My hopefully-hotwife-to-be and out journey towards hotwifing

[SmallTownGuy]

New member here. I'll try to create some kind of a diary here for those perhaps interested and for my personal use too. I'll include some history of us and update when there is something to update.

I'll write several shorter messages because I have to do this on phone and I hate it when a maraton post disappears when battery runs out or I accidentally swipe back or such.

First things first; I'm (unfortunately ) not looking for a bull so no point in PMing or asking if you could meet her. I'd love to set up a date for her, but we're not there yet.

We're a married white couple approaching our 40s. I was born in -86 and she is two years younger than I am. We've got two kids, that are not babies any more but aren't yet in school and that keeps us pretty busy. We've been together since she was 19 and I am her first and only real boyfriend. She was a virgin when we started dating so I'm the only guy she's had sex with. Someone had fingered her a bit before we met, but that's it.

[SmallTownGuy]

I've always liked the thought of her having fun with other men. We've been together for 18 years so it's been a while. It took some time to be able to clearly and explicitly tell her this, but she is aware and has accepted that is the way I feel and has no issue with it.

We live a normal family life in a relatively small town so it's not like she'd be out meeting new guys, getting seduced and flirting too much or often. Our lives currently rotate around work and kids and the free time is pretty limited. Especially that us both would be free at the same time.

There is some interesting and fun stuff nonetheless. I've managed to convince her to come to a swinger/sex/something like that clubs or happenings a couple of times. The first time was at a small S/Mish club. We went there, she was looking fine as fuck in her stay-ups and see-through dress. There was one guy who approached her pretty soon, but she wasn't into her. We went around the place which has plenty of different rooms and spaces, had some sex in a room until we realized the creepy guy was looking at us from between the gap in the door which killed the mood. She also tried the sybian but said it was nice but there are better things still. We ended up fucking again in a small room where there were no other people. She was riding me while I was sitting in a chair when a guy appeared at the door. He asked if it was OK to watch us for a while. I asked my wife if she was OK and she said that is. The guy masturbated for a while and then went away.

We've also been to another swinger club I think twice. Not much has happened there. It seems the people seem to be pretty careful in their actions, maybe because they don't want anyone to feel awkward or something. But it really seems like people interact and try hitting on people more in normal nightclubs. Both visits nonetheless have ended up with us having sex, just the two of us though some have most likely seen something from between the curtains. She hasn't felt too awkward there and has even wore an anklet after I explained the meaning and told her ai'e love her to wear one.

We've also been to a theme party at a night club. It was basically just like any other dance party, except for some striptease in between and there also was a separate room where people were having sex openly but we didn't even know that before when we were leaving home. She loves dancing, I try my best but don't really enjoy it that much. She was horny on our way back home and asked me to stop the car and we fucked in the car before getting home to release the babysitter.

[Cuckcuckgoose1]

Sounds like a good start to your story. Please share more.

[SmallTownGuy]

I'm pretty sure she hasn't done anything real wild with other men, but there are some slightly positive signs.

She has one coworker she seems to get really well along with. She is about 20 years her senior. They are texting with each other more or less regularly, and it is not work-related. So it means they think of each other, which is nice. She has, for example, sent her selfies (just face). There was one company party held at a venue slightly outside the center, and they had a plan that he will pick her up from there and just two of them will head to bar for some drinks. That was, unfortunately, cancelled, but this makes me think they might have some chemistry Also, when I asked her what plans she had before one company party, she just answered she'll go wherever he goes. During this party I sent her a message letting her know and reminding her she's allowed to make things that might make some hubbys jealous and I would just be enlightened. I've checked their whatsapp discussions every once in a while at that evening, after getting home, she sent her a message "Thanks for the evening!" which kind of makes me think there must be something to thank for

She also had one trip abroad alone. During that trip she told she danced with some arab guys and admitted there were hands on her body, but once they started being too pushy she said she quit that. She said it was clear they were looking for more than dancing but it was fun while it lasted. She also found a bunch of men from the neighboring country and joined them for some drinks at the bar and apparently they had good discussions and got somewhat drunk. She had exchanged numbers woth one of the guys and he was texting her later how he had wanted to marry her, how beautiful she was and how her husband is one lucky guy. She was replying how they had a great conversation and how they seemed to think similarly about many things and how she felt they understood another great, but also said he shouldn't sound so in love. He was a bit theatral about his feelings after they had separated. Couple of weeks after the trip she sent her some selfies from a place she was visiting and they had talked about. I have a feeling they had a fun night and some chemistry, but he screwed it up by being too much of a drama queen instead of just having a good time.

