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Hey guys. Firstly, the community on here is fantastic. If you are contributing and supporting a brother, bloody well done. Its great reading and often really inspirational.

So Im writing here as an opportunity to take advice at a key moment in my Stag/vixen exploits, but also becuase im pretty proud of how ive stayed the course, and proud of the process that ive followed. About us first though.

We are 46 and 42 and met at 22 and 18. My wife is amazing- lets call her Jo. Shes perky and slim, smart and funny, a really athletic brunette. We have got a really strong marriage, we communicate really well. We have two amazing kids, a great home here in New Zealand, great jobs, all is gratitude.
As the inevitable happened and our (really good) sexlife slowed down after our kids were born, I turned up the heat and began to try lots of things in the sack. In researching new ideas to bring to the bedroom, one day the idea of someone else taking my wife hit me like billion volt lightning strike, and I haventbeen able to shake it. So about three years ago I started reading about good practice to turn fantasy into reality- its going really really well.

So here are all of the things that ive tried and how they have been received by my wife.
1) Ive ramped up the amount of casual touching that I do, and working on complementing her more - Obviously Jo loves this, its all sincere though, shes hot! Shes also been training more in the morning and is committed to being slim and sexy

2) Ive taken the lead on being involded in how she dresses- inside and outside the bedroom- this is going well too, she respects my opinion, and the complements that shes getting. We often ave dressups before sex, and i will choose an outfit and spent time adoring her before we fuck.

3) Ive been working to detach myself from her orgasm- through phone sex when shes woring away and encouraging her to masturbate while i watch. - going really well.

4) ive been progressively introducing more and more fantasy talk in the bedroom, ive made it clear to her that her satisfaction is my kink, and gradually introduced more and more 'out there' scenarios. - this is going well and she accepts my kinks. ive never actually said "i want another guy to fuck you', but ive said everything else leading up to it. When I talk about scenarios with other guys in the room watching her touch herself and getting hardons, she gasps.

5) We went out a few times, and she dressed REALLY sexy, wore no pantys etc. I probably didn't prepare well enough for this and apart from the great sex, missed the opportunity to dare her into some exciting situations.

Im playing the long game, working to avoid 'weird out' situations and focusing on her feeling sexy. There are so many signs that she gets where we're heading. One day she said "A guy was checking me out on the train today, and i thought that youd like that'.

So im here on the brink. Next during pillow talk im going to say somethings like "im actually curious as to how youd handle a big cock' or 'how far do you think tnhat you could go with another guy with total permission" something like that. Also might add a really hot masseuse into the middle of a sexy day for us, to get her re-acquainetd with mens hands on her. Could also have a night of 'dares' as well.

So, im Keen to take advice on some great ways to get to the start line properly- dying to get started finding 'the guy' etc.
Has anyone else followed this path? Shall i just rip the bandaid off and tell her? Whats a good 'ladder' for incrementally edgy dares? What do you think guys.

Welcome to the forum kiwimmlh.

kiwimmlh wrote: ↑

Fri Mar 21, 2025 9:44 pm

...So about three years ago I started reading about good practice to turn fantasy into reality- its going really really well.

Hi from a fellow kiwi. Care to share what you've been reading...?

hey mate, Im in welly but from chch
I said 'reading' i probably meant 'listening' - I like the stag of hotwife kay podcast, some of the strictly anonymous podcast. Ive actually been writing up a capture of my process, so that when ive nailed it (so to speak) I can share with the fellas. Great to connect brother. Do let me know your story.

Exciting development for you, to be sure! I'm not sure if this is advice per se, but with my wife, I have found that the dressing up in public has been an incredible turn-on for us both, and has fed into her increasing interest in finding a boyfriend.

B is 5'10" slender and loves to wear tight leggings and heels when we go out. First it was 3" heels, now 4" and sometimes 5" (which puts her at 6'3"!). I'm 6'1", so part of the excitement is that she is taller than I am on these occasions--and taller than most of the men who ogle her. She loves the attention (on one of her online profiles she describes herself as an "attention whore") and increasingly likes to show herself off in crowded bars on busy evenings. She's also an amazing flirt. On some of these evenings she barely speaks to me as she works the room (as it were). So far she has stopped it at flirting (on one occasion some light making out, right next to me), but we both know (and agree) where this is going....

It's hard to explain the rush this gives us both, but it leads to some incredibly hot sex later (in which she lets me fuck her with a strap-on, usually role-playing that I am one of the strangers who was eyeing her in public).

Have fun--and please report back!

wow! great share. You're clearly a lucky man.
One day my wife bought a VERY tight, very short dress, backless dress and we met at a restaurant and went on to bars.
She got a lot of attention, including from a woman who told her how hot she looked, but we couldnt find a bar with the right group of horny men.
We'll get there. Thanks dude

Any updates (fingers crossed)?