Wife thought i was cheating so I had to rip the bandaid off and tell her

[TheBandersnatch]

It's a funny story in hindsight but at the moment I thought my marriage was over.

Wife found the porn stash (100% cuckold/wife sharing porn) but the folders were categorized by the porn stars' names, and many were OnlyFans/amateur-turned-pro types with paid content, so she was convinced that I was the type to simp for and pay women on the internet, which constitutes infidelity in her eyes.

I had to explain to her that no, I'm into wife sharing so if anything I want you to cheat on me. She asked why I didn't just say so, I said it was embarrassing and I feel a little ashamed of it. Told her that she's the only woman for me and that I get turned on by this kink precisely because she's such a sexy goddess from my perspective

She took it surprisingly well and told me she knows it's one of the most popular genres of porn out there, but told me she probably wouldn't ever do it due to the effort needed (finding thirds, getting them tested, etc). But it seems like she understands it in principle and is okay with it? Hoping she eventually wants to try. Happy ending to a potentially horrible situation

[armyguyot1]

It can be amazing what grows after the seed is planted. She had a pretty positive reception for the news and a lot of times that grows more and more positive until time to try it. If she decides she wants to go with it she will say it's for you but probably not. Plausible deniability if it goes wrong it's still your fault.

[Rip_isback]

Now that you've planted the seed, gently water it regularly.

[TheBandersnatch]

It can be amazing what grows after the seed is planted. She had a pretty positive reception for the news and a lot of times that grows more and more positive until time to try it. If she decides she wants to go with it she will say it's for you but probably not. Plausible deniability if it goes wrong it's still your fault.

Now that you've planted the seed, gently water it regularly.

I'll definitely try to keep watering that seed gently. I've brought up buying a dildo for her before, and I brought it up again shortly after we had our talk, and I explicitly said it would be for roleplay. She said she was fine with it. Any other ideas for how I can keep the idea in her mind without scaring her/turning her off?

Also interestingly enough right after we had our talk and I 'fessed up to her, we had really passionate sex

[Dream Weaver]

It can be amazing what grows after the seed is planted. She had a pretty positive reception for the news and a lot of times that grows more and more positive until time to try it. If she decides she wants to go with it she will say it's for you but probably not. Plausible deniability if it goes wrong it's still your fault.

Now that you've planted the seed, gently water it regularly.

I'll definitely try to keep watering that seed gently. I've brought up buying a dildo for her before, and I brought it up again shortly after we had our talk, and I explicitly said it would be for roleplay. She said she was fine with it. Any other ideas for how I can keep the idea in her mind without scaring her/turning her off?

Also interestingly enough right after we had our talk and I 'fessed up to her, we had really passionate sex

I’m currently in private conversation here with somebody who has given me since great advice that I’m using with my wife. My situation is a little different in that I pressed way too hard even after she did it for me, and it really turned her off. So I’ve spent way too long over a decade trying to fix this and not really getting the progress I want. I don’t even want her to cuck me necessarily. I just want her to be into sex.

My wife isn’t into toys, she’s into my dick. I’m also into my dick. So I jack off way too much to porn and end up only getting hard if she dirty talked me, but she’s not into that, so I’d have a miserable time arousing her and I’ve triggered her way too my times. My sex love bank often runs negative with her.

This guy’s suggestion #1. Stop playing with myself. Just stop it. My goal should be to go into the bedroom aroused, I SHOULD want to cum too fast. I want to give it to her hard once we get to that point. She should almost be frustrated because I’m hard and then cum too fast. But at the same time she should be pleased she does it for me that she arouses me.

And it’s working. I’m not some limp dick getting petty because she won’t cuck dirty talk me. Our sex isn’t unnecessary long. He’s coaching me in some things to say that are unique to my situation but he said something that really stuck with me. Her fantasies are not my fantasies and so I must treat her like I’m dealing with a cat that I want to pet. Carefully. And once we are going at it, my words should be carefully chosen, not overwhelming. I don’t need to tell her everything on my mind.

There is way more to this story that isn’t relevant here, but this hasn’t been a quick fix, we’ve committed to having a better sexual relationship anyways in the last year or two, but my biggest regret was simply being too pushy, and those instructions above help me not to be pushy and surprisingly she’s more receptive, even bringing little things up to help me get off

[Wantsomefunto]

I think maybe you should ask her how she would feel about being at a bar and flirting with a guy while you watch? You can suggest she go into a bar alone, see who hits on her and her cover story is she is waiting for a friend from work. You come in later as that friend and if she is talking to a guy when you arrive, have her text you if she wants you to approach her or just stay at a distance and watch. She can tell the guy that her work friend is running late.

[Mysecret]

It can be amazing what grows after the seed is planted. She had a pretty positive reception for the news and a lot of times that grows more and more positive until time to try it. If she decides she wants to go with it she will say it's for you but probably not. Plausible deniability if it goes wrong it's still your fault.

Now that you've planted the seed, gently water it regularly.

I'll definitely try to keep watering that seed gently. I've brought up buying a dildo for her before, and I brought it up again shortly after we had our talk, and I explicitly said it would be for roleplay. She said she was fine with it. Any other ideas for how I can keep the idea in her mind without scaring her/turning her off?

Also interestingly enough right after we had our talk and I 'fessed up to her, we had really passionate sex

I’m currently in private conversation here with somebody who has given me since great advice that I’m using with my wife. My situation is a little different in that I pressed way too hard even after she did it for me, and it really turned her off. So I’ve spent way too long over a decade trying to fix this and not really getting the progress I want. I don’t even want her to cuck me necessarily. I just want her to be into sex.

My wife isn’t into toys, she’s into my dick. I’m also into my dick. So I jack off way too much to porn and end up only getting hard if she dirty talked me, but she’s not into that, so I’d have a miserable time arousing her and I’ve triggered her way too my times. My sex love bank often runs negative with her.

This guy’s suggestion #1. Stop playing with myself. Just stop it. My goal should be to go into the bedroom aroused, I SHOULD want to cum too fast. I want to give it to her hard once we get to that point. She should almost be frustrated because I’m hard and then cum too fast. But at the same time she should be pleased she does it for me that she arouses me.

And it’s working. I’m not some limp dick getting petty because she won’t cuck dirty talk me. Our sex isn’t unnecessary long. He’s coaching me in some things to say that are unique to my situation but he said something that really stuck with me. Her fantasies are not my fantasies and so I must treat her like I’m dealing with a cat that I want to pet. Carefully. And once we are going at it, my words should be carefully chosen, not overwhelming. I don’t need to tell her everything on my mind.

There is way more to this story that isn’t relevant here, but this hasn’t been a quick fix, we’ve committed to having a better sexual relationship anyways in the last year or two, but my biggest regret was simply being too pushy, and those instructions above help me not to be pushy and surprisingly she’s more receptive, even bringing little things up to help me get off

Wow this is really good advice to go into the bedroom aroused. I always play with myself and tell myself it's ti make sure I last. But reality is, sometimes I am not as into it as I would be if I abstained from jerking

[tiedyeHotwife]

Ask her if she would be open to playing a bit at just being a hot sexy version of herself for you.
Dressing hot, going out, flirting and coming back to you.

Small games.

Assure her that you don't need her to actually fuck anyone if she's not hot for it. Its just play.

More cleavage, sexy heels, red lips -

Tinder profile - flirt and tease.

Reward her for every sexy adventure she gives you, no matter how small.

You will be amazed how far, and how fast it can get going.

[sixpack]

If her only objections to trying are logistical or because of the effort she’d have to expend, that’s terrific. To my mind that means if something organically occurs, she’d consider it.