[SmallTownGuy]

Maybe a word about what I'd love to happen. To be honest, I would be super aroused about any small things such as her sitting on another man's lap, giving a kiss on the cheek or holding hands. However, my dream situation would be one where she has a good regular lover she could meet regularly. The most important thing would be that they both enjoy the sex. I'm sure there's literally millions of guys who would enjoy sex with her, but of course her pleasure is the most important thing. For me the skin colour is not important, but I would get my kicks if the lover would be better equipped than I am. Bareback would be ten times hotter than with condom, but would require a very great deal of trust. I'd also be more than fine if she had one-nighters and generally be open towards men anywhere she goes. I'd like if there is some chemistry and even slight falling in love involved instead of just pure sex without any feelings.

I'd be very happy to participate in an MFM way or by watching or helping. I also equally like the idea of her going on a date without me. There really is no preference; perhaps the optimal situation would be one where I sometimes get to join but she also goes out alone. I'd also love her to try a gangbang, either with or without me

However, currently gangbangs and creampies look very far away as to my knowledge she's never even had the urge to kiss someone

[Small]

Very interesting thread - I'll definitely follow your development. It seems like you're on a pretty steady track towards your end goal as your wife seems to be very open to it and interested in it. You just need to find the right guy at the right time. Good luck!

[SmallTownGuy]

One thing I've enjoyed a lot lately is playing with a dildo. Some years ago I bought a nice thick but not huge purple suction cup dildo which got nicknamed "The Captain" as she finds one captain in a certain movie hot. She first commented that captain is a bit too big, but has actually started liking it, or him, a lot. First it was mostly me licking her clit while using the dildo on her, but lately it's been the standard practice that she handles the dildo herself while I concentrate kissing and teasing her clit and breasts. She almost always orgasms from this, and I also enjoy this a lot. As she's never done anything with other men, watching and helping her cum while she has something larger than my dick inside her, is sexy as hell. She knows I enjoy the view and a bit surprisingly, to be honest, she almost gives me a show and pulls it out and back and asks me if I have a good view.

We also have some other toys such as satisfyer and a vibrating thingy, but lately the captain has seen way more use than anything else.

She has admitted she's also played with it without me, but according to my understanding it is quite rare and the satisfyer has been her weapon of choice. I still think she masturbates very rarely, unfortunately.

[SmallTownGuy]

Some random things she has mentioned when discussing the topic. She seems a bit reserved or cautious or uneasy when discussing and is not very actively participating, more like answering questions.

-She enjoys flirting and dancing sometimes
-She has said there are no real hot men she could think of
-She has been participating in the swinger meetings mostly because of my desire
-On the other hand, she's had fun there, especially the ones where we danced all night
-Cannot see how she could end up having sex with anyone but it should happen more "by chance", like meeting someone and getting seduced, than by setting up a date or Tinder or such

[SmallTownGuy]

Haven't I described her at all...?

She's currently 36 yo. She has pale skin, long legs, very small breasts, long brown hair, round shapely ass and quite narrow waist. She's 172 cm tall and weighs around 69 kg. She has a pretty, feminine face. I may be biased, but I think she's a very sexy and classy lady. She dresses quite modestly but especially in summertime uses short dresses revealing her long legs. She is not a sport fanatic by any means, but does some dancing and such to stay in shape and has a very healthy diet. She has an academic education and a good job. She enjoys renovating our home, gardening, dancing and some arts.

[Small]

If she has very small breasts, does she go braless? Seems an obvious opportunity next time you go out.

[SmallTownGuy]

If she has very small breasts, does she go braless? Seems an obvious opportunity next time you go out.

Though her breasts are small, the nipples are large and long. Areolas are small and pink, but the nipples are quite large.

Yesterday evening we were cleaning up the house and I brought up that we've got some sex toys that are broken or haven't seen use in long time and we could go through them and discard of the ones that are not needed. I then asked in bed if there's any new toys she thinks we could buy.

Her: I'm happy with what you got but sometimes you know better, like when you got that satisfyer.
Me: Haha, don't remember if it was me or you who suggested that. But glad you like it. One thing that crossed my mind is that we had a cock sleeve that made my dick a bit longer and thicker and I think we had some fun with it until something happened with the material and we had to throw it away.
Her:Hmm, was it like a super thick condom?
Me:Yeah, a bit like that
Her:I remember. But the material was a bit gross.
Me:Okay, but the material aside, if there's any made from a non-gross material.
Her: Well, you can buy one if you want.

She kept reading her book when I browsed some but didn't yet order any.

I'm definitely not huge but not small either and some of the women I've hd sex with have even told I'm larger than what they are used to, but if I remember correctly when we had the penis sleeve several years ago I think she orgasmed more easily with it and in positions where I very rarely can make her cum. I like a bit of size play and se might be a _bit_ of a size queen.

