My hopefully-hotwife-to-be and out journey towards hotwifing

[SmallTownGuy]

I was out of town yesterday and overnight and it seems they had made a video call again after the kids had gone to sleep. Excellent

[Tryn]

Do you and your wife talk about their video calls or do you know about them only because you check her phone? If she’s hiding video calls from you, there is a reason for that. Hot if she is, but also concerning.

[SmallTownGuy]

We had a good spirited discussion about the situation another day after I asked her how are things with the Brit and if she could give a bit of an update. She said they are texting each other quite a lot and I think she also mentioned they've called "couple of times", which is a bit of an understatement as they've called like ten times or more. I asked if they were video calls or phone calls and she said they're phone calls. She also commented I shouldn't think too much out of this unless I enjoy thinking too much out of this, and I admitted I kind of hope this is something a bit more exciting than just texting with a friend. She knows me so she kind of expected that already. I asked when was their last video call and she admitted it was the previous evening when I was away for the evening. I told her I'm glad they are keeping in contact. One interesting comment by her was that she doesn't give this much whatsapp time for anyone else, which is true. She doesn't spend time chatting with friends on whatsapp. She also said he is very proactive in the texting and I commented I'm sure she understands why he is so interested in her, and she admitted that most likely if he had met a nice guy he wouldn't be texting that much with him so she understands he is interested in her because of something more than just friendship.

One interesting question I asked was when after she had said once again she's mainly interested in him as a friend I asked how she would describe this if she was single. She admitted she might be a bit more open for something more than friendship in that case and also that she would allow herself to be more excited about it. She also thinks the fact they have kissed shouldn't define the relationship too much, but added that if I want to think it does there is no problem for me to think that way.

She also asked how close I want to be to this, and I said I'm very curious to know what is going on but don't want to get between them and don't want to make anyone feel awkward. I also asked how much they've discussed about what is actually going on here and she said they haven't much at all but the guy has ensured I am OK with this. Which I think is a good sign. I also suggested maybe she is also a bit uncertain about what is actually going on but she denied that and said she knows very well. However she also admitted there is a bit different base mood than when interacting with "just friends". I also admitted couple of times I have zero objections if they want to be more than friends.

[SmallTownGuy]

Oh, and she said that my comment before might be true when I said this entire situation may be quite interesting for him too, and she's not sure how much he would be interested in her if she was single. But the possibility to have fun (either just spend flirty time or perhaps something more) with someone else's wife may be tempting. Which I think is fully true.

She also told me it appears he is interested in her as more than a piece of meat, which we both find very positive. I don't believe in sex without chemistry, so I hope there is sincere chemistry between them.

[Tryn]

I’m sure your wife knows he’s trying to get her into something sexual. He’s a guy and no guy invests that much time with an attractive female to just be friends. Your wife likely knows that, though I think she is choosing not to disclose that. She’s taking her time to get to that decision and that’s definitely the right approach for her.

[SmallTownGuy]

I’m sure your wife knows he’s trying to get her into something sexual. He’s a guy and no guy invests that much time with an attractive female to just be friends. Your wife likely knows that, though I think she is choosing not to disclose that. She’s taking her time to get to that decision and that’s definitely the right approach for her.

Thanks for the comment, very well said. I think the best possible approach would be to ensure she knows she has my full support for being more than friends, and she keeps her mind open for the possibility that she will want to go further than just a hug. Then the rest will follow if the mood is right, chemistry is still there and they want to do it.

I understand very well why she isn't saying she will have sex. They've only spent little time together and there is always a possibility that things get awkward or she isn't attracted to him the next time they meet. Women are picky and she is especially picky I'd like her to be more open towards the possibility of more than friendship, but I also think she is still trying to figure it all out herself and I will let her take her time.

[Wantsomefunto]

Hopefully you can give her more opportunities to be alone with him and more kissing happens. Has she been dressing any different? Maybe buy her a sexy matching bra and thong to wear when she meet up with him

[Tryn]

I’m sure your wife knows he’s trying to get her into something sexual. He’s a guy and no guy invests that much time with an attractive female to just be friends. Your wife likely knows that, though I think she is choosing not to disclose that. She’s taking her time to get to that decision and that’s definitely the right approach for her.

Thanks for the comment, very well said. I think the best possible approach would be to ensure she knows she has my full support for being more than friends, and she keeps her mind open for the possibility that she will want to go further than just a hug. Then the rest will follow if the mood is right, chemistry is still there and they want to do it.

I understand very well why she isn't saying she will have sex. They've only spent little time together and there is always a possibility that things get awkward or she isn't attracted to him the next time they meet. Women are picky and she is especially picky I'd like her to be more open towards the possibility of more than friendship, but I also think she is still trying to figure it all out herself and I will let her take her time.

I think you’re approaching it with correct thinking. It will be challenging to not over state he’s trying to get her out of the friend zone, yet occasionally point out that he’s obviously sexually attracted to her. It will interesting to see how this unfolds!

[SmallTownGuy]

Hopefully you can give her more opportunities to be alone with him and more kissing happens. Has she been dressing any different? Maybe buy her a sexy matching bra and thong to wear when she meet up with him

The challenge here is that he lives in another country so they cannot meet too often. That might, on the other hand, also be a positive thing. We won't be bumping into him in the nearby grocery store and they will be building tension and lust, hopefully, before they meet, and when they are together it is "special time" for both of them.

She actually bought some new panties lately. For the first time ever, she asked for my opinion, and I suggested a small black brazilian type which she got couple of pairs of. Something like this, though not the exactly same model. I will at some point let her know I'd love her to wear those for the trip with him.

[SmallTownGuy]

She was out with her coworkers yesterday, they had couple of beers at the bar and she cycled home. It's about an half an hour trip so they had called with the Brit and he kept her company while she was bicycling. She told me about this when I woke up as she was getting into bed and I asked where they had been and if she had a good time.

I'm happy she told me about it and told her it's cute they are making a call every now and then and thanked her for keeping me updated.

[Wantsomefunto]

Does she have any interest doing anything with the coworker?

[SmallTownGuy]

Does she have any interest doing anything with the coworker?

You mean Andy the coworker who she goes sometimes out with? Not 100% sure...? I haven't asked her directly but they seem to get along real well and like to go out together. There may be some attraction but not sure if it is bidirectional. I would be surprised if he isn't attracted to her, but I don't know if she's attracted to him.

She has once mentioned there is another coworker who she finds very attractive, but as far as I know they don't really spend any time together and I don't know if he's interested in her. Then again I guess most guys would be interested in her if they knew she is available and willing