done so for a couple of years I wrote up a 'story' the other night, something on my mind of late. Gave it to her to read once the kids had turned in.

Basically involved us going back to the lifestyle club but a scenario developed where she end up being fucked by not one, but two guys as I watched on. Spit-roasted, the lot.

When I came back and before I'd had a chance to ask about what she thought, she said "I LOVED that" and gave me a kiss.

Then getting down to things, she was soaked and talked about how well I described it, how should could see that happening, and then that she would actually like that to happen. Told me she liked it A LOT. She even initiated some of the things I'd described and told me she was doing that.

We've even got down to looking at dates for our next trip to the club - easier said that done as we are crazy busy - but feel like it's out of the doldrums and a live thing once again.

How do I find your stories?

How

[Jelz]

It's not online anywhere. Quite long to put as a post here I think.

I have published stories to Literotica before - maybe I'll put it there later and link to it.

[GBinSD]

Loving your journey . Please keep us updated.

[Jelz]

Quite good progress to report!

We are indeed now booked in to make a return visit in May to the lifestyle club we went to almost 2 years ago.

When booking it a couple of weeks ago, the talk got very spicy, a selection of things she confirmed:

Although her ideal scenario is that we meet a couple and swap partners/have a foursome - she also wants to get fucked while I watch.

Said she wouldn't be against going into the glory-hole there! She was interested by it before and looked in there but the club was very quiet that night. I asked if she went in and a cock pops through - what is her next move? "Suck it" said she "and you'd have to tell me whose cock it was after".

Trying to think what else.... Oh yes we have something on the following afternoon and she made a joke "if I can walk", basically implying she has the mindset she could get fucked a lot!

[sixpack]

I’m a wannabe too but I think you’re in a good situation.

Your wife loves sex and is open minded.

Your kids will be gone soon

Don’t worry about losing your sex drive as you get older. I’m 65 and still hot as hell for my wife

I lick my wife’s pussy ever chance I get and she loves me for it

Please keep us updated

[BBCfan]

Hot background and progress.
Look forward to hearing how things unfold.

[Jelz]

1 week to go!