[SmallTownGuy]

If she has very small breasts, does she go braless? Seems an obvious opportunity next time you go out.

Though her breasts are small, the nipples are large and long. Areolas are small and pink, but the nipples are quite large. So she never goes outside without bra as the nipples would be pretty in-your-face

Yesterday evening we were cleaning up the house and I brought up that we've got some sex toys that are broken or haven't seen use in long time and we could go through them and discard of the ones that are not needed. I then asked in bed if there's any new toys she thinks we could buy.

Her: I'm happy with what you got but sometimes you know better, like when you got that satisfyer.
Me: Haha, don't remember if it was me or you who suggested that. But glad you like it. One thing that crossed my mind is that we had a cock sleeve that made my dick a bit longer and thicker and I think we had some fun with it until something happened with the material and we had to throw it away.
Her:Hmm, was it like a super thick condom?
Me:Yeah, a bit like that
Her:I remember. But the material was a bit gross.
Me:Okay, but the material aside, if there's any made from a non-gross material.
Her: Well, you can buy one if you want.

She kept reading her book and wasn't overly interested in browsing them with me. I browsed some but didn't yet order any.

I'm definitely not huge but not small either and some of the women I've hd sex with have even told I'm larger than what they are used to, but if I remember correctly when we had the penis sleeve several years ago I think she orgasmed more easily with it and in positions where I very rarely can make her cum. I like a bit of size play and se might be a _bit_ of a size queen.

[SmallTownGuy]

She mentioned that she and The Coworker both like a certain band and if they ever come for a gig close to where we live they'll go see it together. Unfortunately I'm really not sure if that will ever happen as they don't gig much at all nowadays and it's quite unlikely they'll be coming close for a gig.

However, I really enjoy the thought that they are planning what they could do together I also hope they'll find good reasons to go out together even without something that unlikely to happen.

[SmallTownGuy]

Had a bit of a conversation about the swinger/sex parties and whether we should check if there is something available. She said she gets pretty much nothing out of the exhibitionism side and is not interested in ~anything except the dancing.

So seems like a bit of a disappointment, would like to explore the kink in those surroundings and to me the biggest success has been getting her to swinger meetings with the hotwife anklet

[SmallTownGuy]

Nothing really interesting to update, but for the records...

They had a company party last week, and I had some hopes she might have something with Andy the coworker. Apparently there wasn't. She said at the end there were three if them left and she took the same bus than another female coworker so apparently they didn't get the chance to be just two of them.

Well, the next night there was a 80s theme party at a nightclub. She thinks the awkward 80s music is the best dance music so she managed to get a ticket and went there. There was also another ticket available but I didn't feel like going there because
1)I'm not a dancing guy
2)I liked the idea she was partying without me
3)Someone hd to stay with the kids and my mom was not readily available.

She dressed to impress, at least in my eyes. Leather boots, tights, tight silver glitter dress that barely covered her buttocks, strong make-up, hair done in 80s style. She looked gorgeous and very sexy.

While she was getting dressed, I asked her if she'd put the anklet on. She said she'll be wearing boots so nope. I asked if she'd otherwise do it. She said she doesn't think it makes a difference. While she was getting out of the door, I reminded her that though she doesn't have an anklet she still has the permission it represents. She said "So it's kind of a reminder" and I said you could think it that way.

When she got to the party, she texted me that she is really young compared to the others. I replied that most likely that is not an issue for you and told I'd be happy to hear some updates and if she's having a good time. She didn't reply to that, and I kind of hoped she's dancing with older guys in her fuck me dress When she got home she said she hd met some women we know and they had danced and partied together and apparently men hadn't approached her which I think sounds a bit surprising as she was very sexy. However, she also said that most of the guests were female so maybe there just wasn't any guys willing and confident and brave enough to hit on her. She danced the last slow dance with a very sexy female friend and got home.

She also booked a trip abroad alone in the upcoming weeks. Last time she had some flirting and texting with men there so I hope something like that might happen this time too.

[SmallTownGuy]

Oh, also about the upcoming trip. She was mentioning it's a pity all her friends are either having small kids, are at work or don't have the money to go out on trip with her. I asked how about Andy the coworker. She actually apparently liked the idea and said he night actually join her. Then she commented something like "I think he has other plans for that time" and I didn't want to push her too much. What I liked is that she apparently considered it and finds the idea to be somewhat possible.

[kiwimmlh]

Amazing thread mate. Keep at it, we're rooting for you

[SmallTownGuy]

Thanks man, good to hear

Teased her a bit about the possibility to ask if the Andy the coworker would like to join her.

