Has anyone's wife ever brought the topic to them?

[Jonjones1529]

Has anyone's wife ever dropped hints to them? A few weeks back my wife told me she had a dream where she was blowing me while getting fucked by someone else. I was like oh that's hot. She was surprised by my reaction and asked if I'd ever do that in real life. I stupidly laughed it off and said something along the lines of yeah but I think we're too old for that(late 30s).

Thinking back I could've used the opportunity to discuss further.

[BallSpanking]

Tell her the conversation has been lingering in your head, wondering whether that is something she might really enjoy ....

[Dream Weaver]

Has anyone's wife ever dropped hints to them? A few weeks back my wife told me she had a dream where she was blowing me while getting fucked by someone else. I was like oh that's hot. She was surprised by my reaction and asked if I'd ever do that in real life. I stupidly laughed it off and said something along the lines of yeah but I think we're too old for that(late 30s).

Thinking back I could've used the opportunity to discuss further.

Late 30's LOL, Goddamn son, you will be my age one day (53) in a blink of an eye and you will realize how completely wrong you are.

I think you shouldn't have too much trouble bringing it back up. When you are having sex, tell her you keep thinking about what she said about her dream. Be VERY brief. That fact that you are circling back a couple weeks later speaks for itself, that you are interested. Then don't say any more. Let her talk and and you simply be receptive and fuck her even more passionately. She needs to see it turns you on. If she doesn't respond in that moment, be patient. If she's interested, she'll bring it up one way or another. Your dumb ass (I say it with respect) took a couple of weeks. Give her that same space.

She planted the seed with you LOL.

[Jonjones1529]

Late 30's LOL, Goddamn son, you will be my age one day (53) in a blink of an eye and you will realize how completely wrong you are.

True lol I guess I just think it'd be easier when we were younger to find interested parties.

But I'll try the advice and see what happens. I feel like she's been trying to broach the topic more but I''m pretty clueless sometimes.

[sw6]

My ex started us down the path of HWing when she brought up the topic of some guys who would fly in to fuck her, she presumed

It seemed to get a response from me

And she was aware of this site which we started reading

And off to the races as they say

[ucaneffher]

Has anyone's wife ever dropped hints to them? A few weeks back my wife told me she had a dream where she was blowing me while getting fucked by someone else. I was like oh that's hot. She was surprised by my reaction and asked if I'd ever do that in real life. I stupidly laughed it off and said something along the lines of yeah but I think we're too old for that(late 30s).

Thinking back I could've used the opportunity to discuss further.

Wake up one day and tell her that you had a dream. Before you tell her the dream, let her know that you've been thinking so much lately about her dream/conversation that you two had recently that you also had a dream about it. Let her know that after all that thinking and now the dream, you actually don't feel old and would consider it as long as both are okay with it and on the same page.

Theeeeen proceed to tell her your "dream" keep it short and simple. Ideally mention a simple scenario of how you two would get to that point.
Perhaps say that you two went out on a Friday night (whether to dinner, dancing, bar, or pickup carry out to eat at home- which ever matches your lifestyle) and while at the place, she was hit on while you were away (in the bathroom, ordering drinks, on an important phone call-make something up) and one thing led to another and when you came back and saw her with someone she introduced you to the guy and said you were a friend. Be creative but don't be extremely detailed where it's fake sounding or tough to remember later lol

Good luck and keep up posted!

[Tank Turner]

Absolutely.

[Wantsomefunto]

That is great advice ucane gave you, give it a try as soon as you can. Make sure the dream you tell her is all about pleasure for her and not about you.

[mfm4bnc]

Only after I caught her cheating :-P

[bbarnsworth]

When my wife and I were dating, we of course discussed our past relationships, sexual shenanigans, etc. So, I told her about the married woman I had a brief affair with, with her husband's approval. They were both friends to me, the wife of the couple especially. It was a natural fit, and it all went well. My (later) wife didn't like this at all. She felt I'd helped the wife cheat, helped her break her vows. I reasonably told her that no vows were broken; both the husband and wife were on the same page, there was no cheating going on, and everyone was happy about it. She still didn't like it, even if logically she could agree it was on the up and up. She was adamantly against it, and said she would never do such a thing, and if I had any ideas about it to forget it. Ok no worries!

I'd had no intentions of trying to get my wife into swinging or hotwifing. Even in discussing the past, the thoughts in my head did not include 'maybe I can plant the seed' or anything like that. But, plant the seed I did, even though unintentionally.

Fast forward 8 years, we're married, couple of kids, everything's grand, our sex life is great, our marriage strong, our relationship deep. One night we're laying in bed and my wife (who absolutely looooves massages) says, "You know, having four hand massage me would be very nice!" Wait,..WHAT? To shorten the story, eight months later she was in the middle of three men, me included, all of us having great fun and my wife loving every bit of it. One of the other men in particular...she just couldn't get enough sex with him. She ended up playing with him several times, including a couple of times solo, and always came home with a huge smile on her face. Since then she's had sex with quite a number of men and has had two long term (years long) boyfriends.

So, it wasn't really my wife's idea per se in that I inadvertently planted the seed, but it was her that got the ball rolling.

[JaBe]

Sort of. I'd long given her permission if ever the occasion arose but she never bothered until several years later, when she slyly raised the subject to see if I was serious - with an ulterior motive, of course

[rogerg]

My wife was the first to bring up the idea and she kept expanding on the details during pillow talk. She is the one that pushed us into the real thing. During the early stages, I was the less confident one and the one that kept holding us back. Although I loved the fantasy, I just wasn’t willing to take the next step. Finally, she just went ahead and met with a guy.

[zorro]

I just think it'd be easier when we were younger to find interested parties.
But I'll try the advice and see what happens. I feel like she's been trying to broach the topic more but I''m pretty clueless sometimes.

You'd be surprised. 30s and 40s are a wonderful age for fucking others (in fact,so are all the other ages). If she wants to do it, there will be takers. If you try, they will show up.
Enjoy.

[bbarnsworth]

Late 30's LOL, Goddamn son, you will be my age one day (53) in a blink of an eye and you will realize how completely wrong you are.

True lol I guess I just think it'd be easier when we were younger to find interested parties.

But I'll try the advice and see what happens. I feel like she's been trying to broach the topic more but I''m pretty clueless sometimes.

I go with Dream Weaver here.

Late 30s is a perfect time. If your wife and you both want to go down this path, trust me...TRUST me...you will find a LOT of willing men who will want to fuck her. The issue is rarely one of trying to find guys. That's the easy part, almost regardless of age. The harder part is finding one that clicks with her (and you are ok with). In many ways, it's like vanilla dating.

Thought experiment; if your wife were single for some reason, would she never date again because she's 'too old'? Of course not. Neither is she too old to find some additional to bring into her sexual life. In fact, I'd bet that most women that get into hotwifing trend older than 20 somethings.