Me: Well, did you ask if Andy would join you on your trip?
Her: I did not, I didn't even see him today.
M: Why didn't you ask?
H: He might be crazy enough to say yes but I'd like to go with you really. What would we do there with Andy, other than drink beer? I can drink beer with Andy here too. I also find it refreshing to be alone, I can do whatever I feel like.

She was not upset or nothing, but perhaps a bit suprised I really suggested that. Maybe they really don't share too many common interests though they seem to get along really well.

[SmallTownGuy]

No major breakthroughs, but wanted to keep up the diary. She's abroad traveling alone and I texted her this morning to ask how things are going. I noticed she had been online yesterday night past 1 AM.

Me: What were you up to yesterday?
She: Apparently getting hungover.
Me: How come?
Her: I found some company and we were drinking till it was late.
Me: That's right. Where was the company from?
Her: A British dude.
Me: What was he up to?
Her: Was telling about his life.
Me: Where did you find each other?
Her: I was trying to google things and sat down on the boulevard. He thought I was local.
Me: Who would know of you.

...and that's all I know this far. She'll be back home tomorrow so let's see if she has anything more to tell.

[SmallTownGuy]

A quick update: they had kissed

[SmallTownGuy]

Okay, so I picked her up at the airport last night and on our way home she told me about her trip. She had met a guy at the street while sitting on the same bench and they had started chatting. He was also traveling alone so they went for a drink and ended up drinking and chatting for the entire evening. He was about 10 years older than us. She said he seemed to be the type that falls in love easily. They had also spent time together the next day. She said she thinks he was ready for more than that. He had had a difficult relationship with an overly controlling and jealous lady whereas she had told about me being more than fine with her having some fun.

So when they were separating he had asked if it would be fine to give her a kiss, as I'd be happy about it, and she had agreed. She said it was more for him and for me, but anyways, she has now kissed another man!

She also had taken her stuff to his hotel room as it was more conveniently located. She said he might have had some thought about more than that, but she had made it clear she's not getting in his bed.

Also she mentioned that before the kiss he had asked if she has told me about him and she said she had. She had mentioned she had been drinking with a British guy but I had no idea they were going to meet the next day too.

This may not be much compared to some other stories here, but hey, this is the first time in our almost 18 years of relationship that she's kissed someone else as far as I know.

I told her I'm very happy to hear this and find it extremely hot to know she's kissed another man

He'd love to meet her again, let's see if that will ever happen but she said he invited us to visit his country. I said it might be a challenge to go there together (kids...) but she could also go there by herself if she feels like that. Also I asked her to thank him for keeping her company

[SmallTownGuy]

I couldn't help myself and had to read their messages when my wife left her phone unlocked. They really seem to be organizin a reunion. The schedule, hotel selection, outfit for the concert are being discussed and she said that she is ready empty her calendar from other things for this concert.

Never would have imagined things start proceeding this quickly... However the concert apparently will be in late autumn which is an awfully long time to wait. She hasnn't talked to me about the plans yet but I may have to suggest they try to organize something for the summer already to keep the flame alive

Well, a whole lot can still happen that can make all go wrong, but now I really hope they get to meet again and the flame will still be there. And especially I hope he won't hurt her, as this really is very new gor her and bad experiences could make her feel really bad.

[iluvmyhw]

it sounds like you both might be getting lucky let's hope their planning works out

[SmallTownGuy]

Had a bit of a chat with her. What came up is
-She said the kiss was 50% for me; I said it's still nice it was 50% for her too
-She's tempted by the idea of going to the concert but she says she's not interested in e.g. sharing the hotel room with him. She says it might be fun to go to the concert, have a fun night there, and then go alone to the hotel room and also spend some time in the city alone.
-She's more interested in him as an occational friend than anything else
-She has noticed I've been close and cuddling her a lot since she got back home
-She doesn't want any drama in her life
-He was good and interesting company, not her dream
-"It's nice if you both get your kicks from each other"
-She asked me where I draw the line; I said I don't want a divorce but not much more I said I'm OK with them having sex and she said that's what she thought. I asked her where her lines are and she said she's not willing to do anything that cannot be done in public places, so kissing etc is OK but no more than that.

Anyways, this is by far the most interesting thing that has ever happened related to this so I consider this as massive break-through even if there wouldn't be any sex.

[mundyman]

The seed is planted my friend. Continue to gently water it, protect it, encourage it, and let it grow.
Perhaps in a moment when you two are having sex, and the moment is hot, have her close her eyes and imagine it is him instead of you that is with her, inside of her, fucking her.
Maybe have her use his name during sex.
Sure and steady wins the race my friend!
Good luck.